BPD/adult child of an alcoholic
Posted 31 October 2012 - 02:52 PM
I'm just sort of confused. Any explanations would be appreciated .
"But nobody ever sees how far the things we shouldn't feel can take us. I just want to walk along the shore for an hour, watch the waves rearranging whatever they can. I like the way the sea encourages me to think about the past, as if I could leave it where it is: the moon on the water, the stars that gleam and are gone."
Posted 31 October 2012 - 05:30 PM
Marsha Linehans theory is that a combination of innate biological sensitivity in the brain to stress, along with a childhood where the sufferer was invalidated/neglected/abused/traumatized can combine to make a child adapt coping skills to survive. Over time and as that child grows up, the coping methods fail to work or have other consequences. It is these behaviors, not your personality or core self, which make up BPD, which is great because therapy can help you get new and healther skills.
People with BPD can be very perceptive, sensitve, creative, kind and brave. We do what we do to get by because we were never given the tools everyone else got given. We can and do recover.
“I am naïve and I have fucked up but I tell you something else. I believe in change. I don't mind getting my hands dirty because my hands are dirty already. I don't mind giving my life to this because I'm only alive because of the compassion and love of others.” Russell Brand.
"She said to go ahead and feel the feelings. I did. They felt like shit." Anne Lammot.
"you are not too old/and it is not too late/to dive into your increasing depths/where life calmly gives out/it's own secret" Rilke
"You," he said, "are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain." Emilie Autumn - The Asylum For WayWard Victorian Girls.