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#1 Confetti

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Posted 01 January 2013 - 06:49 PM

Not that much anyway.

 

I tend to usually get along with everybody pretty well....but it's like....i can only do people in small doses.

 

We had company over...my parents did...and i thought they would only be here for like Friday and Saturday or something like that.

 

No...they've been here since Friday, when i walked in the door from work off the bus, totally unexpected...although my mom says she told me they were coming but i don't remember that. And they JUST left like....6 minutes ago!

 

And they were the type of company that always have something to say or suggest when you walk past them. Or when they talk to you, they ask you a bunch of questions and stare you down at the same time....OMG i hate that!!!!! So for today and yesterday, i just stayed locked up in my room. My Bipolar is already acting up and i have been very VERY paranoid and VERY VERY irritable....i'm usually pretty polite but lately i have just been....itchy in the brain.

 

I just always want people to go away! I like people, but some don't know how to just....stop. I have always thought of myself as a people person despite being on the shy side...but...the older i get, the less i want to socialize. Is that bad?

 

Unless i'm manic and then i love everybody and i'm "famous", that's when i am the social butterfly.




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Posted 01 January 2013 - 07:04 PM

I hear ya.  I am finding that I hate most everyone.  It seems no one has any redeeming values, including myself.  Socializing drains me and I'm sick and tired of pretending that I even care.  I have even given up on returning messages.  My self imposed prison is a lot more comfortable than having people invade my space.


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Posted 01 January 2013 - 07:52 PM

I have been feeling like staying in my room for weeks Scatty....i have to say tho...i LOVE...absolutely LOVE your FlapJack avi!

 

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Posted 01 January 2013 - 08:06 PM

Haha.  Maybe we could live in a cartoon world of candy!


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Posted 01 January 2013 - 08:33 PM

My tolerance of people waxes and wanes, but even when I do feel sociable, I have a limit and then it's too much for me. When I'm particularly batshit, I have no emotional energy to be around people, unless they want to experience my batshit in full force, so in those moments I tend to hide away.



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Posted 01 January 2013 - 08:46 PM

Haha.  Maybe we could live in a cartoon world of candy!

 

Lol! I'd LOVE that!!

 

My tolerance of people waxes and wanes, but even when I do feel sociable, I have a limit and then it's too much for me. When I'm particularly batshit, I have no emotional energy to be around people, unless they want to experience my batshit in full force, so in those moments I tend to hide away.

 

 

Thats exactly how i feel. I usually am a hugger,especially when ppl leaave...but i didnt even want to hug them goodbye. I just don't wanna be physically bothered by people.



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Posted 01 January 2013 - 09:05 PM

My tolerance of people waxes and wanes, but even when I do feel sociable, I have a limit and then it's too much for me. When I'm particularly batshit, I have no emotional energy to be around people, unless they want to experience my batshit in full force, so in those moments I tend to hide away.

 

Amen to that. Even when I'm at my most sociable, I need hours a day by myself. Doing what? you might fairly ask. The answer is really just about anything except being around other people. It's not like I'm lying in bed, lamenting my fate. I'm up, I'm active, I'm doing things...alone.


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#8 melissaw72

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Posted 02 January 2013 - 04:36 AM

I can only deal with people at my convenience.  If I see people unexpectedly or stop by to say hi, or I am out in public, I stress out and that stress does not go right away.  It is hard to deal with without a little xanax for me or something to calm me down.


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#9 AD88AM

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Posted 03 January 2013 - 01:52 PM

I get very anxious and irritated around most people, even family... I'm quite a recluse so I have to listen to my neighbours gossip all the time as well, and that does wonders to my brain (joke)... it always seems like they're running me down, and I know I'm not important, but it seems so real. I'd like to think my paranoid brain just distorts what they're saying. I also hate how everyone looks when I actually do go out to pdoc appointments or whatever... my irritability stems from childhood, being pushed out and made to feel stupid. Nevermind, maybe we're more human...


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Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:01 PM

I like too be able to stare off into space whenever it strikes my fancy. People make that hard. For real though people exhaust me. Its like no matter how close I am too someone I have be fake in one way or another and it drains me. For every one day I spend with people I have too spend three days alone.
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#11 melissaw72

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Posted 10 January 2013 - 09:56 PM

 For every one day I spend with people I have too spend three days alone.

 

Me too ... I need to re-group after a full day of being with, talking to, etc, with anyone.  If I take a good solid nap in between, I *might* be ok, but it's rare that I wouldn't need the next few days to myself.


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#12 Mim

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Posted 07 February 2013 - 09:55 PM

Is it bad to need a lot of time alone, or to go through periods of being unable to tolerate people? No, I don't think so. Some people are just less social than others. Sometimes being in a room where people are talking, not even necessarily to me, makes me on edge just listening to their voices. Most social situations make me feel on-edge and stressed. I need time alone to decompress and get evened out again, even after a trip to a busy store or whatever.

I don't think you're weird at all. Maybe now would be a good time for some quiet hobbies you can do yourself, like walking or painting or any old thing.

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#13 Brokendishes

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Posted 16 February 2013 - 05:11 PM

I hear ya.  I am finding that I hate most everyone.  It seems no one has any redeeming values, including myself.  Socializing drains me and I'm sick and tired of pretending that I even care.  I have even given up on returning messages.  My self imposed prison is a lot more comfortable than having people invade my space.


Wow i coulnt possibly have said it better!!! Ive gotten to the point where i really dont care! I dont want to pretend with my step kids...i know they would love for me to be gone so they can control daddy 100 percent...i dont care about my boss or his stress...if your 2 year old bmw is your big stress you need to not be around me cuz thats irritating!lol And my husband doesnt give 2 shits whether im happy, sad, or been set on fire--just as long as he can go watch them play hockey the whole frikkin world can vaporize for all he cares....So why should i pretend to care when he very obviously doesnt...just a waste of my time...

I think having these mental health issues has made me more keenly aware of the bullshit that is our world and how fake and meaningless it is...So im like, why waste time pretending too? Call out the bullshit I say!lol

#14 PoorPebbles

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Posted 26 May 2013 - 08:01 PM

Hi, we think a lot alike when it comes to...people. I don't like being around people--esp. people I don't know. It's like I don't want them to get to know me because then they will probably judge me and that hurts me very deeply. I'm on government assistance because there's no way in hell I can work with my illnesses (but that's the problem--no one can SEE my illnesses so I get judged because i'm not working and I LOOK normal so they think i'm lazy or something and I should have a job.

I avoid people too, esp. when I lived at home and my parents would have company, I would also either hide in my room or go hide downstairs. I just feel so anti-social and yes, it's seems to be worse as I'm getting older too. When people ask me questions about myself, I feel like saying, "Mind your own business and shut the fuck up!" and I know that's really mean and i'm not mean, but I can't stand being around people most of the time.

Every shrink I go to wants to shove me into a therapy group...every time I tried, it turned out horrible. I wish I could see someone one on one to talk to but I can't afford it....

It sucks to be anti-social...at least you're social sometimes (during your manic phase) I have major depressive disorder--i'm never social.
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#15 InsaneInTheMembrane

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Posted 21 June 2013 - 04:34 PM

Yep. socializing is incredibly draining...some people more than others. Especially family lol

I think however that I like people? not all but some...it's more how I feel around people that I hate. Everything in moderation right..







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