okay, here's a fear of mine. are we gonna be unable to adopt because of our mental illnesses?
is adoption an option for us?
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JadeMultiple
, Jan 27 2013 11:01 PM
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JadeMultiple
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Posted 27 January 2013 - 11:01 PM
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Posted 28 January 2013 - 01:05 AM
There are some diagnoses, I believe but do not know, which already may prevent one from being approved by an adoption agency.
Which mental illness?
And, is this GLBT specific in some way? Because if not, I'm thinking of moving it perhaps to parents/parenting, as being more likely to garner on-topic answers there.
Which mental illness?
And, is this GLBT specific in some way? Because if not, I'm thinking of moving it perhaps to parents/parenting, as being more likely to garner on-topic answers there.
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Posted 28 January 2013 - 08:00 AM
I haven't done any research (I don't want kids, I fear that it would just end terribly for all concerned) but given that half the world doesn't even accept DID as a diagnosis I can't imagine that it is very high on the "cannot be responsible for others" list. Every system that I know of that went the parenting route is doing a really good job of it, so presumably it's okay? But I'd say if you're serious about it do your research. I don't know about GAD and social phobia though.
Also, Miron made a good point about this being in the parenting forum. If you want to add how it's a LGBTQ issue that would be a good idea, since we don't know the rules around that in your country anyway.
Edited by WinterRosie, 28 January 2013 - 08:01 AM.
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Posted 29 January 2013 - 12:20 PM
I think more than the question of whether you can adopt you should first ask the question if you should adopt. I make no judgment either way but I think you should seriously think about it. I know plenty of MI people who have chosen not to have children or adopt because they do not feel stable enough. The idea is that if you can't control yourself emotionally or physically, how can you care for children? I had children before I was diagnosed and I don't regret it. But if I didn't have DH to help me on my bad days I really don't know what I would do. There are literally days when I cannot and should not care for children.
On the flip side, I know MI folks who do have children and can handle it. Ultimately, the responsibility lies with you. Out of curiosity, do you have any alters that could pose a risk to a child? Or do you have child alters that are not capable of caring for a child? Things to consider.
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Posted 29 January 2013 - 12:24 PM
Okay, I am moving this into the Parenting forum. Even if it does veer into GLBQT territory, I'm still going to consider it a parenting topic.
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(Because sometimes there is confusion.)
Ze/zan/zis/zanself. Yep. It fits with the special snowflake theme, hush. Used like he/him/his/himself, respectively. Which, by the way, you can use instead if that's easier. Gendered titles and terminology are either neutral, or "masculine."
The More You Know:
I am just a crazy flamboyant spahkelly unicorn on the Intertubes. Absolutely nothing I say should be construed as medical advice - that is what your doctors are for. I am a moderator, but I am also another crazy just like the rest of you, user first and moderator second. Thank you for extending the same consideration to me as you do to other users on this site. <3
