Ok, so I found an old college friend of mine on the internet recently. We've been emailing back and forth for about a month and a half catching up. I shared some personal stuff about my difficult past problems with drugs, alcohol, and professional fuck-ups. I shared them just because that is who I am. I want others to learn from my past mistakes. If I can help even one person avoid the kinds of damage I did then I will have made a difference.
Out of the blue I get this email from him basically asking me where we are going with this friendship. Apparently, he wants to know right the fuck now if we are going to be close friends cuz if not he doesn't want to put in the effort. WTF? I have no idea what kind of friendship we are forging, if at all. I let these things grow organically. If it turns into a long-standing friendship then great. If not, that happens too. I have had enough people come and go in my life that I don't really get all bent about it.
So how the hell am I supposed to respond to this? I certainly don't have the energy to put into someone who is overly needy. I don't need more drama in my life. But at the same token I don't want to hurt his feelings.
I just feel like he's being awfully pushy with this. I doubt he has ulterior motives because we're both happily married, with children, and live 600 miles apart. So I don't think that is what's on his mind. But still -- a little creepy, no?