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  1. Relapsed After 12 Years...

    sounds like you had a rough hospital stay, compounded by a bad phone call, and ended up using very old coping mechanisms that you've not needed for a long time. no shame in that -- you went through stress and handled it in a way that was familiar. doesn't ruin your progress at all. think of it as tripping while walking on a long path. just because you fell down doesn't discount how far you've walked. sending healing vibes your way. keep walking, gaba, we're rooting for you.
  2. welcome! i think you'll find a lot of people here can relate to the feelings you're having. please make a thread if there's anything you need advice on or want to talk about. there are plenty of wise and experienced minds here. :-)
  3. How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    good! was gloomy earlier this morning, but i managed to mindfulness my way out of it. a semi-romantic relationship officially became a friendship. i saw it coming. it's kind of freeing that it's over, actually, but still required a bit of moping. we're still very good friends. @Fluent In Silence glad to hear you're doing alright! i sympathize on the phone calls. they used to be impossible for me, but yesterday i had to call some insurance bodies to settle an ER charge where i needed stitches from a workplace accident (provincial health insurance doesn't cover workplace accidents, and you need to let a different insurance body representing workers know so they can pay it instead). long phone calls and lots of answering questions, but i did fine! cheers to us and fuck phone calls!
  4. Does your therapist take notes?

    my therapist didn't take notes. she had a pretty good memory, but we'd spend the first few minutes of each session rehashing the last session (ie me reminding her what we talked about). it seemed organic to me. my psych does take notes, like yours did. i understand it in that sense, as it's important for diagnostic purposes to identify themes and symptoms. i don't really mind it, but it sort of makes me feel like a box of symptoms sometimes. he's quite personable, though, which helps a lot. is it just that it's different that's giving you pause, or are you not sure if you like as your therapist as a whole? hopefully her awareness of her poor memory means you'll get good quality therapy, but not necessarily. if her manner isn't good, i can see how you would feel forgettable.
  5. very true, thank you for your addition. while writing it, i was meaning that a child won't starve themselves barring any eating disorders, but i didn't clarify. will be more careful next time. someone in my immediate family had an eating disorder. it's tough. best wishes to you and your son.
  6. this is a pretty good article about children not eating: https://healthcare.utah.edu/the-scope/shows.php?shows=0_xs2o10ra generally, it says that appetite naturally slows down between the ages of 1-5, and to trust your child. as long as he's in an environment where you offer food regularly (ie mealtimes) he'll eat when he's hungry. kids know their body signals. he's not going to start starving to death. agreeing with rabbit. stop the hand feeding cold. talk to your family and be firm that it's ending now. also, the punishing isn't going to go anywhere. he's not doing anything wrong by refusing food when he's not hungry, and likely doesn't understand why he's being punished or ignored. you need to let him know it's okay if he doesn't want to eat, and there's food available when he wants to. if he wants attention, give it to him in healthier ways than food struggle. spend time with him, read a book together or something. quit the praise for eating and the hullabaloo about not eating. eating is a normal, daily thing that shouldn't be this massive battle. if he eats, he eats. if he doesn't, maybe he'll eat next meal. if you're concerned about his health, see your doctor.
  7. Um...yeah so hi um....

    we don't bite! hope you feel at home here. :-)
  8. Hi

    welcome! sounds like you'll fit right in. ;-)
  9. casual jokes about your MI

    really interesting responses here, thanks everyone for chiming in! i've been out of town for a few days, i just saw all this response now. @Cerberus you make a great point. lots of jokes that would offend me from a stranger are enjoyable coming from a friend. it all depends on knowing that the person making the comment is sympathetic to your illness and comfortable talking about it not only seriously but casually as well. in addition, i think a major part of these jokes landing well is that the person has lots of experience with either personal mental illness OR with me and how i am. the friend who said "your OCD is showing" has known me for many years and was a big support while i was learning about my diagnosis. @coraline @WinterRosie clearly, understanding of your personal MI beyond what the average, uneducated person knows is key here. DID and SZA/SZ have not seen the relative increase in public understanding that say, depression and anxiety (and to a lesser degree OCD and bipolar) have been seeing. without familiarity with the topic, the person making a joke can't see the insult in their words. i understand your reserves. @RhenahChrist i hate that wide-eyed "what do i say" look. i tend to crack jokes at my expense in that situation too because the only other option is to roll my eyes. @WytchyWoman MI is a touchy subject in the workplace. i have marks on my arm from SH and compulsive picking. i say they're burns (i work in a bakery, so it's reasonable) when people ask. i'm well-regarded there and fairly good friends with my boss, but i refuse to disclose my MI until absolutely necessary. i don't want people's perception of me to change. it's not easy to keep it under wraps, but it's amazing how symptomatic you can be around non-mentally-ill people before they think there's actually something wrong beyond "oh, that's just wytch." @Iceberg i think good-natured cracks at my MI help humanize it. i'm mentally ill. it sucks a lot of the time, but i exist beyond it. sometimes it's consuming, sometimes it presents as an irritating quirk i have to deal with. sometimes i'm very unwell and sometimes i need a lot of help, but i still see it as a pain in my ass and bitching/joking about it makes it a bit more bearable, and reminds my friends (and me!) that there's still a person under all that illness. humour is inseparable from coping to me. @jt07 hmm, i think i have a copy of Hannibal Lector's Best 30-Minute Weekday Dinners that i could lend you... ;-)
  10. How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    neutral? i feel a bit blank. sort of hungry. i don't think i'm very in touch with my feelings. i ran out of risperidone and can't refill until tomorrow, when the pharmacy is open. i completely forgot until i ran out. typical!! cross your fingers for me that the withdrawal is mild.
  11. What are you listening to right now?

    good old elton. i've got my bearded dragon on my shoulder and my cat next to me. calm morning. :-)
  12. Am I abusive?

    i'm OCD spectrum and this sounds a lot like what i do. i worry when i hold sharps that i'm going to mess up somehow and cut myself, and have to keep very close focus to what i'm doing (mentally retracing and explaining every step in my mind) to make sure i haven't cut myself. i also worry that i've done something to my friends to make them hate me and retrace hangouts to look for offensive things i've said or done. when it gets bad i have to ask if they hate me because i can't convince myself they don't. talk to your pdoc/tdoc. this sounds like a rumination/fear that can be managed with therapy techniques/medication.
  13. casual jokes about your MI

    how do you feel about friends making jokes concerning your MI? i was cracking walnuts with a couple close friends, which entails two jobs: one person cracks, one person fishes the flesh out with a little hook (which can be quite nitpicky). they went for cracking, and i went for cleaning out the flesh. we were talking about the perks of each job and i said i liked the fiddly nature of my task. my friend said, "your OCD is showing." we all laughed. i like jokes like this. it's a reminder that my friends are cognizant of my MI (which is far better than them pretending it doesn't exist) and accept it as a part of who i am. also, yeah, it influences the things i do in ways that are kind of humorous sometimes. it seems like a way to make light of the reality that is MI. it's also worth noting that these friends have supported me in various MI related crises, so they are supportive both casually and in crisis. idk! do you think those jokes make fun of a serious issue, or do you think they lighten the mood and encourage conversation about MI?