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  1. what the others said, read as much about autism as possible and check out the #actuallyAutistic community online who are wonderful wonderful people. And check out Amythest Shaber she is the best :) https://www.youtube.com/user/neurowonderful
  2. my job lets me work part time and my hours are somewhat flexible, I can only do jobs like this nowadays
  3. My ideas: Find a balance between what you love and what is practical for you to do. E.g. working as a private language tutor is a low stress job where you decide your own hours and work as many or as few hours a week as you like. Working as a counselor is potentially a high stress job but again you decide your own hours. What about something with seasonal work? If it is learning for the sheer love of learning, does it have to be a masters? What about all the free courses online? What about all the affordable ones? If it is about prestige, spend that money on a rolex instead But I don't know, I think this is definitely the sort of thing where it's ok to follow your heart, assuming the financial burden is something you can handle
  4. Does your therapist take notes?

    I would have to take notes if I wanted to listen to someone talking about something really important, my working memory is very poor. I would write down details that seemed important, so I could go back to them later without interrupting you. Like if you were talking about the grief of losing a pet, and you mentioned in passing losing your grandfather as a child, I would not want to forget to ask you about your grandfather later, but I wouldn't want to interrupt you talking about the grief of losing your pet, and I wouldn't be able to hold it in my working memory and listen to you at the same time. I often feel like I need a notepad even with my friends! On the other hand, my declarative memory is fine, so I would remember what we talked about the next time we met... assuming of course I wasn't meeting 6 people a day! Legally you are allowed to look at the notes if you really want to. People can't keep data about you secret from you, even something like this. It sounds like this person wasn't a good fit and I wish you better luck with the next one
  5. My mom died.

    Ah! I'm so glad I went back and re-read it then! I have to be more careful. Totally my fault. *Hugs or warm handshakes, whichever you prefer*
  6. My mom died.

    Sorry if that seemed snarky, it was meant to be funny
  7. My mom died.

    Oh sorry, I got a notification for this thread which I thought was a new notification, I must have accidentally clicked on an old one. Since February this has changed and now people stop loving their loving parents and bonds are easily broken. I apologize for posting out of date information.
  8. My mom died.

    All you can do is keep her with you. You will think of her often, and you'll never stop loving her. Bonds do not break with death.
  9. There was a sign in my school that said something like "Aim for the moon, if you fail you'll land in the stars" I think this is so true. The lady who waxes my legs sometimes owns her own business doing eyebrows, nails, all that stuff. She's really successful and making a great living, and she likes her job because she can chat to all kinds of people. You know what she studied originally? Medicine! Do you think that was a waste of time? No way, what if I go in with a weird mole on my leg? What if I have an ingrown hair? Someone else would miss these things. Who in my city do you think is the best at keeping her beauty instruments sterile? And of course she sailed through the anatomy and physiology segment of beauty college. You are young so this might actually not sound that great to you, but believe me, being happy and being in good company and being financially secure and knowing that you are great at what you do is far more important than having a high status job that might not have turned out to be all you thought it would be. She landed in the stars. It might take a while, but you will too (or you might land on the moon... actually this doesn’t make a lot of sense astronomically but it's a great metaphor) Hey check out memrise for mandarin, it's very cool. https://www.memrise.com/courses/english/chinese/
  10. I can read but not write or spell too well. This has gotten a lot better with time. I still can't do handwriting. I was diagnosed with dyslexia as a kid. apparently that isn't a symptom of dyslexia, I don't know if this is true. The front of my eye covery thingy is flat, which causes letters to connect to each other and look like other letters sometimes.. an optician can sort that out if it's that. Maybe I'm wrong and it can be part of dyslexia.
  11. I usually have 5 or 6 books on the go at a time, read a page or two of one, swap to another. This is with non-fiction, normally I just have one fiction. Before goodreads I found it really hard to finish a book, but now I like adding them to the list, I get a real kick out of it, so I can finish books I interrupt people and finish their sentences and can't stop myself jumping in to other people's conversations sometimes when they are interesting or WRONG about something.. like the lady who I heard utter the words "It's the smart version of Autisim" ... WHAT My moods tend to change at the drop of a hat.. very low emotional inertia you could say. They also tend to be really extreme, according to my BF.. I thought this was normal, he said he never saw anyone cry like me in his life and he's nearly 40. I cry like actresses on TV cry when they find out their children are gone. I can be really irritable Every flatmate I ever had had to sit me down and talk to me about leaving the oven on or the hobs on or the gas on. It never did any good. I can have an irritated tone of voice because it seems urgent to get the information out quickly, and I upset people I often zone out while people are speaking, even when I am interested or it's important or both I sometimes lose my train of thought in the middle of a sentence I leave my keys in the front door for anyone to just walk in I leave the back door wide open I boil the kettle to do the wash up, start doing the washing up.. start doing something else.. water is cold by the time I get back to the wash up, if i get back to it I tend to half do a household chore and then this feeling starts, I call it the buzzing, I get it when I write as well (I've dyxlexia) it's like a restless feeling but i know restlessness it's not restlessness.. I feel like if I keep doing it my head will start bleeding so I move onto another one... I tell myself Ill do the other half the next day but I never do usually My autopilot is unreliable and will do strange things or break down completely if interrupted I can NOT concentrate on the road when I'm cycling (this is why I refuse to learn to drive a one tonne weapon of mass destruction called a "car") I won't watch a movie in one sitting unless I have to. I am completely addicted to my phone and can not seem to control this, furthermore I knew it would happen so I waited ages before getting a smart phone. If I listen to audiobooks or online talks etc. I need them to be sped up or I can't concentrate Yeah I get depressed and have had delusions during depression in the past I can't tell what order things happened in when I remember them, I have trouble gageing how much time has passed I have almost no working memory so I am bad at tasks that require that. So for example in school I was ok at algebra and linear programming because you could see it so you didn't have to hold anything in working memory, I could do maths where every step was pretty stand alone and didn't require you to remember anything about the previous step, but once it did, I was lost. This meant I couldn't do certain things that were supposed to be "easy" and I could do certain things that were supposed to be "hard" I always score really low in IQ tests because I'm 1/3 of the way through when time is up, like so low that if that was my actual intelligence I couldn't live on my own. If I am concentrating on something and someone interrupts me I feel really disconcerted and sometimes really angry, like it's star trek and I just got teleported to an alien ship against my will with no warning. I haven't got a dx because my country is really backwards in terms of that, I'm an adult but they want to interview my parents and see all my old school reports from 25 years ago.
  12. I love that about "putting something in the oven" .. you know... like car keys. I often laugh when I hear the "Early warning signs for Alzheimers" because have have them my entire life. No disrespect to anyone who has that, I imagine it's terrifying when it suddenly starts happening, I am laughing at myself and laughing at.. gee wiz how will anyone ever notice if I get dementia. Cultivate habits. If you are like me you have an incredibly unreliable autopilot, it takes over at the worst possible time and then refuses to work when you need it, or just doesn't do what it's been trained to do (car keys in the fridge), but habits can still help. Just don't be hard on yourself when the autopilot malfunctions. I like to set my watch to beep every hour because I have no sense of the passage of time. And try not to hoard, because if you are like me you'll find it hard to come back to things or "get round to doing things eventually". And don't expect anyone in your life to believe ADHD exists
  13. Incels are Garbage.

    They are people who desperately need therapy. They think being single means you either have to hate yourself or hate the opposite sex. Neither of those things are true. There already have been headlines Cerberus, incels have a habit of going out and murdering women. Misogyny in general is the only thing almost all mass murderers have in common. Religion, political views, social status, mental illness, intelligence, these things do not correlate with murder or mass murder. Misogyny does.
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