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  1. My mom died.

    I'm so sorry. She knew you loved her, which is what you would have said to her when you said goodbye, right? Well she knew. That's what's important.
  2. Is it ok to hate your dad?

    I think what matters is how you act on feelings. Not the feelings themselves. You're religious, so I'll put this in religious terms. Jesus loved and forgave the people that crucified him, that's swell, but if he loved and forgave them and sent them to hell, what would it be worth? It's not important that Jesus loved everyone, what's important is that he acted on that love. He always treated everyone with love, no matter what. Who knows if he felt rage or hate? After all, he was treated really really badly. What we know is that he didn't show it or act on it. Your father is the one who wasn't acting with love, not you. He must feel love for you, but that love is utterly worthless because he doesn't act on it. You on the other hand might feel hatred for him, but you act with respect, so you are the loving one.
  3. I was stable for about 4 months a few years ago I am stable right now! Since the day before yesterday. The external thing that was causing all my existential angst completely evaporated. Hopefully this will last longer than 4 months. I've been relatively stable for a good while though, I don't think I've had delusions in ages, though about 6 months ago I did feel them starting, I felt the lines between reality and not reality starting to blur, but they settled down again. Then a few months ago I got irrationally paranoid about BF cheating on me for a few weeks, but that settled down again too. Nothing started it or finished it, it just appeared out of the smog and disappeared again. Edit: I should say, I don't have BP, or at least, I haven't got a BP dx. I posted because this popped up on the sidebar and I didn't realize the forum.
  4. i swore at a woman on the coach...

    Maybe she was incontinent and desperate to get to the restroom. I don't think it's so bad to tell people off, as long as you don't do it in a way that makes them feel afraid. They should either feel sorry or embarrassed or annoyed, but they don't deserve to be made feel afraid. I always invent excuses for people who act like pricks, like the one you saw there, that she was incontinent. I know I sometimes act like a prick when I'm having a shitty day. I think telling myself that story makes me feel better and happier than if I tell myself the story that she is a self-entitled bovine shrew.
  5. Thanks guys! I've bought a few of these based on your recommendations and looking forward to cracking them open after exam season Love this thread, can't believe it's 2 years old o.O.
  6. In my country, a certain EU one, they do in all public universities and in very few private ones. If it isn't available where you live, have a look see if you can find reduced rate or free sessions with people in their final year of studying counselling, or people who have already qualified the academic part of their counselling course but need to get a lot of experience before they become officially accredited. I hope this helps
  7. whatever the weather

    After seeing all the hurricanes on TV I thought I would never complain about the rain again.. but it was still a pain this morning, I'm a spoilt brat. It is so so cold here, and they won't put the heating on in work, I wore two pairs of trousers today and a vest and tshirt and 2 cardigans.. it is surreal to think that it could be warm anywhere on earth when I am so COLD
  8. How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    Inspired. i wanna breathe love and happiness at all you guys like a dragon of joy... but I can't
  9. Today was a Blessing

    "I will guard this happiness like a new born baby" Oh I know the feeling! I wish I could bottle it and keep it for when I am sad.
  10. How do I stop eating toilet paper?

    I think this is a common enough sort of pica it deserves to be its own thing, like sugar addiction. I don't swallow it usually, but still chewing on it is really unhealthy, I always have a sore throat and I bet it's from the bleach. Oh I googled it it IS it's own thing: xylophagia That sounds COOL. Maybe I won't stop. Jokes jokes I've tried buying the scented stuff because it tastes awful.. but after a while I just get used to the taste. The problem is I'm not really aware that I'm doing it. I just suddenly realise it's in my mouth and has been for a while, and I spit it out. Has anyone beaten something similar? How did you do it? Any ideas? I'm not that worried, except it's costing a lot in toilet paper, and I'm scared the bleach will give me throat cancer. What are you doing here!? I said piCa! Not pika! Get out!
  11. well this is slightly off topic but i promise that once your pallet gets used to eating the non-fancy food you will enjoy it just as much as the fancy food. So that's one thing I can torpedo for you right there.
  12. A friend of mine was depressed and went to a life-coach. The life coach listened to him and then recommended breaking up with his boyfriend and quitting his job. He was vulnerable and upset and blaming his situation for his depression, so he did what was advised. Needless to say he didn't manage to get his boyfriend or job back, he is now unemployed and alone and begging to be forgiven. What kind of advice was that? I have never heard of a therapist telling you to get out of a non-abusive relationship. That is a personal decision. Life-coaches are randomers, they might have good social skills, but if you tell them you are sad because the government are chasing you they are going to be like "shit! Better get a tinfoil hat!" They don't have a well thought out code of ethics based on the mistakes made by professionals over the past hundred years. How is someone with no training going to deal with transference? How is someone with no training going to recognise when you are in danger? How is someone going to differentiate between your depression talking and your self talking. Life coaches should be like like professional friends, neutral, listen without judging. I think they might actually be a good idea, if they weren't , by definition, all deluded into thinking they were some kind of authority on the lives of others. Best of luck, whatever you decide!
  13. Questions Thread

    Tupac is fine. Am I interested in him.. Well if I had a choice between a well made hour long documentary about his life or spending an hour listening to his music I'd pick his music, so I guess I'm not interested in the life and times of him. Have you ever been in a hot air baloon?
  14. The person below me...

    False The person below me uses a phone with a cracked screen.
  15. How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    Vaguely amused at how incredibly immoral the video game BF is playing is. Random mayhem is all well and good but this game teaches people that torture of possibly innocent people is okay in the name of the greater good, that might be something worth discussing.. but they just present it as fact, as if every reasonable person in the world agrees. Generally I feel like crap but not in this moment. That's what matters. Gotta be more like.. which philosopher was that... Seneca?