Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0

Girls: Have you ever had sex for money?

Sex for money   73 votes

  1. 1. Girls: Have you ever been paid for having sex?

    • Yes
      15
    • No
      15
    • Would consider it if the chance arose
      9
    • Would consider it if I was desparate for cash
      13
    • Would never do it even if I was desparate for cash
      21

Please sign in or register to vote in this poll.

37 posts in this topic

Posted · Report post

Girls confessional. Have you ever had sex in exchange for money? If so, why did you do it? Would you do it again?

If no, would you do it if the chance arose, and why?

Do you think it is wrong?

A question and poll for the girls only !

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

What an interesting topic! I have been thinking about this kind of thing all week. From my journal (just to stimulate further conversation):

Husband and I had interesting conversation while driving home this evening about prostitutes. We have to drive past a well-known brothel on the way from his parents' house and it always makes me think about their working conditions.

I have a very eighteenth century Pamela/ Fanny Hill type idea of brothels and prostitution. It's all very obscure and bohemian, corsets and fans, in my head. Which means that I actually have no idea how much a prostitute makes, and no idea if there is a difference between what one would make on the street and what one would make in a brothel. I have strangely human concerns and sympathy for them, and I worry about - wonder about (?) - what kind of abuse they endure, or their working conditions. How can they stay safe when there are so many weirdos around?

My interest extends much further than this - though I can't say I have ever had any strong desire to prostitute myself - it just facinates me is all. I like the idea of a companion like Inara in Firefly. She's elegant, classy and in control. She selects her clients and runs her own space and as such is well-respected in her profession. The idea of prostitution being considered a well-respected avenue rather than a base one appeals to me as it presents itself as a somewhat challenging role to fulfill. It just seems to me like they need to be given some kind of credit, or stature.

I hate how base and icky prostitution is in places like Amsterdam. The red-light-district there shocked and appalled me. Sure, the girls are given working conditions above street-walking but at what cost? They stand in a storefront window waiting to be selected. Then, they go into the room behind, business occurs, then are back in the window waiting for the next customer. Their humanity seems to have been diminished to little more than scraps.

Such is the issue for prostitutes world-wide. I even remember hearing about someone murdering prostitutes while we were in Edmonton.

So much danger for so many women. So much abuse and such a negative , debased, perspective. I can't say I really condone prostitution but I can't say I condemn it either. It feels sad to watch them walk the streets and to try to imagine what kind of life they lead. Do they have children? Have they been treated well or poorly? What will the night hold for them? Where do they live? Driving past that red light, looking out into darkened streets for their lank wandering figures along the highway, I can't help but consider them as women, people, once-children.

Bern

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

yes. it was called being married. ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

i can't see how it could be wrong... if you have a talent or a service to offer that someone is willing to pay for, why is that a problem? i've always felt rather safe knowing that if i couldn't get a job, i could have sex for money.

i'm still not sure why people make such a big deal out of sex in this country. they should have the girls tested monthly, trained, and set up so that it is safe for them. they used to have great courtesan houses here (in america, especially the west before it was all civilized like and settled) during the victorian era... what happened??

abi

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

i can't see how it could be wrong... if you have a talent or a service to offer that someone is willing to pay for, why is that a problem? i've always felt rather safe knowing that if i couldn't get a job, i could have sex for money.
I don't see anything wrong with prostitution either. There is a reason why it's the world's oldest profession, eh? And really how is it different to just be upfront about the money VS. fucking someone to get what you want? It's just semantics in my opinion.

i'm still not sure why people make such a big deal out of sex in this country. they should have the girls tested monthly, trained, and set up so that it is safe for them. they used to have great courtesan houses here (in america, especially the west before it was all civilized like and settled) during the victorian era... what happened??

At some point it was decided that violence was preferable to sexuality. Look at our movies. It's hard as hell to see anything sexual in the movies now without it being rated MA. However it's perfectly fine to show people murdering others and just get an R rating. I'm old enough to remember a large number of movies from the 80's. Like Friday the 13th, etc. where it was common to see boobs or sex along with the violence. You won't see things like that nowadays.

Sex is natural and normal, yet in the US we've turned it into something perverse and something to be ashamed of. Considering that this country was founded by the Puritans is it any surprise? C'mon, they were so uptight the english kicked them out. - Eddie Izzard (paraphrased)

Just my $5 opinion.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Hi All:

I have sex issues that im not willing to discuss.

however - for posing for photos for $$$...Im all for it. take naked pictures of me and pay me money. i'd be fine with that!! :) although right now my "base" would be people that like very pregger ladies with a lot of stretch marks (well....we could CGI those out of the photos). ;)

db

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

first of all... db - you could make some major damned cash posing nude and pregnant. seriously!!! go for it!!!

and maddy, i fully agree. america is scared of sex, but not of violence. we make violence this cultural hero but sex is the villain.

sighs.

abi

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I was once a prostitute, among other things, when I was younger, to get money to feed my distraction/addictions..and I would never go back, and do it again for any reason, even if I was on teh streets poor, the only way I would ever do and this is a big if, is if something happened, and I had no way otherwise to get money and I had a kid to support...but only if every other option was already exhausted and nothing else could be done.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted (edited) · Report post

At the moment, I can't imagine wanting sex at all ~ libido has gone walkabout. Sex for money? Not something I could do, would feel demeaning.

Isn't there a link between having a history of abuse (any kind) and being drawn to situations where that interpersonal dynamic is re-enacted? It's the most intimate thing a woman can experience, allowing another person to enter her body. To me, the act of providing a sex service is an act of submission. I haven't gone looking for stats, but don't think I'm wrong in assuming that sex workers are predominantly female. This is just my opinion, but I wonder if this is a reflection of archaic social/gender roles which we still haven't quite moved on from?

Edit./

Just wanted to add that I'm not sitting in judgment of sex workers. Systemic repression of anything, including sexuality creates subcultures..like the sex industry. I just think it's detrimental to women in general.

Edited by bokworm

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I'm surprised by the number of women who said yes. I believe that prostitution should be legal, as long as it is the women's freely chosen profession. But how many times do you see that? I personally find prositution disgusting and laden with all kinds of negative gender issues, but I don't blame a woman for doing what she has to do. I'm less inclined to have sympathy for a woman who willingly caters to men who see them as objects. And yes, bokworm, I'm pretty sure that a very high percentage of prostitutes have been sexually abused in one form or another. Voluntarily acting out similar scenarios to the abuse can be a way for a woman to reclaim her power and control over the situation.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I think it should be regulated. Men bringing their unsuspecting wives STDS isn't a victimless crime. If working girls are screened regularly & safe sex is practiced I don't have a problem with it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I did it at 14 and this is the first time I have ever told anybody in the whole world including Pdocs and Tdocs and husbands. I look back and I think it was abuse.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I've often thought that the whole 'dating game' is just a form of tacit prostitution. Someone takes you out, buys you drinks/food/cinema tickets/whatever all evening, and there's an unspoken assumption that they're going to get something out of it at the end. So, essentially, they're paying for you to have a nice time on the understanding that you'll engage in some form of sexual activity with them. (Or perhaps this is just the way things work in my world/head...I'm aware that I've got slightly messed up attitudes towards sex...)

And yes, I would have sex for money - enough money, that is.

Aside: I've always really loved the idea of becoming a professional dominatrix (I know, most of them don't have any sexual contact with their clients, so it's slightly off topic). Power games are a real turn-on for me - as is the thought of getting to dress up in tight leather and latext.... ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Sex with girls should be illegal and is. Women are considered animals, or animal parts, or as children....chicks, bitches, babes, girls, dogs etc... The men who consider women this way are the ones who more likely to be the ones paying and consider payment as an ownership thing. In that role there is the feeling of entitlement and there are more acts of violence putting women at risk. That is how I see it.

Men make more money and have less responsibility in caretaking in our society. Women need to care for elderly parents and children all while earning 60% of what men do. There will always be more women in financial need than men. Mem have a stronger physique and can more easily earn money in general labour work. This is why prostitution is the oldest profession and why it will always be considered that way.

Women who prostitute report a higher history of sexual abuse. Often young girls are entering prostitution as away to get by while trying to get away from abuse at home. They are doing what is familiar to them -repeating victimization. That is how I see it. They end up on the streets feeding addictions to numb themselves while prostituting and their money ends up getting into the hands of pimps. I don't see it at all empowering to them.

There are the woman in brothels who are slaves and smuggled illegaly.

The child sex tourism trade...........this is what prostitution is. I want no part of it. I don't see it as 30 year old woman who are educated and doing it as a choice to raise funds for school like the glamour magazines like to print stories about the hometown girl next door.

Now if I had less education than I do, less coping skills, little resources, and I was raised in poverty, and was hungry well yeah I probably would prostitute. Women do what they can to get by.

Not moralizing, just spreading reality of what society likes to not think about.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Hi, what's up with this "For ladies only" stuff. As if men have never had sex for money. Anyway. I don't mean to drop out of the "sisterhood" by not taking responsibility for my actions/experiences- yes, just cuz I was really lousy at making my bed for years doesn't mean I must continue to sleep in it. We all try to interact. Peace.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I see this as two completely different questions. Would I ever have sex for money? Absolutely! But it would have to be completely under my control and on my own terms. Would I have sex for money as a career--(prostitution)? THAT, I would avoid at all costs, if possible.

My rationale was already mentioned so I won't go into it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I was watching that show on HBO the other night that's about "The Bunny Ranch" in Nevada (I can't remember the name of the show). It's a train wreck kind of show... you start watching and it's horrible, but you just can stop watching it! My b/f and I really get a kick out of it.

Anyway... those chicks make $1,500 an HOUR!! Well... I don't know how much of that they make, but that's what they charge. I gotta tell ya... it's pretty darn tempting! I just can't believe a guy will pay that much... insane.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

The show is called "Cathouse" I know since i was on an episode about 3 years ago! Freaky day that was. i got paid $300 to have my cock sucked on camera by Air Force Amy, but they never used the footage. They did use my voice while i was talking at the bar. The day i was there was the Owners birthday so there was huge party the like of which Caligula would have approved of! And i met Ron Jeremy! (and watched him stuff his face from the h'orderves table) the crew was not what you'd expect since it was seven women and two men, the director and producer were both women.

Ray

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Sex with girls should be illegal and is. Women are considered animals, or animal parts, or as children....chicks, bitches, babes, girls, dogs etc... The men who consider women this way are the ones who more likely to be the ones paying and consider payment as an ownership thing. In that role there is the feeling of entitlement and there are more acts of violence putting women at risk. That is how I see it.

Men make more money and have less responsibility in caretaking in our society. Women need to care for elderly parents and children all while earning 60% of what men do. There will always be more women in financial need than men. Mem have a stronger physique and can more easily earn money in general labour work. This is why prostitution is the oldest profession and why it will always be considered that way.

Women who prostitute report a higher history of sexual abuse. Often young girls are entering prostitution as away to get by while trying to get away from abuse at home. They are doing what is familiar to them -repeating victimization. That is how I see it. They end up on the streets feeding addictions to numb themselves while prostituting and their money ends up getting into the hands of pimps. I don't see it at all empowering to them.

There are the woman in brothels who are slaves and smuggled illegaly.

The child sex tourism trade...........this is what prostitution is. I want no part of it. I don't see it as 30 year old woman who are educated and doing it as a choice to raise funds for school like the glamour magazines like to print stories about the hometown girl next door.

Now if I had less education than I do, less coping skills, little resources, and I was raised in poverty, and was hungry well yeah I probably would prostitute. Women do what they can to get by.

Not moralizing, just spreading reality of what society likes to not think about.

Put very well, this is a real issue, and I too find it as any other such as all involve you mention above.

And how we need to work on those, help with those real true issues.

Not the BS of PR stunts, and sex sells in Vogue!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Girls confessional. Have you ever had sex in exchange for money? If so, why did you do it? Would you do it again?

...

A question and poll for the girls only !

Whilst i'm not a grrl i think a separate poll for the boys would also be valid.

It's a really interesting topic.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Men and women- not boys and girls. If guys want a separate poll, whatever. I personally think there isn't too much difference there- getting paid for sex is kinda like getting paid for sex, no matter gender. Condemning, dismissive (judgemental) attitudes don't get us very far.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Very interesting topic. I have too many issues to deal with complex sex and society issues besides. Parts of me go no way would I even consider it., but then others go "Why not? at least we'd be getting paid for it this time". I have often considered getting a body trainer to get me as lethal and sleek as possible, wear a mask and do whips and leather gig for pay on line. No sex, just naughty pics. I used to look pretty hot in leather or latex, so I dunno, maybe I'd get a bit of my kink off doing it. Always trying to figure out what might be a turn on for me. Gets frustrating being frustrated ;)

Otherwise, I think that the problem with prostitution is society, not prostitution. And I'm not against it so long as the person getting paid for sex isn't in a desperate or abusive situation. And is in control of her/his? situation. It is the skeezy way that so many cultures view the body as a means to an end, be that getting off or making money from it. That bothers me. Until we as a race learn to view all others as equals, I'm afraid we will have this attitude and the ugly problems that go with it.

Bernard, that is utterly sad the girls in Amsterdam. But I have always been a bit more than curious about prostitutes and courtesans as well.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

I can't take the poll because I'm not registered, but I'll answer the question. Yes, I'm a woman. Yes, I have had sex for money, and it was because I was desperate for cash. I didn't get a kick out of it, heck, I could barely pretend to enjoy myself, but the rent was due, and I was facing eviction. End of story.

I'm pretty sure I will never do it again, though the offer has been made more than once, and not by the man I did it with the first time.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted (edited) · Report post

Been to Amsterdam back with ex, then he took teen son when had to go for work trip, same reason i went along.

They feel their way of handling the problems that arise with prostitution in so many countries as the USA, such as prostitutes not being treated safely(being put in really dangerous situations, such as sicko's that stalk and beat, murder prostitutes),walking streets, not being paid well, transmitting diseases is solved by their red light district.

There they have so many bouncers/guards around, no one is getting in that looks fucked up, w/o paying first, and uses proper protection. Ears and eyes are all around.

The girls are in a union that protects their very good wages, healthcare plans, they are constantly tested, and physicals for all other ailments, for not just themselves but children,other dependents on their plans.

They are not walking the streets, or have a pimp.

Nothing happens that they did not agree to way before hand to their house, different houses for different styles.

They are very proud of their district and give tours of it, with complete history.

Same way they feel they have handle their drug problems and do not have drug related crimes such as other countries #1 comparison USA.

They have bike lanes everywhere, and that is #1 travel souce, besides canals, and all other public transport. There is litter no where, and flowers beutification everywhere.

They are hardly behind the times with energy and so many other ways of thinking.

I say Bush needs to go stop in a coffee shop and enjoy a brownie.

But please Bush, give the ladies in the windows a break, for that would be degrading!

Only place in the world I feel it is truly ran as a business.

Other is just man taking control over woman.

And, I agree with comments on comes from past abuse acting out.

I found this thread hard to read also. Just seeing so much hurt going on.

But, just had to put up what I knew about Amsterdam, when saw that mention, and reread first post on it also.

PS edited to say you are not allow to just oogle at the window or take pictures, you and your camera will be thrown in the canal by very big and fast running bouncers! They do take their area seriously.

Edited by Alyson

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Posted · Report post

Yes.

When independent, I charged $250/hr.

When I began to work out of a house, $260 with an $80 room fee per client.

I quit for a while.

When I came back, I charged $300/hr.

When I quit again and did lingerie wrestling, that was $200/hr (any release was the client's responsibility).

I was sexually assaulted numerous times before beginning work. But let me also add that not a single client was in any way disrespectful or abusive--they weren't so much as LATE to their appointments. While I won't deny that plenty of sex workers have been abused, keep in mind that no one decides to conduct studies to see how many female lawyers, doctors, teachers, baristas, actresses, and astronauts have been sexually abused in order to state a correlation between abuse and profession.

Women in the sex industry probably have a higher incidence of having suffered abuse. But whether it is statistically significant, in relation to other professional populations, is still to be seen.

Why did I do it?

I assume it has to do with my tendency to self-destruct.

And I really needed a lot of shoes and makeup. All my money went to crap I didn't need.

Would I do it again?

That's a good question.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0