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Alternatives to Self-Harm & Recovery Resources

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This thread is a directory of several other threads with great suggestions on things you can do RIGHT NOW instead of self-harming, and great resources you can use in your recovery.

This thread is a big jumble of posts from other members about alternatives they have found helpful.

Alternatives to self-harm sorted into groups based on different emotions that might be making you want to SI.

"I wanted to self harm today - instead I..."

A list of other websites about self-harm that focus on recovery.


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Thank you very much for the excellent links

My true favorite is the ice one. I'm a little different about it. It took me a bit to get the effect from a regulator cube. For a bit I bought a funny tray that made them into stars. I used the pointy ends to help. It was kind of like weening off or something I would try before hurting myself incase it took away the need to do so.

Funny I always think No these won't last but if you try them enough they become soothing. I found myself before relapse being OK with the feeling of round ice. Not needing something that felt slightly pointy. After a nit of just over cubes I found a great release but running very very cold water over my wrists. It gives you a nice cooling sense all over and truly does help cool you down on a hot day.

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Omg. All these suggestions have been amazing so far. Thank you!

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