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Nervous with new therapist

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Just changed my therapist as the old one moved too far away....across the country, sucks cause I was with her like 14 years.  Anyway, to the point, do most people feel kind of like the R.E.M. song "Losing my Religion" where he says "oh no I've said too much I haven't said enough" and by the way I do think this new tdoc is great so far so I don't think it's her really.

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It takes me a long time to feel comfortable with a new therapist. A long time. Like, a year and a half of weekly meetings before I cried in front of my current one. Admittedly it's a continuum, not a either/or kind of thing. 

I'm sorry your previous tdoc moved away, I would find that very upsetting. 

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I'm in the middle of therapist shopping right now since I moved across the country. It sucks. I've been putting it off because I hate going through the process of establishing rapport.

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