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Hi all. My girlfriend was in therapy in college and the Dr there had given her depression/anxiety meds but she's run out. She felt like they helped but wants to put a label to what's going on so that way the meds will be a better fit. We moved so she's seeing a therapist outside of college for the first time, every two weeks for about 6 months and she feels like it isn't helping. She does get along with the therapist. 

I sat in with her on one of the sessions when my gf wanted me to give my POV of what her emotions/mood swings/outbursts are like. The therapist seems to be very focused on changing her way of thinking which is good but says a lot of things like "happiness is a choice" and other similar things regarding happiness. My gf wants to be happy and does have negative thinking and emotional outbursts, mainly anger and sadness. She's very down about therapy and feels like the sessions recently are a chore and hates going to them because nothing has changed.

I'm not sure what to help her look for when we move again soon and search for another therapist. Does anyone have any recommendations? She would like to be diagnosed and feels like a bad person/that something is wrong with her that can never be "fixed."

x gentlelamb 

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Hi gentlelamb,

I think it's awesome and wonderful that you want to support your girlfriend so much! However, we're a first-person support site. That means we're by crazy for crazy. If you girlfriend wants to post here she's more than welcome to. There are a whole lot of sites out there for supporters and loved ones of people with mental health concerns, but we're not it.

The thing to know about psych meds and psychiatry is that, regardless of what the label is, the meds work. There is a whole lot of overlap between diagnosis, and the diagnosis doesn't matter very much. What matters is "do the meds work?" And if they do, then great! If not, then it's time to try something else.

I'm not sure what kind of therapy she's doing, but there are lots out there that are focused on developing new skills, rather than just changing thought patterns. Maybe she'd benefit from a different modality. 

Anyway, I'm going to lock this thread because it's something that your girlfriend can ask and you have other options; it's also easier for her to see that she's not a bad person if she is able to ask that for herself.

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