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one of my obsessions is over the labels I use to define myself. my sexuality (which, I know, is it's own sub-type within the framework of OCD), my subcultures, my hobbies. I feel like I can't call myself a nerd, or a writer. as if I somehow am not qualified. or I'm using the word wrong. or it just doesn't apply to me the way it applies to other people. labels eat at me, I can't stop thinking about them, but they all feel wrong. nothing fits, nothing's right. but I need to know what is right. I need to sort myself into boxes so I make sense. so I'm not chaos made flesh. I feel like if I can't define myself, with certainty, that I'm not a person. 

does anyone else have this?

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Well, in a sense. We use labels because they help identify things. Put things into nice understandable categories. Unfortunately, (or fortunately, I suppose it depends on perspective) humans are simply too complicated to pigeon hole. It would make things easier in a sense, but as a rule, I run away from labels as fast as possible. 

In short, I would recommend not trying to even attempt putting yourself in a box because it will only disappoint you when you recognize you don't really fit inside it. Everyone is simply too different. However dealing with OCD is a completely different thing. If you have OCD with this you don't even want to be thinking about it, you just do. it might not even bother you, but the thoughts just won't stop. There are a number of techniques that a therapist can help with obsessive thoughts and behaviours and obviously medications ect.

Outside of the clinical aspect. Don't depend on others to define your identity. It will only lead you down a wrong path. This isn't really OCD advice though. That is a different beast. 

As far as my OCD in this regard, no. My OCD is usually about getting things "perfect." Cleaning my car, combing my hair, tucking in a shirt exactly correct, obsessing about every little rattle in a car, physical characteristics, essentially getting things that aren't broken "fixed."

I hope this helps. 

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that's all false lower self stuff so not supposed to b u. Sex, world hobbies, body image...is not yr spirit/soul, simply a weaker way to express yr self while yr stuck h e r e , and its a worldly program to deceive u so u don't consciously evolve mor. Basically distractions and trying to kill yr soul (tru self)

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^^ ignore above. Thinking he's sorely lacking protein in order to make substantial statements. 

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You put something into words that I've struggled explaining for years. You're definitely not alone here.

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