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A man I am rather fond of and has shown other flirting behaviours before referred to me as "The lovely (my name)" the other day - im not quite sure exactly what he meant if that makes sense? What do you think could be the deeper meaning behind this? Was he flirting perhaps? 

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Sounds like flirting but I would really have to be there to tell. Anyway, it is a positive sign, so go with it.

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12 hours ago, notloki said:

Sounds like flirting but I would really have to be there to tell. Anyway, it is a positive sign, so go with it.

Thank you notloki, I thought so too- I was the only one whom he referred to that way in the context (meeting) so I shall take it as you say! 

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