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I possibly triggered my best friend?

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In a previous post I stated I told one of my best friends I self harmed. She reacted quite positively, telling me to stop and things like that. I was aware in the past that she use to scratch herself. But now she's cutting and she told me she started a week ago, which is when I told her I was cutting. I'm debating if I should ask if I triggered her, but I'm not sure.

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What if you assume that you did, and send some form of apology to your friend? That way you give them the opportunity to either acknowledge it, or to deny it. 

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I did ask her and she said no. I'm probably going to ask her again, because I truly think I did and I will apologize. Thank you for suggesting.

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If she said no already, I think you can trust that. I think underlying this fear is the fact that you care about your friend. There is a comic I really like about saying "Thank you" instead of "I'm sorry". I think replacing sorry works better in this case, too. You could say something like "I want to be a positive, supportive presence in your life". That starts the conversation in a positive direction about how each of you can work to support the other

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