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DammitJanet

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    Oh Brad, I’m mad.

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  1. DammitJanet

    How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    No, something else. Won’t get into it, I’ll pm you in a bit. How are you feeling this morning?
  2. DammitJanet

    How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    Another night with very broken up sleep. Not feeling super grouchy though like normal. Abby’s making me smile this morning, good sign. Still shook up from the near accident yesterday, nauseous when I think about it. Disappointed and sad from an event yesterday.
  3. DammitJanet

    How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    That’s exactly what I think while driving. Everyone’s going to hit me. Thanks for the reminder about getting caught up in bullshit. I try, but often fail.
  4. DammitJanet

    How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    Completely shook up. I’ve been in three car accidents now in the past three years, and almost four just before coming coming home from the store. All it would’ve taken is the car behind me not being there. Instead she got rear ended. Hard. I know I’m always scared now that I’ll get in a much worse accident...but this was too close. Cried the rest of the way home. Fuck that was close.
  5. DammitJanet

    How Do You Feel THIS MOMENT in Time?

    Really happy this morning! Seems my mood is ridiculously dependent on the amount of sleep I get...which sucks because I’m definitely in the age range now where sleep becomes more fleeting by nature. I am dreading the daily walk with Abby though...as she sits by the door with her ears at attention. You’re supposed to be energized from exercise, but inevitably I’m too weak and exhausted every time to even do things like the dishes for the rest of the day.
  6. DammitJanet

    So Confused As Usual

    It’s possible that he’s afraid of a relationship for trust issues or a very painful breakup or something, and maybe is confused himself with what he wants. When he pushes you away it could be the fear creeping in again and his flight response kicks in? I think he’s confused himself. Just be watchful of alcoholic tendencies... that’s the last thing you need in your life.
  7. DammitJanet

    Anger Management fail

    Side note: Evidence (and my current tdoc) suggests that breaking dishes, beating pillows, or any violent expression does not help alleviate extreme anger...the opposite actually...often intensifies it. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/201705/should-you-visit-anger-room
  8. DammitJanet

    Questions Thread

    Yes. Both as a child and an adult. Do you like extreme weather?
  9. DammitJanet

    whatever the weather

    Saw my first two wasps of the season yesterday while walking Abby. And it was still just in the mid-fifties! Meh. My second only to the heat, biggest pet peeve of spring/summer.
  10. DammitJanet

    Questions Thread

    Not being able to be a better, more involved mother. 😢 Candy or chips?
  11. DammitJanet

    Anger Management fail

    I feel very compelled to jump in here and give my perspective, as I can fully understand and relate to Antecedent’s perspective and dilemma. I can relate because I couldv written her OP easily and could also easily see myself reacting and feeling the same way she did in her replies. But I care deeply for all of you here so I am going to try to be as gentle and objective as possible because losing people I care about is extremely painful to me. That said, I’d like to share the view that this board is specifically labeled The Confessional. When confessing something, it’s not always advice you are seeking, but something that is eating at your soul and need to express it somewhere so it’s not just sitting there, rotting your self-worth. The OP may have been seeking advice... but probably was hoping for something more along the lines of how to deal with that anger. There is healthy anger that is very good for spurring action. But there is definitely a line where it becomes extremely unhealthy and detrimental to almost every aspect of one’s life. When it’s chronic, and feeling like it’s uncontrollable, and that it’s affecting your very livelihood, there is a serious problem. That’s why there is court ordered anger management classes. It’s also responsible for increased risk of health problems including an 8% increased risk of having a heart attack. The OP made it clear that it was having a negative effect on close to every aspect of her life. Losing important relationships, jeopardizing her livelihood, isn’t healthy anger. The line has been crossed. Out of control anger becomes rage. Rage is an extremely scary, awful, out of control feeling. I’m speaking of my own experiences here throughout. And feeling/being out of control would be a very good explanation of a person being sensitive to having what control he/she possesses being taken away or feeling controlled since it’s something that is so lacking. I feel sad that the OP was told to keep her venting reserved for her blog. The way she explained her anger was indeed a sign of very unhealthy anger and probably felt invalidated when the seriousness was not addressed. Again, I’m speaking from personal experience here and the post hit so close to home I could’ve easily written it myself. Perhaps if someone reads the post and hasn’t personally suffered the effects of extreme anger/rage the seriousness could be hard to understand. We all want to help each other here...so the responses, I feel, came from a genuine desire to help. But I do think some missed the point. Anger that is all-consuming, wrecking important relationships, and on the verge of losing one’s job is something worthy of a confession in my humble opinion... To be told that said person obviously doesn’t want help would be extremely painful to hear. I think she needed help with her predicament where the seriousness didn’t fully register. To be told to keep your confessions to your blog, feels like utter rejection. Feels like one has been suddenly ostracized from a place that has always been a refuge from constant agony and a real life of constantly being ostracized. To suddenly feel that here is heartbreaking. I say that because that is exactly how I would be feeling right now. I’m sorry this ended up being a novella...it hit me hard and deep. I really hope this isn’t going to be the norm. I personally feel more scared now to post a confession that I’ve already been too scared to post for fear of judgment or being misunderstood. I am really hoping that I didn’t hurt anyone with my own confession via this reply... As I said I cherish every one of you and couldn’t bear suddenly being shunned to my blog. I really, really hope. Edit: I should note, my irritability and rage has drastically improved since being increased on estrogen...so there can also be physiological reasons for this. But there are so many origins, that to explore where the origins lie, to be able to effectively start to heal.
  12. That’s too bad. Thanks for letting me know.
  13. DammitJanet

    whatever the weather

    Perfect temps for the next several days, with sunshine! After that, looks like we’re officially entering spring in the low 70’s...that means we’ve broken the barrier of being able to leave any animals in our vehicle for more than a few minutes. Also means no more long sleeves to cover my saggy arms. Meh. At least there’ll be sun.
  14. DammitJanet

    Questions Thread

    I don’t eat beef? 😂 also always use canvas totes for groceries What’s the number one thing on your bucket list?
  15. DammitJanet

    Questions Thread

    Yeah, I meant the feeling of actually going under. 😉
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