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Any other adult cutters out there?

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I'm 26 and even though I stopped for 7 years I,ve started up again.

I know I'm repeating sentiments others have said already, but it's good to know I'm not the only adult who does this.

I'm not alone.

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I'm 51 going on 52 and still cut when stressed out. Like this past year I los my dog, husband, best friend and in the last three months 3 cats all have died!!! What else is there but to cut to ease the pain and feel again. So all alone. I keep a Bill of Rights for cutter's to show to the cops so they don't haul me away on a legal 2000 but that doesn't always work. so at least once a month I'm hauled off for my secret passion...cutting!! You are never really alone when it comes to cutting there is more of us than you think.

 

 

 

 

 

bipolar II ; Major Depression; GAD; PTSD;BPD w/self harm; some I don't care or want to remember

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I'm 24 and have been struggling with self-harm since I was about seven.  It wasn't cutting back then - I started off with head-banging, moved to biting and hair-pulling, and started cutting at around 15.  I had stopped successfully for several years when I was around 21, but recently things have gotten tough lately and I have unfortunately started cutting again.

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I'm 35 and have had self harm issues since 12 or 13. I went almost two years without cutting, which was a long time for me. Unfortunately with a lot of unnecessary added stress these last two weeks, I let it get the better of me again. It wasn't the only impulse I've acted on lately and I feel angry with myself for falling back into old habits. It has me really down because I feel like I'm no better off than I was when I was twenty years ago and that this is just the way I'm always going to be. I posted in the therapy section about my bad new psychiatrist and this all started after my last appointment. All the therapy work I've done the last couple years and now I'm just, wondering if it even helped much. It is nice to know there are other adults who still have issues with this.

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I'm 26 and I relasped and cut again yesterday, I was honest and told my bf about it but it didnt go over well because I'm too old to do stupid stuff like this. I just wanted support from him but I didnt get it, Its really hard when you get into the depressed mood and cant get out of it. It's very hard. We all have to hang in there and be strong.

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I know I've said this on another thread.


amicyco2, I think it's good that you keep information about your symptoms and compassionate care on you. 

 

However, a bill of rights for people who self injure will never override the legal power of police to detain you if they think you are at risk of harm to yourself or someone else. They are mandated by their jobs to have you evaluated by a qualified professional. It would be nice to have self harm seen as a coping skill that isn't very useful in the long run. However, most police officer's either aren't interested or don't have the resources to educate themselves that much in this area.

 

It's true that you have the right to use self harm if you choose. It's also true that other people, especially people who have a legal mandate to protect, have the right to have you evaluated by an appropriate professional.

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i self harm and instead of self harming today i changed my sleepers to a bone ring. felt better to do this than cut or burn.

Edited by The 3 Me's

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Ive done well and not self harmed for a month. Finding ways to distract myself or obsess on something else.

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Way to go!!!!

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I'm 30 and started when I was 17. I have periods of sobriety, but now is not one of them.

 

Just a note...I used to find that when I was so concerned about how many days I got, the pressure built and built and in turn the guilt was way worse when I relapsed. I had to learn to let go of counting how long it had been and focus on other things. Easier said than done.

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I'm 34 and still cut also. The first time I cut, I was around 9ish years old. I don't think I know what I was doing or why I was doing it, from what I could remember. Just remember lots of emotions and just doing it. Then I started again around 17 when a lot of bad stuff was going on. Went on for a few years, then I developed an ED. It was sporadically on and off until I recovered from AN a few years ago, now I'm back to it and a mess again. 

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Wow... feel very relieved to know im not crazy and there are other adults out there. I started when I was 14 and stopped when I was 22. I got married young, had kids young, thought everything was great! The urge slowly faded and life was good. For awhile... Now im 27, divorced with two little girls and cutting again. I feel like everything in life just came crashing down all at once about 4 months ago and the only thing that I knew would numb some of the pain was si. I love my kids but everything else is just too hard to deal with. Started again just after News Years... great resolution right? < *yes that was sarcasm*

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I started as an adult. I'm 35 now, and I started cutting around 32…so not overly long ago…and I was definitely old enough to know better.  It was a very conscious decision.  I was in the middle of what I think was a depressive episode (I'm not *yet* diagnosed bipolar…but I'm close, I think).  I was in SO MUCH emotional pain I couldn't take it anymore.  I was also starting to really deal with the fact that I'm not straight…and deciding how to handle that.  It was to much to handle, and I just went for it.  The relief was almost instant…and it quickly became an addiction.  

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av self injured since i was 13 ...am now 37  the longest av ever stop for  was 7 months  that was a few years ago when things where going well  but things got harder 

and then i started again   

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I'm 35, started self harming at 15 or so.  I haven't cut for a year and a half, i think.  I've also caused major bruising on my arms, but not in the last couple of years.  The last cutting episode resulted in a major wound and scar.  I really scared myself; should have had it medically attended to, etc.  I took pretty good care of the wound, and my pdoc gave me tips on how to reduce scar tissue.  My meds help, but I do still occasionally consider self harming again.  

 

Sometimes I feel strange still having these urges way past being a teen.  I'm glad, and sorry, that I'm not alone in this.

 

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Gold, I am a recovered cutter. I would cut for the same reasons...to quiet my emotions when they became overwhelming. I would not advise it for anyone as a coping mechanism because the scars do pose a problem...I am not looking forward to having to explain them to my son. I can't explain how I actually managed to stop...I had been cutting for about 15 years. I think it was a combination of factors-the right meds, a strong support network, and knowing how much it upsets my husband. I know that I still had those urges for a long time. It has been two years about since I cut, though, and the thought doesn't cross my mind much these days. I hope you can find something else that works to quiet your mind.

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Agreed. When I started cutting again, I turned to the internet to find information on the topic. Most of the information was geared towards the teen age. I finally did find some helpful information on a UK research site regarding adults that cut. You see, I am 49. I had cut as a teenager, a few times throughout the past years, but unfortunately returned to it as my coping method about a year ago. When the urges first came back to me, I thought I was probably the only adult that cut- don't we all feel like that?! However I found that I was certainly not alone. Just to find that there others out there has helped. Have I overcome this and replaced this coping method in my life? No. Do I try to overcome it? Certainly. I guess the first big step was realizing that I am NOT alone in this. As I have read through various posts, I am always amazed to hear things that I can so relate to in my own situation. Yes, adults struggle with SI. Adults from every walk of life, some rich, some poor, some highly educated, some not, some with high paying professions, some that don't have a job. We all struggle, we all fight through the urges, sometimes we succeed, sometimes we don't. Here we all share a common goal, to overcome this unhealthy coping method. No one is perfect and sometimes some of us take longer than others, but the main thing is knowing that YOU are not alone in this.

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I know that self harm is associated with teens.

 

But I've been reading here and I see a lot of very strong men and women dealing with some very difficult things. Because being an adult can be really lonely, really, we all think we are supposed to have our shit together and be perfect. Being an adult is perceived to be about coping and being an example. My respect goes to anyone who is living in torment and keeps getting up every day, every last one of you. It is hard to be that weary and keep going for everyone else.

 

This is beautiful…and it means a lot.  I needed to read something like this. Thank you. 

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