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Family therapy: will I regret not trying with my parents one last time? 50% over it/miserably accepting they're not going to change, 50% desperate for them to hear me as a human being while we're all still here. But why would they listen now, if they didn't before?
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My mental energy is being eaten today but I wanted to thank you for that perspective, @Gearhead.
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It depends on what kind of people they are really. Some people can change but some people are stubborn to the core or simply don’t think they need to change and can’t be convinced otherwise. My dad was a narcissist and was never going to change so I just had to cut ties with him. There was never going to be a way to get him to hear me. Sometimes accepting that a person will never change is the only way to move on and feel better.
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That's what maybe 51% of me is feeling today, @saintalto. That they can't/won't change or wouldn't see value in trying since it would be me who's speaking up. I'm sorry your father was like that. I got upset over my family's recent efforts to force me into old dynamics. Maybe I'll speak my piece once, like Gearhead mentions, or I might be too scared of them to even do that.