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  1. Godzilla therapy... You are brilliant. I sincerely hope this idea catches on somehow. I'll spread the word, being sure to credit you of course!
  2. I have free access (well, paid by my tuition fees) to it through my university library subscriptions. I specifically went to the database "Psychiatry Online", which has a full-text digital copy of the DSM-5. I wish everyone had open access to academic materials (but I see all sides to that issue). I guess that's another topic for another day though.
  3. I just checked the DSM-5 and, yes, the specifier "with mixed features" can be noted along with a diagnosis of a major depressive episode or MDD, not just bipolar disorders. Here is a quote from the chapter "Depressive Disorders" -- Reference: American Psychiatric Association: Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition. Arlington, VA, American Psychiatric Association, 2013.
  4. It's not a small thing. Instead of being dismissive, just accept that fact. You made her feel uncomfortable, in a world which already severely limits the spaces where women are allowed to feel safe. You need to change your behaviour.
  5. My memory has worsened overall, and it's reduced my self esteem quite a lot. I've always had problems with my working memory, due to my ADHD and my learning disability. I managed to compensate fairly well though in some areas. Now, I can hardly ever hold more than one thought or "task" in my mind simultaneously. It's very challenging to do my kind of work with a poor working memory. I have to be even more careful when learning new sequences (steps of a task, for example), or else I may completely mess it up. I can't even begin to explain how much effort it takes to do some things. I have strategies to help though, mainly notes, alarms, and mnemonics. One particularly useful memory strategy, is to associate things I need to remember with mental imagery. I'll associate the steps in order with an actual physical route, such as a route that I've actually walked before. Each landmark along the route will represent an idea or thought. It took A LOT of practice to learn this technique, and I'm still not a pro at it. It helps so much though. It's a known technique, I didn't make it up. Finally, I have lost some of my spelling ability. I've always been an excellent speller, I almost never made mistakes. Now, I often question if I'm spelling a word right. I'll spell "doubt" as "dought" or "played" as "plaid". It really sucks.
  6. Hi littlemisschatterbox! I'm going to move this to the Parenting board, cause I think you'll get more replies there. I hope some people can share their experiences with you.
  7. I've been on Effexor XR for about 3 years now. I didn't see any improvement in my mood until I had been on 300 mg for 3 weeks. I am still on 300 mg today. I find that Effexor works optimally for me if I have another med to "help" it. I took Effexor + Abilify for a couple years, which was pretty good for my mood (and psychotic symptoms). I stopped the Abilify due to side effects. Now, I take Effexor + Lamictal as my 2 main crazy meds. This combination seems to work pretty alright. I dunno. I'm currently going back to therapy to address my mood, which could usually be described as "blah," mixed with deep self-loathing. We'll see how it goes. At first, I didn't think Effexor did anything to my anxiety levels, neither positive or negative. I attributed the massive improvement in my anxiety all to Abilify. However, I stopped Abilify over 8 months ago, and my anxiety is still under control. I used to be diagnosed with GAD, but I don't meet the criteria anymore! I also did individual therapy that was supplemented with a CBT group, which really helped. Considering that I've struggled with anxiety/panic since I was 4 years old, I think that speaks volumes about not only Effexor, but therapy too. When I first started Effexor, my only really noticeable side effect was urinary hesitation. I'm not going to lie, it was horrible. The only way I could pee was to constantly drink coffee, and chug massive amounts of water all day. Thankfully, that terribleness only lasted about 1 week. I tried to stop taking Effexor once, so that I could switch to Wellbutrin. It did not go well. Almost immediately after reducing Effexor, I became extremely depressed. I'm surprised I made it 12 days without Effexor and managed to avoid killing myself. I started taking it again at my regular dose (300 mg) and I felt better in 24 hours. As always, YMMV, but I hope it does good things for you!
  8. Thank you very much for all of your replies and links! And thank you for your concern about my kitty's health! Knuckles is 2.5 years old, just a young boy! He has always been this way, especially his obsession with knocking over glasses and his water dish. I keep an eye on his intake and output, and it looks healthy to me. My oldest cat was diagnosed with acute renal failure when he was 4 years old, and Knuckles isn't setting off any alarm bells like my old cat did at the time (my old cat lived to be 17). Knuckles is still extremely active, running and jumping everywhere, eating his usual amount, and just being his general silly self. However, it wouldn't hurt for him to have another check up! Koa, I thought about making my own fountain, but I would need to make sure the materials are safe to drink from. I used to have a lot of fish, so I'm familiar with keeping an aquarium healthy... Maybe a small aquarium with a good quality filter? My cats would be disappointed at the lack of live fish though.
  9. One of my cats has issues with water, mostly to do with drinking it. It's not that he doesn't drink enough though. The problem is that he drinks whatever water he can find... Except the water in his dish. Here is Knuckles, he has a drinking problem: http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10081-sleepy/ Additionally, we can't leave our drinks unattended for even a second, or else Knuckles will knock it over (and then walk away). He started knocking over his water dish too, so we got a heavier one. He's determined though, and now he drags his dish around the kitchen, making a mess. This picture about sums it up: http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10084-story-of-my-life/ He tries to drink out of the toilet, but we close the lid. He likes to lick the sink, and the tap. He seems to really love cold water, cause he also licks the condensation off windows, and likes to lick ice cubes. He started licking the snow off of my winter boots, but that's gross, so I got him a bowl of fresh snow. He LOVED it. He licked the snow and pawed at it happily. But then he knocked it over, of course. Note the little tongue marks in the condensation on the window: http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10082-the-evidence/ Here he is at the scene: http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10080-at-the-scene/ I've heard that some cats just don't like drinking still water, even if it's cold and fresh. They may also dislike the location of the bowl in the house, or it's proximity to their food. I also heard that some cats can take issue with the materials of the water dish itself. So far, we have experimented with different materials and shapes. We have tried a few plastic dishes and stainless steel. The next option to try is a ceramic bowl, which might be heavy enough to stop him from dragging it around. However, maybe he drags it around because he likes moving water? I've read that some people give their cats a little drinking fountain for this very reason. Also, that's fucking adorable. I've heard a lot of mixed reviews though, with many people saying that the fountains get slimy even with frequent cleaning, and the motors are unreliable. Fully ceramic fountains seem to be of higher quality, according to reviews. I was excited to find some cute little ceramic fountains, but they're pretty pricey. They come highly recommended though. Basically, do I want to try some cheaper fountains first or just buy the expensive one and see what happens? Here's a link to the Etsy shop that sells the fountains: Click here Here's a picture of the one I like ($169.79 CAD): http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10083-cat-fountain/ Okay, so clearly I just wanted to show you pictures of my kitty. I'll get to the point. 1) Have any of you had a cat with this issue before? If so, how did you get them to drink from a safe place (dish, fountain, etc)? 2) If you have used a cat fountain before, what has been your experience? 3) Am I crazy (more than I already am) to consider spending that much money on a fountain for my cats? PS: The vet has said to just keep track of his urine output and quality, and the frequency of his drinking. He seems to be getting enough water, cause all is well on the urine front. My cats also eat wet food twice a day, in addition to dry food. Okay, okay, just a few more kitty pictures!! Here is my other cat, Levi, hugging his pillow full of catnip: http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10078-hugging-his-catnip/ Here is Knuckles, looking handsome as ever: http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?/gallery/image/10079-lookin39-handsome/ Thank you for reading my post! I hope the cat pictures were enjoyable!
  10. I can only imagine how awful that must have felt, to hear her say those things. You're doing your best though. Hopefully when she's older, she'll be able to reflect on that and understand more fully. I'll admit, I sometimes said those things to my mother when I was a kid. One time I naively told my dad he should get a better job. But it came from a place of frustration, and being unable to understand the situation. As I'm sure you know, kids don't have the life experience to make sense of the situation. And depending on their age, they likely don't even have the cognitive ability to see beyond their own wants and needs. Plus it sucks to be bullied. The good news is, I've observed that most kids come to understand eventually. I was sad, then angry as a teenager, and finally accepting as an adult. It was startling to suddenly realize that my mother is a normal human, she existed as a woman before I was born, and she did the best she could as a mother. It sounds like a basic idea but it was pretty powerful for me to realize that my mother is not superhuman. She has flaws and makes mistakes. She has been depressed, and it must have been incredibly hard to raise three kids while fighting her own battles. You're doing a hard job, Dee. You can do it though. Oh god, I'm all teary eyed! I'm sorry if that was way uncalled for, I just want you to know it'll be okay! And I love my mother! I should go tell her that!
  11. I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I've lived well below the (Canadian) poverty line for my entire life. Olga has excellent suggestions. My family still regularly uses food banks, and I agree that it's gross to get really old food. It depends on the food, but sometimes the expiry date is quite important. I've received half rotten heads of lettuce, moldy bread, and once I got strawberries with copious amounts of fuzzy mold. I know the food is free and all, but... C'mon...? I dunno. I find it insulting, quite frankly. It's not always that bad though. Another suggestion - Depending on where you live, some homeless shelters will gladly let you have a hot meal, even though you have a roof over your head. There's a shelter here that gives out fresh lunches to take away, and the church across the street gives out snacks. There are different kinds of shelters though, some are more like detox places, better to avoid those. And don't bring your kids, just take food home to them. There are women's groups in many communities, specifically for low income women. They're often there so women can get support, but also connect with potential friends, and other mothers. Oftentimes they just hang out, chat, craft, etc. It's really empowering to have a support group, and you can also help each other out with navigating resources. Being poor fucking sucks, a lot. Unfortunately there are a lot of people living in poverty. But there's strength in numbers, you're not alone.
  12. Awkward: My cat uses my blanket to masturbate... However, I googled this and apparently lots of cats indulge in personal lovin'.

    1. Parapluie


      The more you know! And possibly didn't want to know!

    2. Bad Haiku

      Bad Haiku

      My bengal does too, but he just lays there like a golden Jabba the Hutt and licks it while looking meaningfully at me. Usually while I'm pooping.

    3. MiaB


      The cat whose pic is in my avatar does that too... I'm relieved to hear that he's not a complete freak! (Never thought one of my cats would make me blush lol)

  13. Personally, I've never seen anal-expulsive as something to aim for. Chris BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! *immature*
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