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  1. I hope someone replies to you, but the other thing you could do is ask the HR office at the company to give you a list of the doctors covered by Aetna in your area. Explain that you have BCBS, and you want to make sure you could continue with your GP and other doctors. You don't have to say anything about seeing a tdoc adn pdoc. Every plan has a list of approved providers. You can also ask your tdoc and pdoc outright if they accept Aetna. olga
  2. Talk to her when you two are alone, and tell her just what you told us. It's fine to express an opinion, but tact is always good, and all of us have to realize that we aren't right 100% of the time. If she doesn't take it well, maybe she isn't someone you should include in your social circle. olga
  3. That sounds like a plan. One overnight is enough to see everyone for a visit but then get out of Dodge! Keep saying "it's only 24 hours. I can do this for 24 hours and then I can go home." olga
  4. Welcome to Crazyboards. I'm glad you found us and don't be afraid to ask questions. olga
  5. I would make the visit as short as possible. If your parents are far enough away that you need to stay overnight, try to keep it to one night. Tell them that you have a back-up of work from your job and need the weekend at your house to catch up. If you can get there and go home again the same day, that's even better. I would almost be tempted to plead a bad case of diarrhea as your reason for not going at all, and just stay home. I don't know if they would buy that, though. Holidays are tough. I used to dread some of them when I was in my 20s and 30s. It's much easier now that a lot of my relatives are gone and there's a lot less drama. olga
  6. I did, years ago. I also married a man with 24-year-old twins and a son who was 18. Although they were all considered adults, there was a great deal of adjustment, especially with the 18-year-old. (He lived with us.......it was not easy). Do you have a specific question? Has he introduced you to the children? olga
  7. You did just fine! I'm sorry I wasn't around to greet you, but I'm glad you're here and I hope you'll stick around. Feel free to contact one of the staff people if there is anything you don't understand. olga
  8. My goal for today was to make 2 doctor appointments.......and I did it! My GP retired in the spring, and I was dragging my feet about seeing a new one. I'll never find another doc like my old one, but oh well. Us old broads have to get checked regularly. olga
  9. 10 days is terrific! Keep at it, and I'm glad your doctor has a script that will help with the anxiety. olga
  10. You can be even more vague and say "family obligations" or "Illness in the family." There was someone ill in the family---they don't need to know who it was. olga
  11. 2Spirals, one of the great things about CB is that you find other people who have experienced/suffered/survived the same things you are going through. It kept me alive when I first came here. I hope you can overcome your swallowing issue. I can see why this would be very upsetting. olga
  12. Bostonian Asperger, we don't delete threads. However, if you would like a mod to lock it, then no one else will reply and it will sink into the Deep Dark Chasm of Old Threads, never to be seen again. Just say so, and I (or another mod) will lock it. olga
  13. I guess I would need to hear what you like about her, but it does seem like you don't have much affection or respect for her. If you want to salvage the relationship, sit down with when when you are both calm and explain to her what her negativity does to you. She might not realize what an impact it has on you. On the other hand, as crtclms pointed out, bitching about a women when she's in the middle of a raging hormone cycle is pretty unfair. We don't like how the hormones make us feel, so it isn't helpful when a man points out to us that we're cranky because "it's that time of month." That doesn't accomplish anything and shows a lack of understanding and maturity. If, when you discuss her negative comments, she brushes you off or says it doesn't matter----well, there's your answer. If her attitude is that bad and it's affecting you so deeply, say goodbye and move on. olga
  14. You can also try this: most people throw their head back to swallow pills. However, if you bend your head forward (chin aiming to your chest), you are actually opening up the pathway for the pill. This is something that is suggested for elderly people, who often have difficulty taking pills. I would also increase the amount of water you're drinking with the pills. olga
  15. Hi, mels7, and welcome to Crazyboards. I just wanted you to know I read your post and it sounds like you have had a really difficult time. Is there a counseling office at your college? Maybe it would help to talk all of this over with a trained counselor. I'm sorry your ex is being such a jerk. Have you talked to a lawyer? It's possible that he should be paying you some alimony until you get on your feet. Also, if your name is on the deed of the house, he has no right to lock you out of the property. If you can't afford a lawyer, check with Legal Aid, and your local Dept of Social Services. I would also check in with the local services for domestic abuse----he may not have left a mark on your face, but he still assaulted you. Sometimes the people at shelters for battered women can help you press charges. olga
  16. My favorite one was an ophthalmologist. I have Glaucoma, and it's advanced in one eye, not so bad in the other. The doctor I was seeing (who was supposed to be a Glaucoma specialist) didn't like it when I started asking him about doing visual field tests and other things you're supposed to do for Glaucoma patients. I think he didn't like that I had read up on it and knew that he wasn't doing everything he was supposed to do. I said "I don't want to lose the vision in my right eye." His reply? "So what if you go blind in one eye? You still have the other one." I was so shocked that I was speechless. However, the shock didn't last long. I did my research and found a REAL specialist in a nearby city. I went back to this practice to get them to send my records to the new guy. I asked to see the practice manager and told her my story. Since I have really good insurance, I told her that they really screwed up because they lost a patient in her early 50s, who would have been coming there for 30 years if the care had been competent. Do your research, take notes, and report them if they're jerks. olga
  17. Welcome to Crazyboards. I'm glad you joined, and I hope we can provide some information and support. olga
  18. Welcome to Crazyboards. I hope we can help you in some way, and don't be afraid to send a PM to one of the staff if there is anything you don't understand. olga
  19. Rowan, I'm so sorry you lost your cousin and your friend. Damn cancer. olga
  20. I've been coloring for a year or so now, and I think I disagree with your tdoc. Yes, if it totally takes over from your creative work, it's not a good idea. But if you are in a "stress emergency" right now, coloring is better than using SI or alcohol to cope. I'm sorry things are so tough right now. olga
  21. Dances, I know we are a first-person site, but I have to relate something to you. My sweet Baboo has pretty much an iron gut. I can feed him spicy Mexican food, pizza, hot sausage, and lots of other foods that some people just can't eat. He chomps them down and has no problem. HOWEVER, he does have some anxiety issues. This manifests itself in various ways, but during one really difficult time in his life, his guts turned to water and he was stricken with hideous diarrhea. I wanted him to go to the doctor, but he kept putting it off. We were in the process of making a big change in our life, and the anxiety just threw his digestion totally out of whack. Once we actually made the change, he gradually got back to normal---but it is clear to me that your mind is most definitely linked to your digestion. He was taking a lot of Immodium during this period, and Maalox and Prilosec. I wish I had some Ativan or something to give him, because that was what he really needed. olga
  22. Yes, they cured my husband's dry eyes. He has the condition common in elderly people, when production of tears slows down and the eyes become dry and scratchy. He never used drops again once he started taking the flax seed oil. I take it because it's good for the heart and because my eyes are red and irritated from my Glaucoma drops. (I sometimes look like I'm totally stoned on weed because my eyes are so red. :D) Once I got faithful about taking it, the redness diminished a LOT. I like suggesting it because it's not terribly expensive and it's good for a couple of things in addition to your eyes. olga
  23. Welcome to Crazyboards! I'm glad you're here, and I hear you on the soul-crushing nature of depression. Hideous, horrible thing, is depression. Anyway, I hope that the therapist is effective. It doesn't sound like you are gaining much benefit from it---have you told the tdoc this? I would also question whether or not the meds are doing you any good. Do you see a psychiatrist? If not, who is prescribing them? That would be one avenue I would pursue: there are dozens of meds for depression, and perhaps Prozac is not the right one for you. I know it's hard to advocate for yourself when you are in the Black Pit, but keep fighting back and questioning your medical people. Everyone deserves to have a decent life. I hope it helps to come here and talk to us. We are your people. olga
  24. Beth, welcome to Crazyboards. It sounds like Cymbalta is not working great for you, but before you go off it, you might do some research. Have you checked for interactions between the meds you're on? I used to go to Drugs.com and put in the names of my meds just to make sure they would all play nicely together. I'm curious about the night sweats because I have two friends who got the sweats from Prozac, but I haven't heard of getting them from Cymbalta. I didn't have that side effect from Cymbalta when I was on it, but all of us are very different. I don't agree with your doctor that the weather causes night sweats, and I would be concerned about that as a side effect. However, I don't know if you should go off a medication without the assistance of a medical professional. People can have a hard time with going off Cymbalta, in terms of getting "brain zaps" and unpleasant side effects. I would try to hold on until you see the NP, and perhaps she will understand about the side effects and agree to let you begin to taper down. I don't have anything to suggest to you because I'm not an expert at this and it sounds like you have tried a lot of different meds. I'm glad you came here and I hope we can provide some support and information. This is a great group of nutz, so continue to ask questions and I hope you get some answers. olga
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