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  1. Since I've gone into remission with my depression and found myself in a better place with a job I love, I've noticed that two friends (who are sisters) are very critical of both me and my sister. While I was depressed, I would take what these two friends said about my sister as the truth, when I really knew it wasn't. Now that my sister is a mother, these two friends are critical of how my sister parents (neither friend has kids nor wants them) and I find myself desperately wanting to say something to them to just make them shut the hell up. I'm having trouble finding the words though. If I were to say something to defend my sister or myself, our friends would act like their opinion is the truth and therefore the only valid answer. I'm sick of their negativity and want to either cut them off completely or find a way to get the point across that I am through with their bullshit. Does anyone have any ideas?
  2. My parents had my cat declawed when she was a kitten (I was 14 at the time, so I really didn't have much of a say). She is now 15 years old and the absolute light of my life. When my parents found out what declawing actually was though, they didn't have any of their next cats declawed. I sometimes wonder if my cat hadn't gotten declawed if she wouldn't be as neurotic, but I'll never truly know.
  3. My sister usually gets delegated to host a New Year's party every year, but this year, she was fed up with always being the one to do it, so she didn't plan anything. She is also pregnant and going on a cruise with her husband on January 2nd, so it seemed pointless all around. My friend invited me over for a taco party on NYE and I asked if she invited my sister. She said that she figured my sister "would be inviting her own friends to their house and wouldn't want to come." My friend is VERY passive aggressive and even though my friend and her sister and my sister have all been friends for years, she always excludes my sister. I don't know what to do though. I texted my sister to see what she had planned for NYE. My loyalty will always lie with my sister and I frankly don't want to go to this party if my sister has been so blatantly not included. My friend takes everything personally and holds grudges for years. I'm not sure how to approach everything. I've talked to my therapist in the past about my friend and she believes my friend is just so unhappy in her own life that that is why she like this. Since I have been making great strides toward recovery from depression, I feel like the negativity from her is going to be a continuing problem. This topic has digressed a bit. But first of all, what should I do about NYE?
  4. I left for work and saw there were things stuffed in the mailbox, and I thought, I bet it's in there. I should grab it before someone else does. I didn't grab it though and found the package on the kitchen table, but it wasn't opened so I'm happy about that. ;-)
  5. I just have to say, I was about to give up, then wham bam thank you ma'am.
  6. I was 28 when I had my first date. I met him on a dating site and I was scared, but I went. I'd suggest seeing if there are any dating groups in your area like on meetup.com. If you aren't comfortable meeting someone in person right away, don't feel bad about it. If the person is pushing you to meet up, they aren't worth the stress. Meet up when you feel ready.
  7. On a spur of a moment, I decided to buy a vibrator from Amazon. I don't know why I feel weird about this. I'm in my late 20s, a virgin and I live with my parents, so the idea that my family could find this toy at some point has me worried, but I'll be honest, I've wanted one for a long time. Now I'm also scared that my mom will accidentally open the package when it comes because she doesn't always realize that the packages aren't for her. I'm really overthinking this too much.
  8. Last year I was working a job on overnights which ended up causing me to become very depressed (more than I already was) and ultimately suicidal. I quit the job and have been looking for work again the last several months. I have an interview tomorrow and while I have had a bunch of interviews this last month, I don't know if I should ever mention that I took a leave of absence to deal with my depression (which is practically gone now after 11 years). If I do mention it, what should I say or how much should I disclose? I don't know if it is important, but the job is for a client coordinator at a vet clinic.
  9. My parents have been telling me lately that my tone doesn't match what I'm saying. I'll ask my dad what he is watching and he starts getting angry because I apparently sounded like I was being critical of what he was watching. I was just simply curious about what was on. Another time my mom thought I was making fun of her when I brought up something from my childhood and I got upset (but didn't show it) because she thought that of me.
  10. I am currently living with my parents (rent-free at the moment) and as such, I eat dinner with them nearly every night. The problem is my mom chews in such a way that it always sounds like she's chewing with her mouth open (and sometimes actually is). I don't think I can even say anything about how it is driving me absolutely crazy because I am living here for free. I get so irritable after dinner because I've had to hear this for upwards of 30 minutes. I don't know what to do! I am desperately trying to get a job so I can move out, but at the moment it isn't possible. What would you do in my case?
  11. I have no savant abilities, but I do have an impeccable memory for certain things/facts like the TV show Castle, celebrity facts that no one would probably remember, birthdays (some of people I don't even remember their name, like my 1st grade locker buddy), maps (I can look at a map and figure out where to go without writing anything down, of course if I miss a turn, I usually have to pull out the GPS but only if I'm downtown).
  12. I've been applying for housing, but I don't qualify for a lot of them because I don't have a job and I've been denied disability several times.
  13. I was cat sitting for my sister while she was out of town last week and I finally realized how great I've been feeling. I get home (I live with my parents and brother) and my mom immediately starts nagging me about getting a job and moving out. I feel like I've reached the point where I can finally do things I want to do and actually live my life, but the moment I step into this house its like a prison. I'm miserable here and I'm working ridiculously hard to leave, but it never seems good enough for my mom. My mom is a teacher so she has the summer off and the solace I was feeling with her and my dad being gone in the day has vanished. I want to feel happy and be happy and just live, but every time I come home I just feel utter resentment and dismay at being around my parents. I don't understand what my mom is thinking. "I'll make Lys's life miserable after her being miserable for 11 years, just because I don't want her here." I haven't cried in months, but I started today. I'm not sure if the crying is because I'm feeling better and can actually cry or that I am just not doing as well as I thought.
  14. My opinion is that since autism is something I will never "get rid of" and it is who I am, I am autistic. I have depression but don't consider myself depressed because there is a possibility that the depression will no longer be there. Mental illnesses can go away, but autism is here to stay.
  15. What is your opinion on "person first" language when describing autism? Do you prefer being called someone with autism or autistic?
  16. Let's see, for me there has been interest in birds, presidents, Shania Twain, Julia Roberts, Who's The Boss?, baby names, dolls, manatees, angels, Bones (TV show), You've Got Mail, Castle (the current obsession), my cats, my birds, forensics/death. I still have a big interest in baby names, my cats, and of course Castle.
  17. I live with my parents right now and my bedroom is in the basement across the hall from my parents' room and against the stairs. My brother also lives here and he seems incapable of walking down stairs like a normal person. He has to barrel down them like some sort of maniac. Every time he does this, I get a panicky feeling and my heart speeds up. I have asked him numerous times to stop, but he doesn't. My mom claims that she doesn't even think he can (which I know he can because when my parents aren't awake he walks like a normal person). I have been having A LOT of issues with noises lately though. My dad is always clearing his throat or coughing and every time he does, I get tense and panicky again. Every time I hear my brother talking, I get tense and panicky. I try to get things done in my bedroom (homework, job searching, etc.) but I can't focus because I am just anticipating when the next time my brother makes a bunch of noise. I do not know how to deal with this. I am financially incapable of living on my own at the moment, but even if I could, I don't think I could handle living in an apartment since apartments are notorious for not being quiet.
  18. If they don't want to hear about your cats they probably wouldn't be stopping by to talk with you.
  19. I had a sleep study done last night and I slept for about 8 hours. I wore a CPAP the entire time while they adjusted the pressure. I woke up this morning feeling somewhat dizzy and just kind of off. I got home and ended up conking out again for about 6 hours. I am not normally like this. If I sleep for 8-10 hours and wake up naturally, I will be fine throughout the day and not require a nap. Now it has been about 11 hours since I woke up from my "nap" and I have a headache and I'm super tired. Is there something with adjusting pressure settings that would make me this lethargic and wonky?
  20. I am definitely not a single episode type. I've been struggling with this episode for the last 11 years. I had my first depression episode at age 14 though.
  21. I've been feeling a hell of a lot better the last month or so and I was wondering how long it is expected to be on antidepressants once you've recovered. I know a month isn't very long and I'm not ready to go off of them, but is it typical for people to stay on them for years even after being better for that long? Is depression even "curable" or is it like MS or something where there are relapses that you will just have to deal with when they happen? ETA: Ack! I always forget there are other forums like the Antidepressant one that would probably be more appropriate for this topic.
  22. From my understanding there are some people with ASDs who have a consistent obsession throughout their life, then there are those who go through numerous phases when it comes to their obsessions. I am a cyclical obsessive and after my Bones obsession ended in 2012, I went without obsessing over anything for nearly a year when I discovered Castle. Now I feel myself losing interest in Castle a little bit and it kind of scares me. I don't want to give it up, but I feel like I can't control keeping it around. The weird thing is that this feeling that I'm losing interest only started today after I found out the main actress on the show, Stana Katic got married this past weekend. This actually happened with Bones when Emily Deschanel got married while I was a fan. Castle almost feels like a drug that I'm scared to give up. I'm not sure what to do next.
  23. I think I just figured out why I have been going so often lately. I did not know Lexapro causes you to go more. I started in October and I'm currently at 40mg and I'm really tired of having to go to the bathroom like every hour.
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