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  1. I do agree that it is a fairly DBT focused thing, personally I wish it wasn't, because I think that is part of why a lot of professionals aren't knowledgeable about it. I do think though that it is also likely that a more trauma informed professional will have at least some knowledge on it. That's where most of my education came from, anyways, as I found DBT to not be adequate in that department. Although, to be quite frank, most of my education came from my own research because the professionals I have seen just didn't have it, which is rather unfortunate. If it is a more mood dysregulation problem, the med increase should help in theory.
  2. Another thing that I have always found perculiar about this topic is that there are different categories of it, or at least that has been how it has been described/conceptualised to me. Usually that is done by separating it into emotion dysregulation, mood dysregulation and affect dysregulation, they are similar but slightly different when you look deeper. It has been explained to me that emotion dysregulation is referring to more fickle emotions themselves, such as guilt, shame, anger etc, and any issue residing from poor regulation of the specific emotion. Whereas mood dysregulation is more about mood, a longer term, broader range of emotions type thing, where depressive and manic states would be at the extreme end of, poor ability to regulate more complex emotion and mood states, and affect dysregulation is more a problem of how you personally experience and express both, and the inability to modulate that experience in a functional way, if that makes any sense.
  3. Don't mean to barge into a board I don't belong in, but in my experience, it depends on the individual, although it seems to be better known amongst therapists, I guess because they are the ones doing the most work with you, pdoc's are primarily for meds, and usually emotional dysregulation is a therapy topic because it resides from things where meds can't/shouldn't be the primary intervention.
  4. I should wear a shirt to appointments with professionals that says "I'm sorry that you find it impossible to believe the seriousness of my words, but my blank face is not a ticket to emotionally manipulate me, jackass".
  5. The 2 major differences are that neurotypical people with social anxiety disorder do not have our core traits of stereotypy (repetitive behaviour and movements) or limited, fixated interests. The others that I can think of is that a lot of us are socially anhedonic, and for us anxiety isn't the dominant feature in our people issues, we literally can't people because we communicate in such a different way that neurotypical people often think we don't communicate in English. Neurotypical people with social anxiety disorder also don't self-regulate with self-stimulatory behaviours either, and our sensory issues/challenges aren't driven by anxiety alone, we have them because our brains aren't the same, more specifically the way our brain processes stimuli isn't the same, whether that is sensory stimuli or otherwise. And of course, social anxiety disorder is an illness, autism is not, it is a vital part of who we are as people. But of course, like Iceberg said, in order to know for sure, you need to be assessed professionally.
  6. I don't think it does much, personally. Its something, but its far from providing any substantial impact.
  7. To be honest, the main reason why I'm not buying the whole "people are unsure" is because it doesn't make sense to apologise when you could just say that and ask the person how to help if you are so interested in doing so, instead of talking from your perspective.
  8. "I'm sorry that happened". Literally putting yourself first and talking from your perspective. The experience isn't yours. You aren't responsible, you aren't guilty, so there is no reason to apologise. You are putting your emotional reaction first. It makes the impact of the experience on the person seem less. Its not about being unsure how to help. Anyone with common sense knows that they can't help in a significant way in this scenario. You literally wrote that yourself. If you can't help, it looks phoney when you try to because you aren't acting authentically. I have no criticism towards people who can't relate, I just wish they wouldn't try to when they can't. I don't think that they can't do anything right either. Just that they don't always have a place to comment and should be more aware of their limitations instead of acting like they have none. It isn't their fault they can't relate but they shouldn't act like they can.
  9. Also, because you're adding yourself to an experience you didn't have. It doesn't make sense. Who does that unless they feel forced and obliged to?
  10. Its not the sorry that is a lie/fake. It is the attempt to relate or help when you know you can't. Acting like you have to respond when you don't. Saying sorry for something you aren't responsible for.
  11. Right, and this is part of why the comment is trite and empty. Its also why it sounds disingenuous. If they know this, then they should act accordingly instead of acting as if they can relate and can help. Doing that comes across as phoney and it gives off a forced vibe. If you can't do something, then be honest about it instead of faking it. Not only does this exacerbate the disconnection that Wooster mentioned, but it doesn't help you any either. There's nothing wrong with saying you can't relate and or can't help. Truth is always better than lies and faking.
  12. I have tried it, and personally it had no effect on me other than to make me more of a numb zombie like the vast majority of psych meds do. It is worth adding that I was put on it for suicidality and not MDD as a whole. It did nothing for my suicidality, and besides the above, it did nothing and was more like a sugar pill. I took it both as an adjunct and as monotherapy, same statement applies to both.
  13. You're replying to me as if I am not also treatment resistant. You've experienced one thing I have not, you know what it is like to not have severe depression. I do not. Mine has never lifted ever since I developed it. Yes, it is true that healthy people only experience suffering intermittently. But a spade is a spade, and the way you communicate about your affliction impacts it. If something ought not need a label, there is no reason to give it one to magnify or reduce it in attempt of gaining validation. Hence why I said it is futile to compare suffering. Yes, it is one of the reasons we are more likely to kill ourselves. It is not however a guarantee that we will. Suffering is a guarantee. I am not trying to undermine your suffering. Merely suggesting that you reconsider how you communicate and think about it, and stop adding fuel to the fire before you burnout.
  14. Plus, I'll be honest, I didn't choose to be brought into this world or to endure the lifetime of abuse and other traumas I have, nor is it my choice as to when and how I die, but it is my choice to not expose myself to further abuse in some scenarios, and I apply that choice when it comes to disengaging with such a mental health system. I won't subject myself to that anymore, I don't deserve to be treated like that and it is my right to walk away from it whether people approve of my choice or not.
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