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  1. Have been busy working at my new job at the pet store. Loving taking photos of pups for a living and helping with their grooming! This, however, means I haven't had much time for CB lately. Just wanted to let you all know that I am still around and thinking of the friends I've made here 💟 Hope everyone is well. Feel free to drop me a line here if ever you might want to catch up :) 

    1. Antecedent


      sounds brilliant! :) So happy for you :)

    2. Gearhead



    3. Wonderful.Cheese


      Sounds awesome! You sound very happy! I’m very glad to hear this! :) 

  2. Wife here. I did, indeed, develop Zyprexa-induced diabetes. Come to find out from my current psychiatrist, this is a known effect of Zyprexa. Anyways, that's a whole other story. I had issues wetting the bed, increased thirst, and my A1C was ridiculously high. I think Angeni is correct about the precise number. I also almost went into diabetic ketoacidosis. They nearly had to move me from the psychiatric hospital to the regular. It all happened very suddenly. I remember being okay, and then all of the sudden, the symptoms of increased thirst and loss of control of my bladder came on. Within a week, I was hospitalized. I think you have every right to discuss this with your doctor. Keep in mind, I am only own person and can only speak for my own experience, but for me, it got very ugly very fast. This is definitely a valid concern. All the best to you, Chee ❤️
  3. Quit my call centre job. After nearly a year. This new project I was moved to after 'Rona took my original one, was just way too much for me. I start a new position on Monday. Cheers to the transition and change anxiety 😅
  4. Start training for my new job role tomorrow. I will be a technical support agent now. After nearly 3 weeks of training without access to the computer system for the sales position that they moved us all to when the insurance company we worked for left, and me hunting down and nagging at many members of upper management and HR, they finally gave me a program transfer. Only because I played the autism card 🙄 They made it very clear a program transfer would not have happened if it were not related to my disability. I had stated I would not be able to adequately perform the sales role due to my autism. They wanted 8 pitches and rebuttals daily, or we were at risk of losing our jobs. Oh. hell. to. the. no.
  5. I live in Canada, and from what I understand, my province (Ontario) is slowly reopening. Hard to say for sure as I don’t have cable TV which makes it harder to keep up with the news. Online articles can often be wrong, I’ve found. I think it’s too soon. I may have the unpopular opinion here, and I know a lot of people are tired of quarantine, I am too. I feel like reopening things so soon is just asking for more trouble though. Did we learn nothing from the Spanish flu in the 1920’s? My mom and I were just talking about that the other day, actually 🤔
  6. Glad to see you're somewhat adjusting and coping, Gear I really wish we had autism peer support groups where I live. Anything to do with autism and adults is so limited in my province in Ontario, and most services require you to be 'lower functioning.' Forgive me, I don't like functioning labels, but I can't think of a better way to phrase it at this moment. I find myself getting some of my support through FB groups for adults and women on spectrum, and the Twitter Actually Autistic community. I have some friends who are on spectrum as well, but a lot of the time I feel isolated. Getting my official diagnosis allowed me to breathe a big, deep breath, and go, 'Ahhh! Okay, good! I'm not a broken neurotypical, I'm a perfectly fine autistic. I just think and feel differently than some others.' A lot of people have accused me of not being empathetic enough, I've also learned through my diagnosis journey that this is not the case. I do lack some cognitive empathy, because I can't imagine what it's like to be anyone other than me, but I've also realized that some people think I'm unempathetic and not supportive because I don't provide emotional support in the ways they find most beneficial. I tend to be logical and to try and help to find practical solutions, sometimes mixed with validation, sometimes not, depending on the situation. Now I've learned to accept myself as I am, and to realize that people need to speak up if they need something from me or I am doing something ineffectively. We are all adults. Using our words and communicating is paramount. I went off on a tangent.. Bringing this back in, I really wish we had an autism support group around here. I'd love to help others and give back, as well as get support myself ❤️ Let me also just say, pets are so therapeutic to me. I saw you mention dogs. I love my two cats beyond words, and they really help me to feel less alone too. They help me get out of bed every morning by meowing for food
  7. Anyone else finding the change of routines, and changes to really, oh, *everything* in the world right now is triggering their autism? I feel far more stressed than usual. More sensory and emotional overload, more meltdowns. 🤦‍♀️
  8. Festive, seasonal depression. Luckily, still functioning for now.
  9. I work Christmas Day this year. Crapitalism sucks 😡 That is all.

    1. Angeni Mai
    2. Simba Cub

      Simba Cub

      Ouch. I am sorry to hear that :(

    3. FairyBelle


      Update: I survived. Thank you both for the sympathy 🙂


  10. Got my official, formal, on paper diagnosis on 11/21/2019. Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 1. Was informally, verbally diagnosed until then. Feels pretty normal, nothing has changed, except I no longer question if I’m absolutely correct and not lying when I say I’m autistic now 😊
  11. It’s late, you’re asleep, and I don’t want to awake you with a text. But I want you to know, I love you to the 🌙 and back. Always ❤️ 

    1. Angeni Mai

      Angeni Mai

      I love you every bit as much 💕

  12. I personally think your therapist saying that just might be enough, Argh. My life has been so hectic. I was just granted full time hours at my work placement. My wife is coming back this Friday, bringing my mother-in-law and aunt-in-law with her for the ride. They will be returning home later this weekend, and only staying in our city for a bit of Friday evening. My wife is staying here with me permanently. I’m really fearful that I may be scheduled in for this Friday now, and miss seeing my in-laws, which kind of makes me sad. I won’t get my schedule until tomorrow, and I need Sunday and Monday off. I emailed my employment coach about this, and he called my boss, then called me back. He told me I have to ask for it when I go in tomorrow, but that they are now aware of it. A lot of stress lately, and definitely a lot different from my work training program, which was a steady schedule of Monday-Friday, from 9-4:30. They were also very accommodating and understanding of my disability, AKA, my autism. No one even knows about my autism at my current job, I chose to not disclose. Sometimes that complicates things. Keep your fingers crossed for me that if I’m scheduled in for Friday, I get off work at a decent time. Even better yet, cross your fingers for no Friday shift at all. Also, please keep your fingers crossed for my getting my Sunday and Monday off approved 🤞🏻
  13. I work for a youth centre. It was for a social event. Right now I’m in a paid work training program at said youth centre. The second phase of this program, I’ll go to a job placement in the community. Did you have a good day, Gear? It seems uneventful, which are the types of days I like, personally.
  14. I’m glad you got your bathroom fixed up, Gear. Your doggy sounds sweet, I love dogs 🐶 ❤️ Today was a lousy work day. Loud, live music during gathering lead to me covering my ears. Which lead to a coworker getting upset and calling me rude and disrespectful. Leading to another coworker telling her I’m not rude, just autistic. I left the room eventually, flapping and wringing my hands, because I uncovered my ears as to not be rude. This caused sensory overload. I then had a meltdown in another room, rocking and crying. Two coworkers came in to console me. That was the only positive.
  15. Tomorrow is the big day. First day of work 😺❤️

    1. Wonderful.Cheese


      Congrats and good luck!

    2. echolocation


      wow, congratulations! you're going to do great!

  16. Thanks Gear. 😊 Your friend’s cat sounds like a typical kitty, but I know that can be a real PITA. Not much new here. Friday I went clothing shopping and helped my grandma get her new iPhone. Saturday I saw the Detective Pikachu movie with my friend Sam, then slept over at her house. Now we’re just about to have breakfast. It’s been a pretty good few days, tomorrow will be my first day of paid ‘work.’ I’m ready.
  17. Oh good, people are sharing. I’m glad to hear you got your new pens in the mail, Gearhead. Sounds exciting 😊 Thanks for participating, Cerberus. No worries if it isn’t daily, I’m just trying to get some people talking in this section of the forums. I hope you don’t get the sniffles and your cat is alright. Good news for me today, I got hired on for the paid training program I’ve been trying to get into. I was told about my poor eye contact and social skills, I did my best to work on them, and today I was taken aside and told that due to taking the direction and implementing it, and all of my growth, I would be offered a position in the paid training program. I’m so excited, one step closer to have a paid job after! 😃
  18. Hi all. I wanted to attempt to create a thread for autistic members to come in and chat, give updates on their day to day lives, etc. This section of the board isn’t very lively, which I find to be a shame. Perhaps we can change that. I’ll start. Today has been uneventful. Made some phone calls, fed some pets, did some chores. One incident of sensory overload. Have work tomorrow and an appointment after work.
  19. I can tell you that when I took antipsychotic medication, my glasses prescriptions changed a lot. I asked my optometrist, and was informed that sometimes medication can affect your eye sight. I don't believe that it can cause eye disease though. Sometimes blue light (what is in a phone screen or iPad screen) can make a person's eyes dry or tired as well, which affects their vision. Hopefully you get this sorted soon. All the best to you.
  20. I love you, my Deery Lou ?

  21. Breakfast: check ✔️ Eggs. Dance exercises: done  ✔️Shower and morning hygiene routine: completed ✔️Listening to Jolie ring her bell and scurry around: priceless ❤️? Now just waiting for my mom to get home so we can go to the hairdresser's and then go out to take pictures together. ?

  22. Being autistic and a sexual assault survivor, I see a lot of different points of view. I've given the creepy stares, and I've gotten them. There's a point where people are held accountable for their actions no matter what, even in the case of autism. (This I would know, since being autistic did not get me out of a few wrong things I've done in my life.) I would hope that appropriate intervention is given these days, so that people with autism know at least enough boundaries to be able to stay out of trouble, and harm's way. I've been fortunate enough to have people looking out for me in my life, to teach what is appropriate and what isn't. Some days I do forget though. I think the biggest issue is when do people have to take the fall (responsibility, blame) for their actions, despite their disability. And I really do see it as it depends upon the severity and nature of the autism, and perhaps a conversation with the autistic individual and family members of such individual, should something like that happen, and giving them the right and benefit of being able to speak for themselves and defend themselves with an advocate present. (As a side note, odd or "creepy" looks are one thing, full on sexual assault is different, and spreading it over social media is never a kind thing to do to anyone, period. That's your personal business, and honestly, it may be best to keep it as such.) I know my opinion may be a little bit of an unpopular one, but it is just that, an opinion.
  23. I was given a diagnosis as a teenager. The only thing that accomplished was allowing me to have an educational assistant in school. I didn't have any other support. I lived in a residential treatment center at that time, for my Bipolar disorder and other strange behaviors. AKA I was too much to handle at home, so I was placed in res for observation and to find out what was really going on with me psychologically, as no doctor I'd seen since the age of 14 had been able to figure that out yet. My diagnosis seemed to be, and really still is, just purely "educational". That's at least how I see it. It did not gain me any services, support, etc. It was just knowledge for my family and I to have, so that we all could best deal with it in the ways we were capable of. Dealing with it to me just means being aware of it, dealing with it to family means telling me to not act in certain ways in public, or even at home, because it's annoying or upsetting to them. To me, diagnosis in my childhood meant nothing, other than everyone knowing what they were in for, for the rest of my life. Thank you Dr. H... Ugh. I do suppose though that diagnosis as an adult would have made my depression and feelings of being so isolated, strange, and "wrong" worse.
  24. Angeni and I did end up getting married, and my wife really is not as bad with my autistic symptoms as she's written about here. She is a good, sweet, kind person who loses sight of some things in life from time to time. My meltdowns do get a lot for anyone to handle, a lot of my issues are that of the sensory nature. Sensory input overload is my downfall. I do have a hard time with identifying my emotions as well, and then handling them. My facial expressions are inappropriate, my tone is monotonous or inappropriate, I can be hurtful without meaning to be so, I seem to be rude without realizing or meaning to do so either. I was diagnosed with Asperger's at 17, as well as Bipolar disorder. I personally have not been the most kind support to Angeni in the past, and for that, I owe her an apology. I understand why she came to this section of CB to get advice on my autistic behaviours. For the majority of my life, they have presented as a challenge to anyone who is close with me, to get me to open myself to others and their feelings. I really do lack empathy and the ability to put myself into another individual's position or situation. I can't imagine their positions for myself. I do lack imagination to an extent, and that "theory of mind". Some of these things have been on me as well. However, I am pleased to say, we have sorted out a lot of these things. I am not the easiest person to be around 24/7, being that I do have mental illness (Bipolar) and ASD, as well as suspected Spina Bifida that I am currently undergoing medical testing for. Sometimes things have to fall apart to fall back together, is how I see all of this. Thank you to everyone for their advice.
  25. I'm an a-flacking T-rex!

    1. Angeni Mai

      Angeni Mai

      What the  ....? You're a nut!


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