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  1. I've had this pattern with a lot of things in the past. I'm not having it so much with the current situation (though it hitting me still comes in waves). I can definitely relate to what you describe
  2. @sugarsugar I think they have been out, or at least so low that it's been frequently unavailable to many workers. Some of the things you described are in progress, and their hospital actually just got a batch of equipment. I've got to spend some time figuring out which things I can still help with at a distance. I sent her a gift of a care package to try to keep her spirits up
  3. I think that especially in modern times the economy has big components that are conceptual rather than physical. Most of our basic necessities like food and shelter still exist in good quantities and if financial forces try to block people from them that is an artificial scarcity more then a true lack of resources
  4. Things are getting to me today. I've been talking a friend who is a medical resident in another part of Canada. During the pandemic I've been trying to send her pictures and such as a pick me up. Recently I learned her hospital has run into a shortage of PPE and now she doesn't have masks. Many of their supplies were stolen. I am angry and afraid. Partly it's personal. I don't consider my friend low risk in terms of her own health. She doesn't have the option to stop treating people, both from her own morals and probably from the rules of the province and the hospital (doctors in her area haven't been allowed to travel out of province for weeks). Partly it's more general. Her ability to help people is important, and it needs to be protected. Healthcare providers having protective equipment is the best thing for all of us. Doctors, nurses, etc who get sick can't work and we really, really need them at work. I'm trying to figure out a way to help her, but I can't come up with anything. I figure that if masks were available for purchase then her hospital would also be buying them. I don't know what I can do, and I worry that's because there actually isn't anything I can do. Does anyone know of any options?
  5. I've been doing a few things: Try to make the space I work in as functional and pleasant as possible Try to create a new structure/routine for working from home to replace the one I had with going to the office Pay attention to continuing the strategies that help at the office. For me these include background music, talking through ideas with coworkers, breaking tasks into small chunks, etc Allow myself to be a bit less productive. These are stressful times
  6. I'm working remotely, so I only have a bit more free time than before. A lot of things are still similar for me, but they feel very different. I've been trying to find relevant replacements for the structure and the activities that have stopped. Things like yoga, walks, and video calls are pretty common. My household started some organizing projects a few months ago. Now that we're home all the time those are getting a lot of attention. I've had to try to pace myself, because I was going overboard at first. I'd like to cook more, but don't have the particular ingredients for the things I want to try. I might be able to get them in a while.
  7. I'm struggling with similar things. Much of my life is similar during social distancing, but even though most of the changes are small, there are a lot of them. I find change stressful. I wish I didn't, but I do. So many changes at once, even though they are mostly small, is disorienting as well. I'm telling myself that this will get easier over time as the new systems become familiar. I'm trying to be gentle with myself during the transition. I hope things will get easier for you, too
  8. This is also a problem for me, but in my case most of that change happened when I wasn't on meds. Over the 20 years I've been dealing with mental health problems I've only been on medication for about 5 (half of that time was back in college and half of that time is recently). For me it seems like this 'fade to grey' is either the progression of the illness itself or a sort of burnout that comes from the effort of trying to cope.
  9. I'm also similar in a number of ways. My new "baseline" (going on 15 years now) is mild sadness, moderate anhedonia, and large issues with motivation. I'm currently starting to improve on stimulant meds, but have only been on them for a month. My current working theory for myself is that this combo of symptoms is largely from ADHD with only a bit of depression on the side. These are the things that don't improve when I manage to get out of severe depression. I don't have SAD, so no thoughts on that, but I have strong opinions about laziness. I think the word lazy gets wildly overused and I basically dislike it as a concept. You are describing a state where things are much more difficult. Trying to climb Mount Everest and only making it to base camp isn't lazy. Neither is being faced with Mount Everest and being intimidated by the challenge and finding it difficult to start. Labelling behavior as lazy treats it as if the difficulty is similar for everyone and it's not
  10. I don't have technical suggestions but I'm cheering for you
  11. The anger at yourself probably improves by working on forgiving yourself. The anger at him may require taking away his power by starting to view him as less important. There are likely other strategies as well but those are the ones that I have thought of so far
  12. The oversleeping and the overspending both sound to me like they could be related to the Ritalin change
  13. A number of things help: time passing, therapy, forgiving myself, changing the way I talk to myself about the topic. All of those things are a process, but by going through that process things will start to improve
  14. This is unfortunately a common pattern in unhealthy relationships. The person says and does very hurtful things but also does kind and caring things in order to keep the relationship going. It can be intentional manipulation or it can be a reflection of someone who is in a volatile state, but whether it's on purpose or by mistake it's a bad pattern that hurts the relationship and hurts the other person. It's not stupid to miss him, because there was part of him that you liked, even if him as a whole was bad for you Some people are like your ex, but some people aren't. There are many people who want to be in healthy, happy relationships and those people won't treat you that way. It can take some practice to figure out which group a person belongs to, but once you've had some time to heal you will be able to sort through the red flags with your ex and be more able to spot them in others
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