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  1. So I think a branding change happened here right before I started taking lamotrigine. I was given Logem and my psychiatrist was surprised by the brand change (he had prescribed Lamictal). He expressed no concerns about this though. 

    Today I saw this article in the daily news: https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/health/115711290/taranaki-man-fearful-drug-funding-change-will-bring-back-a-life-of-seizures

    Basically this epilepsy sufferer has been taking Lamictal, which was previously funded by the govt here, but the change to Logem means that only Logem will be funded and Lamictal will now cost hundreds of dollars for anyone to get. What I don't understand is why is it a problem to change to Logem when both Logem and Lamictal are just different brands of the same drug? The article makes it sound like pharmac are now funding an entirely different drug. 

    Are there differences between different brands of the same medication? I suppose if one brand is cheaper then it must be made up of some different ingredients? 


  2. On 9/12/2019 at 2:34 PM, Hume's doona said:

    yesterday got to 20C! (68F)

    round numbers are special


    today is typical melbourne spring. 4 seasons in one day 

    It's like that here too (Taranaki, NZ)

    Today was a beautiful day after some cold rainy ones.

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  3. 4 hours ago, argh said:

    If you're looking for supplements that may help, you should look into NAC and magnesium citrate.

    NAC did have a tangible effect but when I take it with lamotrigine it makes me spacey..might be because it supposedly acts as a glutamine modulator.

    I don't take magnesium anymore because of it's interactions with gabapentin.

    What's NAC? I used to take magnesium to help with sleep and aches. Not sure NAC is approved here, we don't have GABA. 

  4. I've been using Daylio to track my moods and it's great because it gives you stats and a monthly graph and stuff. It doesn't track sleep though. 

    Edit: OMG what a dunce. Had a brain fart. I see you are trying Daylio, lol. 

    @argh what's your miband like? Is it good? I've been thinking about getting the 4. I have a xiaomi phone and I'm a bit of a xiaomi fangirl. 

  5. Another Q. If I wanted another child I'd definitely have to stop lamotrigine right? My pdoc did say they prescribe it in pregnancy but I've seen other stuff about it online that seems to suggest otherwise. And in breastfeeding it'd be a no-go right? 

    Hubby and I are happy with just our one at the moment but are open to the possibility of having another kid later (like years later). But I am loving this med so it'd be a real shame to have to come off and go back on an SSRI. 

  6. 8 hours ago, Juniper29 said:

    I had a baby with medical problems and didn’t get a whole lot of likes. In fact one relative told me one of the pictures I shared on Facebook was inappropriate (just because of medical stuff, it’s not like anyone was naked).

    Omg that sucks. And what an insensitive thing for your relative to say. People whose children have medical problems need help the most :(

    3 hours ago, notloki said:

    Tell them what you want/need. Normal people have no reference point for how they can help with your mental illness. Examples are not on TV so they are lost. So say "look I am very depressed right now and it would really help me if someone would make me a meai."

    Good point. At my worst I find it very very hard to ask for help. I have actually tried before, I asked my mum if she could make some meals when I was about to give birth and she just said" you won't need anything like that". 

    3 hours ago, Gearhead said:

    My mother has an eating disorder and MDD, and she’s worse than useless when it comes to helping with my mental health. It doesn’t matter where I am mentally; it’s always my job to cheer her up.

    That's incredibly hard. My sister is a bit like that. It's draining and feels so tiresome when the help is not reciprocal. 

    In my original post I wasn't referring to people struggling with their own serious MI who of course do not have the capacity to help. I was meaning those who are healthy and fine. You could argue that people probably have their own problems in secret which is true, but I know for a fact that some of my family members could help because I see them helping out others in the family, but overlook me even when I tell them I am not well. 

    1 hour ago, ananke said:

    A very bitter irony is that the people most able to help and relate are usually too drained from trying to cope with themselves. I've had to step back from people in a bad place because two crises don't tend to make things better for anyone. 

    Yeah, I wasn't referring to those people. I have friends who I know have MI struggles of their own and I never ever ask them for help. 

    1 hour ago, ananke said:

    I might sound like a real sh*tbag for this, but if a forum isn't giving you what you need emotionally, it might be better to either be very direct and give concrete instructions, or if people still fail to get the message, not use that forum for that emotional need.

    I don't actually use fb for emotional needs most of the time and if I do I lock it down to only close people, so it's really disappointing when my family ignore it. Honestly I've tried talking face to face with my parents and they don't get it. My mother would rather die than talk about emotional problems. I guess that's why she drowns herself in alcohol every weekend. I know I should just accept that my family are useless. And often I do, but sometimes when I'm really desperately depressed I just wish someone was looking out for me. 

    45 minutes ago, Rabbit37 said:

    I know that in a general sense, if I hear “please help”, I start cringing, but if it’s a request for a specific thing, if I can do it, I’ll do it. 

    I guess the conundrum is that I want people to help of their own choosing, I don't want to ask in case they feel pressured or don't want to do the thing. At my worst I am thinking, I need help, but I am such a burden. 

    I'm probably just being a bitch about the whole thing. Kinda wishing I hadn't posted this topic. 

  7. @Sync in what way is your bite messed up? I'm just curious because years ago a dentist discovered that I have more than one bite, like I can bite together in more than one position if that makes sense? I have a funky jaw. :( but it sounds like your bite is causing you lots of pain? 

    Oh man dental work is expensive. My hubby's lower teeth are bunched together at the front because of a tooth that grew in the wrong place. I keep telling him he could get it fixed but he doesn't want to spend the money, lol. Ahhh what is it called when teeth are all bunched together... I should know this because I did a short stint as a dental assistant! 


  8. 17 minutes ago, onsenseal said:

    I wish they weren't like this. There are few things worse than watching a loved one trying to help but being unable to. I have to hide most of my problems, because if my mom figured out the mental health history, I'd be afraid she would do something to herself. If they didn't care, my life would be so much easier.

    But it sounds like they are unable to because you won't let them? Why not just let someone help a little? You don't have to tell them your mental health history. There are few things worse than trying to help someone you love and they won't let you. 

  9. Firstly, curly hair is not ugly! It just needs a certain kind of care and not many people really know how to care for it. Have a Google for the "curly girl" method (not just for girls!) and you'll learn a bit. Curly hair shouldn't be combed when dry. If you must comb it, do it in the shower or just after the shower when it's still wet. Anyway, if you Google you'll find more info. You don't have to do the full method (I don't) but you can take any parts that work for you and roll with it. It'll take some patience and experimentation. Also, never underestimate the power of a good haircut. 

    I'm not overweight but I relate with the impulsive eating. I'd start by looking at what you think could be driving your impulse to eat. Is it for comfort? Do you do it when stressed? When angry? To harm yourself? I do it for all of the above. Your doctor might be able to refer you to counselling for it. Otherwise, you could try finding an Overeaters Anonymous meeting in your area, if you are open to that. Are you taking any medications? Some meds can stimulate appetite. 

    Being 16 is a really rough time. Teenagers are brutal. I got picked on for just about everything and my self esteem sucked. Hang in there. Haters gonna hate. Fuck em. What they say is a reflection of them, not of you. 

    Gyms aren't the only way to exercise. A couple years ago I installed an app on my phone called couch to 5k. It got me from no running, no running 5km in about 9 weeks. From there I worked my way up to 10km. It was the healthiest I've ever been and it was free (aside from buying a really good pair of running shoes). But there's also walking which is a highly underrated exercise. An hour's walk each day could really help you. 

    I know it's hard, but try not to focus on weight loss and instead focus on healthy lifestyle changes. Try changing just one thing at a time. If you try to change everything at once you won't be able to stick to it. You could try adding a starter salad to your lunch, or a big bowl of steamed vegetables, then follow up with a smaller portion of what you'd normally have. Foods high in fibre will help satiate you for longer. Just try and change one thing each week. You will face setbacks and that's okay. If you want to succeed I firmly believe you'll need to learn to be kind to yourself. Putting yourself down is very demotivating. 

    I hope this doesn't all sound preachy. I certainly don't have it all together. I think really you'll come a long way by addressing the psychological aspect of your eating problems. Good luck! 

  10. I get that not everyone understands what it's like having mental illness. That's not a problem. But there is SO much talk of mental illness these days - on social media, in the news... Calls to improve mental health services, lower the suicide rate, ask your mates if they're OK, look out for each other, speak up if you're struggling etc. But when you actually do speak up about it you get mostly ignored. 

    If I tell friends or family that I'm not doing well, they'll just say something like "that sucks, I hope you feel better soon". Just once I wish someone would say "can I cook you a meal?" or "can I clean your house a bit?" or "want me to look after your daughter for an hour so you can have a break?". I don't want my friends and family to know what to say or have a magical fix for me. I just want them to offer to help in a practical way. 

    Once I got so low that I actually asked for help on Facebook, I was going through bad PND when my daughter was a baby, and I asked if anyone could drop off a meal. A guy who was only an acquaintance cooked like 6 dinners for us and dropped them off. I was immensely grateful, it was awesome. Meanwhile, my parents, sister and closest friends sent me well wishes and did nothing. 

    My mother comments on / likes anything I post about cats, but if I say a single thing about depression or anxiety she is absolutely silent. 

    I just feel so let down by the majority of people in my life. I hardly even tell my friends or family when I need help now. And then I see more posts on social media about how people need to reach out when they're struggling. How about the healthy people try reaching in for fucking once? 

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  11. On 8/23/2019 at 11:52 AM, Sync said:

    I finally made an appointment with the dentist that I've been putting off for like a year and a half. Fingers crossed they'll fix my messed up bite.

    That's a big step when you've been putting it off. Good on you! You reminded me I need a dental checkup also, lol. But for the first time in my life I'm scared to go (have previously never had any dentist anxiety!) because my teeth get twinges of pain now when poked around. 😧

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