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  1. Solar eclipse... Except it's just too cloudy to make out details.
  2. This had better be what exhaustion feels like, because I don't want to have to believe it can get worse than this. Except I know it can. Chris
  3. By whose measuring-stick? And hello, too! Chris
  4. It's far more nuanced. I strongly suspect that far more than an exultant "we've caught an terrorist!" it's a case of "she's young, we don't want her setting an example other to other British teenagers, so is there *anything* was can actually charge her with in this messy situation which will keep her out of Syria while the law and the situation is re-evaluated?" "The charges against Ozcelik are understood to relate to the Kurdistan Workers party (PKK), which is outlawed in Britain and has spent decades fighting the Turkish army in a separatist conflict." ...since in any but an over-simplistic presentation the Kurds are not just "the good guys", here. Any more than Iran is for supplying and to some extent staffing the Shia militias which are some of the more effective units amongst those attacking ISIS in Tikrit. (Hang on, isn't barely-covert supply of munitions and manpower what the West *accuses" Putin of in the Ukraine? Ah, it's OK if it's in a cause we approve of...?) If she comes to trial and gets a heavy sentence I'll revise my position, but I still think this is considered by British a temporary legal expedient in lieu of any better move in a political and military mess. Chris
  5. To Sir Terry Pratchett, Wizard. My life has been better for having had your life's influence on it.
  6. Just one comment now, then. I love (sarcasm) true statements that are given in a context that makes them positively misleading. "she said that some people with sensory processing issues have glasses but actually don't need them." True. Bur this shades into a tiny minority compared to those who need them and don't have them, and also to those who have them because they're appropriate. If presenting possibilities, present all of them in some sort of proportion, or the isolated term is largely unweighable. Given a sample size of (world or national population) it's a pretty fair bet that there will be "some people" found in almost any valid category you can think of. (the "valid" is to prevent nonsense categories, though I have actually met meat-eating vegetarians: they seemed to be under the impression that fish and chickens were vegetables, or something.) Chris. Needs more rest.
  7. Hello Kate. I'm an optometrist (retired) and I should be able to post on this, but not at length just now. I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and need to get some energy by doing nothing for a while, first. (This at least lets me mull, meditate and sleep on my replies before I post them.) Chris.
  8. It is an odd precursor (or other association: co-incidence in the non chance sense.) But it's too reliable to be other than a firm link. Adrenaline trigger? Fortunately I've never been a thrill-seeking adrenaline junkie, so I've not had to explore in detail where the "too much " cuts in. My other warning or aura that comes early enough for possible aversion of a full attack is olfactory illusion. In my case a "burnt caramel" smell. By the time I get skin or visual anomalies there's little to be done. Chris
  9. I can't really go from personal experience...Excess stress tends to trigger a migraine in me before it gets to melting down in any other way From reading, and also observing children and teenagers I've been with as a volunteer, profound fatigue is the most common, The need to curl up and rest, or sleep. An hour or two, or it can be considerably more. After that, more as a learned thing it can result in shame and or self-hatred for having, once more, lost control and gone where people disapprove, and then shun, or tell off, or get scared away. That can be as bad as the meltdown, and of course tends to rack up pressure towards the next melt-down, unless the cycle can be broken. Chris
  10. Yes, I've definitely got excess of excitement or enthusiasm as a trigger for my relatively infrequent migraines. I also have feeling superb and full of energy as a prodromal warning sign that, if noticed soon enough, can help me avoid the attack if I calm down and slow down. But picking up "full of beans" as a amber light is not that easy as on the surface it is reporting "good day" rather than saying "this amount of bounce comes with major blowback." Chris
  11. Hello and welcome... " But is it a phobia if it Really is deadly to go out ?" No it wouldn't be, but being at home is at least as dangerous. Kitchens especially so. In most developed countries life expectancy is increasing, so again any particular moment of life is, averaged out, less dangerous than it used to be. I'd agree that large chunks of the populace seem to operate at unsophisticated or low levels of introspection, self-awareness and thought in general. To push that to a conclusion of " no remorse, no empathy, no self control, no grip of reality at all." I would suggest is going a couple of steps too far. George Carlin: "You think the average person is dumb? Remember: half of them are dumber than that." Couple this with an increasing bombardment of media "information" which is in no way balanced or moderated, much rather being inclined to the spectacular, the exceptional and the violent and traumatic, and it is not surprising that thoughts of the world having gone mad, or terminally strange can occur. But again the conclusion is not really justified, because what is being presented is a very skewed sample. Presented because of some odd (but not fundamentally irrational) criteria as to what makes "news" and as to what is "important". Yes, feeling as though you are stuck on the wrong planet is not an experience unique to you, though you seem to have it in a marked form at the moment. This IS our planet, and those who can see more of the absurdity of human behaviour can usually get some idea of how it looks from the perspective of those who haven't woken up enough to see that yet. That's not "buying into it" as an answer any more than trying to shut everything out is an answer. In between there's a method (variable by personal preference) of "going with the roll" just enough to make a real connection with the rest of the world without necessarily being fully signed up to it or driven mad by it. Chris.
  12. That's the paradox or the Catch-22, isn't it? But if was already respectably clean and tidy, you wouldn't need to hire a cleaner in... Go on, bite the bullet. You don't have to over-explain... "I've been ill" would probably do if anything needs to be said at all. Chris.
  13. Just at the moment I'm contemplating life as a lead jellyfish. Fatigue is BAD. Chris
  14. This may entirely depend on finances, but have you considered getting in cleaners for a once-only hit? It may be a lot easier to keep things going in terms of cleaning if you start from being on top of it, rather from it being on top of you. I was very reluctant to let a cleaner into my house, both on principle "It's my job..." and also because of the state of it, which is a odd trap: I can't get a cleaner in, the house isn't clean enough". I now fully admit I need the help once a week, though in my case this is physical rather than mental disability. Chris.
  15. Good to see you, duckingshut. Any positive news? Any trace of roof, funds, help ...security? Chris (To self: Must stop being optimistic... it so rarely pays off.)
  16. Yes, I've had talking therapy that was far from BS, but it had to be picked out from other stuff which was poor, useless and even harmful, over an approximately fifteen-year period. (And it's only side-effect progress when you think your therapist is talking rubbish and you realise that you're right to think that, even if it is a boost to confidence and self-esteem.) I agree with Phoenix_Rising "My favorite technique is questioning my thinking and replacing "faulty" thoughts with ones that are closer to the truth." This, emphasising the cognitive end of CBT first, can be very hard work initially, as it's about trying to detect, observe and correct sub-standard, negative and erroneous thinking, using a mind which is prone to sub-standard, negative and erroneous thinking. This is particularly why the early steps are often best guided and rather formal in structure. It's rather like learning a new skill: carpentry, or sailing a dinghy. Getting the sound basics in place can be boring. A therapist who can communicate at the right level and in the right style for you is also a major factor. The person in therapy has enough to do understanding themselves, without having to make major shifts in understanding to establish reliable communication with the therapist. That should largely be the therapist's job, I think. Chris
  17. Emettman

    weird but true

    "Lupita Nyong'o Oscar dress stolen in Hollywood" I suspect Jennifer Lopez.
  18. Wisconsin? Oshkosh, with it's Oshkosh B'gosh children's clothing line. "I love hearing folks not familiar with the area say the names. LOL, it can be hysterical" Ah, that takes us into Shibboleth territory. We'm can tell the furriners down here by the ways they says place names, Especially Marazion, Moushehole and Fowey. Chris
  19. That first June looks nice and comfortable as far as I'm concerned. With cold you can put more layers on. With heat, once you're down to the skin there's nothing more to take off. I'd rather take extreme cold than extreme heat. (visiting frozen Niagara Falls was more fun than I'd have had if it was hot and packed with tourists.) Chris
  20. Yes, the mundane and realistic are the more awkward ones, not the wild weird ones. I had more when I was younger and more depressed. Time (I'm talking a few hours) usually makes the difference clear, but unless there's an easy cross check (the thing you thought you'd bought isn't on the dining table, for example) it's not that easy to quickly prove, one way or the other. And this brings up the question of memory, too, for things set in time past. Is that a real and true memory, or something my subconscious has put together at some point. I've discovered few definite false memories of my own. Nothing traumatic, but where things I was perfectly certain about proved not to be so when external evidence was available. And yes, I doubted the external evidence first, before accepting the fact of a mistaken memory.
  21. I consider that there is massive evidence against the hypothesis of an omnibenevolent (or "loving") God actually existing.. The major religions which do hold this position in a variety of forms use various concepts to address the difference between this omnibenevolence, or perfection, and the world as it appears to be, something distinctly short of that. This need of reconciliation or explanation at the least gives agreement that the observable world does not obviously reveal a perfect and all-loving deity. Chris
  22. Anyone who wanted to date me would have to be mad... (Nearer the edge than the centre of the bell curve, at least.) Chris.
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