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  1. A thing that seems to work for me is interval timers but I can't find any that don't have a high pitched noise and i can't stand it so I don't use them... The beep is like a check in I go... am i doing nothing? ok do something can't do something? ok then actually relax instead of procrastinating
  2. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29356899/ I'm going to go ahead and assume this goes for adults too: if you prefer sport or kung fu or yoga or dance or jogging or something to mindfulness, don't let anyone make you feel like you gotta do mindfulness instead!
  3. I thought I answered your question Gearhead! I spent ages thinking about it I want something with lots of space I was thinking of this one but then i remembered that they were pumping raw sewage into the river at the time and it was smelly and you couldn't swim in it Maybe something like this random not famous painting but do i actually get to go into the houses or are they empty because they weren't painted? Do I get to talk to the 3 people or are they frozen in time? My question is "What is the smallest hill on which you are willing to die?" (With the idiomatic meaning
  4. Prawn flavour is ammaaaaaaaaaaaazing. Nothing like prawns, it's a completely new flavor they decided to call "prawn". Very umami I didn't read much in 2020 because of all the fear but this year will be different!
  5. How much have i posted... edit: 1, 646!!!! I was guessing 400!!
  6. I can't see anything wrong with it, beautiful snake! Funko are these awful toys that exist only to be collected. They are really ugly and all the same shape more or less, but the basic design is changed slightly to resemble some figure from pop culture. I do not understand why you would want this when you could have a real Buzz Lightyear. Except that it would match your other plastic Funko dolls, which is why I say they exist only to tap into our love of collecting things and our love of things that look the same as each other sitting next to each other. The price point is between 10
  7. No, but I can just about tolerate a love story maybe.. usually not. Sometimes I like a good rom-com though Would you rather 10 dollars in cash or 40 dollars but it's on a gift card for a website that only sells broken funko toys
  8. The cold itself is fine it's the dark! If it's cold and bright or cold and snowing I like it! Would you rather look like a Yeti but your voice is the same or look the same as you do now but your voice sounds like the screech of a velociraptor from 1993 blockbuster film Jurassic Park
  9. How are you now? It sounds like you had a really triggering summer and I hope your autumn and winter have been better. You defeated this before so you know you can defeat it
  10. I thought I'd be fine because i love technology but yeah I hate it. it's intense eye contact I can't handle it it's so awful I feel totally scrutinized and unsafe. And I know that I'm not being scrutinized or anything but I just don't like how the situation changes the body language of both people or something? I don't know what it is it's just really uncomfortable I am ok with audio only, I like that
  11. Thank you that is really helpful, I didn't think of it as an ADHD thing... are there Autistic people who don't have trauma on this planet? Maybe in some other societies but surely not ours, where most people expect you to conform and mask all the time, not to mention all the sensory nightmares.. I know where parts of me are as soon as I move them etc. but the rest of the time they might as well not be there. I'm a floating head I'll also feel pain in my chest or stomach or throat when I'm anxious or whatever, I trained myself to notice if i feel anger welling up as well.. maybe I'm "so"
  12. i don't know anyone who keeps goats that i can visit and even if i did i couldn't because of corona
  13. trigger warning: bringing awareness to parts of the body can be triggering for people with PTSD, (that's why it's numb to begin with) Ok pick a part of your body, a part associated with safety hopefully, that you're not sitting on and its not leaning on anything and it's not in pain at the moment... can you feel it? I don't have PTSD but I have plenty trauma symptoms but I did NOT know this was a trauma symptom... apparently people who don't have trauma can bring their awareness to ANY part of their body and feel things! feel teh clothes on the skin, or the warmth or cold... or.. i don'
  14. Like Blahblah said, I don't know how possible it is to pick them apart, what happens in one always impacts on the other, each of them has its own ignition but they'll also fire the other one up (or freeze the other one!)
  15. Obama is right wing here, he would be a member of our right wing party if he was a politician here. It's all very relative.
  16. Blahblah's ideas sound like they're worth a shot if you like the sound of them Also I wonder if while in this numb state you can do work that will make you prepared for what things might be like with a lower dose... Building new habits that fight or prevent, that you could keep up once the dose was lowered and they became more important Working with a tdoc Having plans in place for what to do on the darkest days Having a self-care toolbox (a literal physical box) I mean the body itself can turn us numb to protect us from difficult emotions, and meds can also do that for us, and e
  17. Well that really sucks. I used to really hate my job but now that i know it's not forever i don't mind it so much. When I really really hated my job things i tried to remember was - it's not 24/7, there is still some time that belongs to me - I am having some level of positive impact on people's lives by doing this job (so are you) - meaning in life doesn't have to come from a job, there are lots of other things i am and do, my job is just one small part of me You seem to be in a super dark place right now and it must be awful
  18. yeah if they are perfect then the relationship will be fine and everything will work out It also means I can jump rapidly between blaming them for every single problem and blaming myself for every single problem and at no point feel like it's 50/50 even though I know in my head that's what a healthy way of thinking would be
  19. That makes a lot of sense, and I guess when I am splitting in the other direction, thinking the person is wonderful and perfect, it's because 1. I need them to be 2. I can't allow myself not to like them completely, just in case that means being alone and unloved again 3. maybe part of me thinks it's not ok to think they are imperfect, that i'd be betraying them
  20. I have to write a self reflection thing regarding defense mechanisms and I'm thinking about "splitting" . Anyone can do it. I do it a lot. It's very hard for me to hold in my mind that someone can be good and bad at the same time.. including me, I'm either fantastic or I'm terrible. When my partner is annoying me I hate his guts, it's very hard to feel love for him at these times, that goes for everyone I love. Then when he is annoyed at me it is devastating because i feel like he despises me at those times, and I can't handle that. He asks me to clean a dish and i choke, I'm so upset I can't
  21. I can now cut my own hair. I'm not great at it but I have definitely paid for worse haircuts. Sure it's uneven, but it's a "cheerful" look I like, not the serious haircut that the hairdressers decide will suit me sometimes. I'm also a bit less shy about talking on the phone now because I have had to do it so much Have you picked up any new skill?
  22. I'm coming to this months later but maybe something to think about in the spring... Two couples I know did this and had a great time. They stocked up on everything they would need in their car and they hit the road, so they did only outdoor/in car activities and didn't need to interact with anyone, they loved it. I think Jarn's question is perfect "If you are not comfortable, would you enjoy it?" maybe there is a way to do it and be comfortable. What do you think? Before all this I really wanted to book a cabin somewhere and stay there for a week.. I just looked at their website again.
  23. This is lovely. I'd like to watch the fascists trying to come up with an excuse not to let couples like this get married I used to get asked that too, I don't know if I've gotten better at masking or if it's just that the places where I work now happen to be more accepting or if it's i haven't had a lot of conversations. I do still sometimes make people say things like "well.. that was an odd thing to say" or "huh.. i don't really know what to say to that"
  24. i feel like once you are touching someone and within 2 centimeters of them masks have become a moot point, that ship has sailed. Unless you want to really push the definition of a "quicky": Maybe both people start by themselves in separate rooms, then mask up, run into a third room, climax as quickly as possible and then return the to the rooms that they came from and get dressed again. If it takes too long to climax you can return to your "prep" room and try again later. When you are in the "coupling" room you are to choose positions that facilitate distancing of the faces. So not missiona
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