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So I've been with my boyfriend on and off for almost 5 years. I want to love him I really do, I want to have a good relationship. But we don't even have sex. I'm 21 years old, almost 22. I still love with my mom and I suffer from depression. I'm worried I'll fall into a spiral of depression like I did the last time we broke up and I almost committed suicide. It would be so much easier if I had someone to talk to to tell me it would all be fine and i will find somebody else who makes me way more happy. Honestly I don't remember when my life was somewhat normal. I work 50,000 times harder then my boyfriend. I actually make decent money and I'm going places and being recognized for things I do. Where as my boyfriend hasn't worked in months, he just now got a job that pays him an average amount of money. For a man I think it's shit pay. My dad and all the men in my family basically except my mom side. Work super hard for their cash. My dads side is very traditional in that sense. So the fact that I'm dating a low life is very concerning. I have cheated and we broke up then got back together a few times. We have got in raging fights etc I've thrown things. Clearly very unhealthy. I used to be much happier. I wish I had friends. My only friend is my mom and him. It's very depressing. Right now I'm on a very low dose of escitalopram. Which helps a bit and my job definitely helps but I don't have a good support system at home. I miss having friends and a supportive boyfriend. I don't know how to help this situation. Or maybe I do and I just need some encouragement. Any advice? Anyone been through something similar? No judgment please. If I want judgment I'll go to Yahoo answers... lol thanks in advance ?? photo is from when we first started dating maybe less than I year in.

Since April, I have been leading a double life. My fiance has been in jail since January. I have always had interest in the bdsm lifestyle. Keep in mind in no way did my fiance and I have a "vanilla" sex life. Since I've been alone and unbelievably horny, I posted an ad on CL. I received over 100 responses in one day. After weeding out the crazies I found a few doms that seemed legit. I have met a few for casual meetings to see if we would be compatible, and have been with two one of which is ongoing. I have no emotional attachment to this man, but I do have a need that he fills. I love my fiance but I also have needs. I do not feel guilty for this arrangement, I don't feel as if I should be forced to wait until my fiance is released if he is ever released. I am supporting him financially, emotionally, and caring for our son on my own. I need an escape and a release. Keeping this to myself is killing me, that's why I am here.

Hi, I have a problem. I have been in the most perfect relationship for a year, he is the perfect man. This guy treats me like a Queen, I can trust him, he is supportive, we are in the process of buying a home together, he wants children with me. Prince Charming has nothing on my fiancé; however, I'm a cheater. I can't understand why I keep cheating on someone that loves me as much as he does, I know what I'm doing is wrong and he doesn't deserve this, but I feel detached. I have always been emotionally detached, I care about him but I feel like I could do without him. I don't think the problem is him, I have always been emotionally detached since I was a child, my parents always pointed out how "cold" I can be. All my past relationships have been the same way, I find it so easy to get over break ups, I just brush them off. I never feel like I miss anyone. I like meeting people online and talking to them, getting to know their lives and quirks, after the conversation dies, I move on. I don't have any close friends, I did when I was younger, but if something i didn't like about them came up I just moved to the next friend. I am polite and friendly, but I dislike most people. Do I keep cheating on him because he isn't the one? Or am I broken ? (I have cheated in past relationships) I do it for the heck of it, I usually don't feel any emotional connection to the person I am cheating with. I also have a sexual attraction to women, but I have never felt anything emotional for a girl. Why am I so detached? I used to hurt myself when I was younger, haven't done that in a long time. I feel a lot happier with myself right now. ( just extra details).