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I'm not letting my ex ruin my life anymore. I cut him loose today. He is an alcoholic and he drives me to drink, not an excuse but an extra reason to. I'm an addict and alcoholic. I even mix the two.. Not cool. So today I attended an online AA meeting and talked to a girl I met in treatment that is sober and I am going to face to face meetings this week. I also need to find a therapist this week for sure. I fell down the stairs 2 years ago and at 37 had to have a total hip replacement and jaw reconstruction after being airlifted to a trauma center. I am facially disfigured now because of it and am going to have surgery again on June 18 for total joint replacements on both sides of my jaw that will hopefully even out my facial asymmetry. As a result of the fall, I lost custody of my daughters, 10 and 7, and now they live an hour away with their dad. I also became homeless for the past two years and just recently got into my own apartment. My ex-husband is supposed to bring them once a week to see me and let me talk to them on the phone everyday but he does not comply with the court order. He doesn't know what's going on with me and I am definitely not going to tell him. Meanwhile I need to file court papers to get custody of my daughters back. That needs to be my focus.. that and my new job working at home so I can save money for a car to go see them since he won't bring them to see me. Everything is a mess because of this addiction and I'm tired of it. I'm happy to say I've hit rock bottom and have become enlightened. I refuse to live like this another day. I thank God for the clarity to see this. Thank you for reading.
I am currently going through a divorce after 11 years of marriage. I have had MI my entire life, and it has been hard for me to manage in my adult years. We have 2 children, 8 and 6 years old. I feel responsible for the dissolution of my marriage. Someone from my past reappeared (damn you, Facebook) and it made me question my marriage. I didn't know - and I still don't know - if my "lukewarm" feelings about my marriage were/are due to MI. I always assumed I was as happy as I was ever going to be... and then HE showed up (evil, evil Facebook). So what did I do? I talked to the hubby. I told him my fears. AND HE THREW ME UNDER THE BUS. He told anyone who would listen that I was bipolar and manic. I have never been diagnosed bipolar, but it is possible. However, I was not manic. He has been emotionally abusive. He managed to get all of our friends on his side (I just didn't defend myself... not that this is a good reason. Apparently my friends all suck). He had me followed and photographed. He threatened the other guy's life more than once. He got drunk and tried to break into my phone. He yelled, yelled, yelled. We went to therapy. We did mediation. He is an angry, spiteful man, and I cannot communicate with him. All of this started about a year ago. I am now living in my own house. I am now in grad school and I have started a new job. I am working my ass off and the kids are splitting their time between the 2 houses. They are handling the situation very well - a thousand times better than I am. My problem? I feel RESPONSIBLE. I feel like I have taken something sacred from my children. I feel like I threw away my friendship with my partner in life. We had a good marriage before this. Like I said, I was as happy as I thought was possible. I am a fixer. I can't fix this. I need to forgive myself somehow before the depression and anxiety literally crush me. Any suggestions you might have are greatly appreciated.