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chero posted a topic in Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - Click Here RepeatedlyI need help with something I'm struggling to understand. I used to be friends with this kid who I'm going to refer to as X and had to get a restraining order against him about a year and a half ago because he was homicidal and describing very graphic things he wanted to do to people and he said he was afraid he would accidentally hurt me. I talked to him for the first time since the restraining order. It was through our school that we talked (because the school has been involved in this since the beginning) and X told me that he has since been diagnosed with Intrusive Thought OCD and I don't believe that his OCD is how he got homicidal thoughts. When I first got the restraining order I looked up all kinds of stuff about homicidal ideation and things and came across Harm OCD. All of the sites that I looked at explained that in Harm OCD, people have these thoughts and can't control and rarely ever actually want to do these things or act on them. They tend to express a lot of fear around these thoughts too. The only time X expressed fear was when he said he was afraid he might accidentally hurt/kill me. All the others times he would describe to me in graphic detail what he wanted to do to people and he was super nonchalant about it. He even laughed about it. X also told me that he always just says what he needs to say to get by, so when he doesn't want to be in a situation he makes stuff up or goes with what he thinks is the best answer, regardless of what he's actually feeling. He also likes to play the victim in things. I'm confused and need help understanding this. Please help. I'm scared at school because I don't know if he's going to hurt me or someone else. Thank you.
Okay...I've found this forum today in hopes of better understanding...or helping my fiance. He is 28 years old and has been a cutter since his teenage years. He's been diagnosed as having bipolar but refuses to take the medication because it aided in his suicidal behavior over a two years ago. The meds he was prescribed had a high risk of making the suicidal thoughts worse and act on them. He did kill himself but the doctors were able to bring him back. He was then hospitalized for weeks at an impatient ward(not sure what to call it?). When he was released, he was prescribed different meds but was too afraid to take them. He now thinks all meds are bad and won't even take aspirin. Well all of this stuff happened before I met him. He was up front when I asked about his cutting scars and told me everything. When I met him, he hadn't cut himself in over three months which was a record time for him. Well, eventually, as our lives both became more stressful...he began to cut again here and there. I hated the fact that he felt he had to do it but, I tried to step back and just be there for him to talk to and show him how much I love him, without scolding or belittling him. However, the cutting is spiriling out of control right along with his depression. He refuses to seek medical help or take meds. I'm not the type to say "take a pill and feel better" but I am at a loss on what to do. He's becoming worse every day. I love him with all that I am...and every fresh cut is like a wound to my heart. We have A LOT going on in our lives, so I can understand why he's stressed. I just die a little every time he hurts himself. I feel that I'm not doing my job and making him happy enough...or giving him enough emotional support or showing him how much I love him. I feel utterly helpless. I thought it would be helpful to get the opinion of others who share or have shared the same pain as he is going through. What can I do to help????? Without meds, doctors, therapy. ANY suggestions would be very appreciated. Thanks for reading my NOVEL!