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Has anyone here come to realize the moments when you are projecting in a relationship? By Projection, I mean the behavior where you do not accept your own thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings as your own. These "unwanted" feelings or thoughts are dealt with by being projected / placed outside of yourself or attributed to someone else... I've noticed (as a chronically depressed, anxious, highly-sensitive person) that I have a habit of often projecting, and misinterpreting other's behavior as critical, unloving, uncaring, angry and disapproving...when in fact, these are the constant ruminations that I have about MYSELF. This is simply how my brain operates in the world. I'm VERY critical of myself (I often see myself as unlovable, unworthy, lazy, too emotional, disorganized, I never do anything right)... Ex: Someone communicates a neutral statement to me, but I over analyze and read into it emotionally, and start feeling and questioning that the person is angry with me or disapproves of me. Anyone experience this? How do you de-program your automatic projections?
I had an episode tonight when I was with a friend in a social event and I felt shame for my friend for being who he is because people were commenting on him and his behaviours. Now I realize he did not mind others comments (which I believe now were not that awful) and didn't care about what they said. Instead I was the one who made him feel bad because I told him that he should be ashamed of doing what he did. I was feeling full of shame. Then, I felt like the others really hated us and felt really bad even though no one moved or did anything else. I just left with almost tears to my eyes and brought my friend with me. I felt like everyone was looking, judging and despising us. I still somewhat feel like that. I don't know if I should go back there. Will they hate me if suddenly I don't go back? What if I go back and they mock us? How do you deal with Projection?