deeschmee Posted July 30, 2022 Share Posted July 30, 2022 Do I have such a hangup about living in an apartment? I feel like a loser for being my age and not having a house, descent car, good job or solid relationship. I keep kicking my own ass... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluent In Silence Posted August 27, 2022 Share Posted August 27, 2022 Bit late but I hear ya. End up missing many of those milestones for a normal life when you have mental health problems. At my age I should have my own house and a nice car, and maybe should've been married and had children, and then got divorced and have an ex-wife who hates me and children who don't want to see me. A boy can dream. Life hasn't turned out great. I can possibly beat you in loser top trumps - I'm a 40 something with alcohol problems who still lives with his mother. Yes you end up beating yourself up but that doesn't help. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deeschmee Posted August 27, 2022 Author Share Posted August 27, 2022 Yes you do understand. I have one good day where I'm driving with the windows down, sun on my face, Foo Fighters blasting and as soon as I smile, that little voice says; " You're such a loser idiot." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluent In Silence Posted August 27, 2022 Share Posted August 27, 2022 Yeah that damn voice. Basically saying that you don't deserve to feel happy, and it comes out with something like "You're such a loser idiot". Giving you advice would be hypocritical since I have that voice too. But you don't seem like an idiot or a loser and the Foo Fighters are great. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DogMan Posted August 27, 2022 Share Posted August 27, 2022 i have internal dialogue. But, mine doesn't say that. Is it your voice or someone else's (both DS and FiS?) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluent In Silence Posted August 27, 2022 Share Posted August 27, 2022 25 minutes ago, DogMan said: i have internal dialogue. But, mine doesn't say that. Is it your voice or someone else's (both DS and FiS?) It's my voice, or a part of me. It's not any sort of external thing, for me anyway. What is your internal dialogue like? I'm curious. Mine is mostly awful. Probably one of the main reasons for my problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DogMan Posted August 27, 2022 Share Posted August 27, 2022 10 minutes ago, Fluent In Silence said: It's my voice, or a part of me. It's not any sort of external thing, for me anyway. What is your internal dialogue like? I'm curious. Mine is mostly awful. Probably one of the main reasons for my problems. I don't think that my inner critic is as fond of blanket statements as you and dee. Inner critic voice is often those tied to mistreatment and on the specifics of the moment Does that make sense? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deeschmee Posted August 27, 2022 Author Share Posted August 27, 2022 1 hour ago, DogMan said: i have internal dialogue. But, mine doesn't say that. Is it your voice or someone else's (both DS and FiS?) If I had to guess it's a voice of my parental person. Like you said tied to mistreatment. @Fluent In Silence I am a MASTER at kicking my own ass. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deeschmee Posted August 27, 2022 Author Share Posted August 27, 2022 Also I've been trying to ween off venlafexine and it's fucking me up.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basuraeuropea Posted August 28, 2022 Share Posted August 28, 2022 4 hours ago, DogMan said: Is it your voice or someone else's (both DS and FiS?) what are DS and FiS? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DogMan Posted August 28, 2022 Share Posted August 28, 2022 5 hours ago, basuraeuropea said: what are DS and FiS? The 2 posters who I was talking to, deeshmee and fluentinsilence Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiaB Posted August 28, 2022 Share Posted August 28, 2022 DS was originally internet slang for dear/darling son, so I can see where @basuraeuropea may have felt muddled there. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basuraeuropea Posted August 28, 2022 Share Posted August 28, 2022 gotcha. thank you for the clarification! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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