Monster Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 To put it bluntly, I'm not religious. Nor am I social. Thus, going to church is a no-go. But alas, it is my grandfathers birthday and I wish to get on his good side; so I decide to be a pleaser and go with him because he asked. Of coarse, it just so happens that there is a "big extravaganza (!)" at the local church. Who would have thunk it? It was packed to say the least. So packed that because I entered the bulding about 2 minutes after my grandfather, I end up not sitting by him. Instead I end up between an elderly woman and some guy. The woman decides to strike up a conversation; just my luck. I can't talk, so I just end up listening...to everything. What is so bad? Not only the fact that I am terrified of this 72 year old woman (sad, I know) in the first place, but she decides to bring up my physical appearance. How bad my skin looked, my weight, my cloths (what is threatening of pastel colors?), my hair, and my vitamin deficiency (yeah...). I am in no way saying that people should "just know" everything about me. I don't expect "special treatment" from anybody whatsoever. However, what about just being decent? Why would somebody find the need to tell me my physical flaws? I told my grandfather, and he proceeds to tell me that this woman was known for that sort of thing. I can let it go, no problem (holding a grudge on a senior citizen won't help me any). But just that tid-bit conversation made me twice as anxious and fearful to the people and my my surroundings around me. Just...be careful who you sit by. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dire Curves Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Just...be careful who you sit by. ESPECIALLY in religious ceremonies that (REALLY SUCK cause they were made up by madmen) are for people who have no faith in themselves. Remember, anyone can tell you how bad you look etc (been there), only you can reinforce it by believing they are correct. Not one person truly has the right to put down others, it's just that alot of people can't do much else very well but find flaws in others to make themselves feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celestia Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 The woman decides to strike up a conversation; just my luck. I can't talk, so I just end up listening...to everything. What is so bad? Not only the fact that I am terrified of this 72 year old woman (sad, I know) in the first place, but she decides to bring up my physical appearance. How bad my skin looked, my weight, my cloths (what is threatening of pastel colors?), my hair, and my vitamin deficiency (yeah...). I have never felt like bitch slapping an old woman (other than my own mother) until right now. RAAAWR. Forget about it, those folks is crazy! Hugs if ya want one, S9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirMarshall Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Hey let's be fair, churches don't have a corner on rude people. You can find them anywhere! To quote some bastardized latin "Illegitimi non carborundum" or Don't let the bastards grind you down. a.m. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Croix Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 What is it about some of our elders that they think they can say whatever the hell they want without regard to anyone's feelings? Down south it's called being eccentric. More accepted here. Blow off the old bag, or do what I do...insult in the exact same fashion. "Wow, you have that old person stench about you, bless your heart (always add the bless your heart part) You should really do something about that" LOL. Then get up and walk off. I like Boyd's suggestion too. I'm gonna be eccentric when I'm old. But in a different way. I'm gonna start drinking early, wear spandex and blue eyeshadow in public and sexually harass high school boys at the walmart. mwhahahahah Croix Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greenyflower Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 and sexually harass high school boys at the walmart. and that's why old ladies carry pointy canes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Latin Girl Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I think what the lady said to you was uncalled for and really rude. But.......I know that Old People and Young children have a lot in common when it comes to this. My Grandmother is this way and so are her friends, maybe it something that happens when you get old. (I don't know) When my daughter was really little she used to point to someone and say "Mommy that Man is Fat" another time a man bent down to tell her how pretty she was and she loudly said "His breath Stinks" now that she is a little older (9) and I had to tell her we just don't say those kind of things because they hurt peoples feelings. My best friends Grandmother who is really old whispered to my friends mom*She is putting on Weight* and my best friend was sitting right next to them on the couch. Her grandmother is a sweet heart(really) I just think kids and Old people really don't think about what they are saying or that they are saying anything wrong. Maybe I am way off I don't know. I am sorry you had to deal with that. Just my Two Cents Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celestia Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I think what the lady said to you was uncalled for and really rude. But.......I know that Old People and Young children have a lot in common when it comes to this. Excellent point. When my daughter was really little she used to point to someone and say "Mommy that Man is Fat" another time a man bent down to tell her how pretty she was and she loudly said "His breath Stinks" now that she is a little older (9) and I had to tell her we just don't say those kind of things because they hurt peoples feelings.I'm still training my 10 year old. Mothers' Day sucked. Nuff said, and because of MY mother not my children. But as I was going to bed, after just a shitty day, Little E (10) says, while a hug initiated BY him, "ew your breath stinks." Thanks, kiddo, perfect ending to a perfect day. When I take the emotion out of Monster's sitch, because I put myself right there, I can see perhaps a desperate old woman hungry for conversation of any kind. But still...I liked Croix's reply. Having spent almost 20 years in the deep south and Texas combined, I agree to add, "bless your heart." LOL...The Irish say, "bless your cotton socks." S9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
realitytest Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 72 isn't senile. I wouldn't cut her slack on account of antiquity. On the otherhand she has definitely lost her sense of what's socially OK (if she ever had it). And just think - chances are, she thought she was helping! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ncc1701 Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 Heya Monster, Heh. Fun in professional situations too. My personal favourite is: "Since when did they start letting women into medical school?" Since before you were born, lady. Also -- A Japanese Canadian colleague got: "Why don't you just go back to China?" Because I'm Japanese, lady. --ncc-- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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