Meeting people and wheee , you are BiPolar

[toplessviggen]

As Skittles has noted, we are seeing a LARGE increase of BP dx , with many so 'happy' to have been diagnosed.. and hell it is just so 'popular' and 'in' now, right..

Well after my sep/div, I have tried,(on the days I venture from the safety of my house LOL) to meet people.. Well ya know , esp the guys, the first question after 'how ya doing' is 'what do you do??"

Lovelly..

I am not, never have been, good at sliding elegantly around a question unless I never plan on seeing that person again.. and this obviously won't quite work if your trying to expand your 'friend' base... Sooooo,, I am not working,,,

Then come then endless list/interogation of questions so as to pigeon hole you : :: everyone has to fit in a box , and it seems I can't get to far b4 the 'disability' thingy slips out..

Now I would be Much happier to say,, I just don't know??? My Drs are lookin into it,, strange thing.. but well get a handle on it real soon...'''''' ,, so anyone that wants my BP diagnosis .. the line starts to the right....

Fuck!!,, Perhaps a quick contraction of AIDS or dx of cancer, or

...err i am forgettiinng,. erli onset Alshimers...

Would go over better.. Just Don't Have A Mental Illness..

(ask Huff's bro-for all you TV addicts like me).

So what is one to do.. Isolation sucks,, and somewhere down the line.. me thinks me would like to take a crack at a relationship again.. Not fond of the ol'd guy sitting alone at a campsite gazing into the fire by himself...

there , that is off my chest..

David

[Sylvia]

Oh yes..Huff..now that is a good show. It catches it all, schizoprenia, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, I really do like that show. For those who haven't seen it....Showtime, Sunday night, 10pm, with a repeat at 11pm.) Catch it, its a good show.

I also enjoyed your post as well. And...be careful what you ask for, as they say. I figure I will get this relationship thing down... in the next lifetime. Too hard in this one.

Keep the faith, T

Sylvia

[toplessviggen]

Oh yes..Huff..now that is a good show>><<be careful what you ask for, as they say>><<. I figure I will get this relationship thing down... in the next lifetime. Too hard in this one.>>

Keep the faith, T

Sylvia

Hi Sylvia..

Yep.. Huff is good.. I could use a lawyer like that >LOL< .. I hear ya with the 'wish list' , have to say, not to profess this..

but my Dad was BP, a cranky one.. untreated.. .. pretty bad.. shitting for Mum n me, not great for him ... we know..... ,

but he ended up dieing from cancer, those last four years he was the most content(read stable) and easy to live with.. Didn't wish it on him, nor on to anyone, but it does make me wonder and social stigma wise ,, well, hell, hands down... ..

For the relationship thingy,, I hear you..

However, they (whoever they are) ( and do we REALLY want to know??) .. say when your not looking for love.., well some crap like that...

when I don't go out the house 'xept to a 'group'' , not likely I am going to come across someone .. unless another psych nurse. . no / ouch.. BAD joke.. painful memory.. forget that I said that...

take care

David

[december_brigette]

Hi,

I dont know if gender makes a difference?

and i know that part of my issue, is my bipolar. but i do meet guys, talking. and the BP comes up because I dont have a job. and the responses have been everywhere from the dude has taken MI pills before, gone to therapy or the complete opposite where they have no idea about anything MI.

I just explain it....plus if things lead elsewhere - i know they are gonna be asking me why am i popping 10 pills.

so far, the youngest guy ive gone out with is 22. the oldest was 63. Im just trying to be open to anything. Im 31.

im 2 years separated....divorce in the works. so yes, it is odd "dating" again.

good luck!!

december

[toplessviggen]

Hi,

I dont know if gender makes a difference?

and i know that part of my issue, is my bipolar. but i do meet guys, talking. and the BP comes up because I dont have a job. and the responses have been everywhere from the dude has taken MI pills before, gone to therapy or the complete opposite where they have no idea about anything MI.

WOW

It is so NOT politically correct to say but..

YEP,, every guy I talk to seems to run into hella more flack/ aka they run for the hills

.. almost when you say you are on permanent disability.. and the door is left swinging ,, once the MI comes in..

..... are they looking for someone to take care of them,, NO , most have great jobs and are quite self sufficient.. but,, again,, a man is NOt a man if he isn't holding a job..

I know that this is a generalization.. but unfortunatly it is more often the case, not the exception to one degree or another..

It never comes up that I may be very intelligent, have my own home, really want for nothing (material- and according to a heck of a lot of the 'singles' ads,, sorry girls.. but a lot are basing on 1 - money 2 - looks no 3 or higher. ... sad but true.... ) and had good relationships -once in em - if I didn't do one of my.. pick someone with so much baggage that it is a certain death just a waitin to happen, so come on in.. fix em up projects.. ...

that one is one me,, know to look and wait for healthy.. I hate the wait .. who doesn't though...

(looking at Gay Cowboy as possible next life, aka BBMountain)

David

[Sylvia]

David

I have had so many "fix 'em up projects" relationship-wise, that there should be a tv show starring me, the fixer, and those poor pitiful man-projects. You know, similar to those "Trading Spaces" type shows. Great idea, I think I'll start working on the pilot. I'll call it simply, "Pitiful Man-Projects", or "But He Has SOOOOOO Much Potential." You get the drift. Thanks for the idea.

Sylvia

[MiaB]

(looking at Gay Cowboy as possible next life, aka BBMountain)

get a grip David!

[seven]

i used to be pretty open about bipolar (never on job, though)....but then i noticed that even though people seem accepting, in subtle ways here and there, some treat you like a non-human, crazy. it's insulting. i'm alot more guarded about the info. i would really like to be casual about it...but i fear the reaction, the judgements. my ex told me i can't be bipolar because i'm not crazy. in fact, i'm the most sane girl he ever knew. ...but the thing is, i am the most sane person and i am bipolar. common people don't get it.

7

[Artchick]

I'm bipolar and dating. If I met someone and it came up in the first few dates that they were bipolar I'd run for the hills. I don't think it is hypocritical, either. I look at it this way- if you are leading by telling me you are bipolar then it must be THE most defining thing in your life. When I'm screening dates I am always looking for the deal-breaker- bipolar is a deal-breaker. If, on the other hand, I've been out with you a quite a few times and then you tell me you are bipolar, well, I've already found out a lot of things about you and being bipolar is just one of them. If, on the other hand, you never tell me you are bipolar then when I finally find out I'm going to think you are dishonest. It is all a delicate balance.

I'm not sure if I'm explaining this correctly.

I'm lucky because my manic-depression has been pretty much controlled by meds in the past two years. My last boyfriend came and went without bipolar ever being an issue. I had told him, I took meds in front of him, but I didn't have any episodes so it didn't affect our relationship at all. It broke up for other reasons.

The job thing is tricky. I think to start with I'd say I'm between jobs. I'm really involved in a hobby so I can really steer the conversation that way for awhile or steer it to my college degrees or my plans for the future. A few dates into it you are, of course, going to have to cough up the details but there really isn't any reason to do so in the first couple of dates. If the other person doesn't like you then the whole thing is a mute point, anyway.