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so i have tried hard all week to lose weight the good old fashioned way. watched what i ate and exercised heaps. and i only lost .5kg or in pounds 1.1lbs. Its nothing! i am so totally disappointed.

i am exercising for at least an hour every day some days doing 2 or more hours.

i am eating only three small meals a day and one or 2 snacks of fruit. and all the food is food apporved by the docs.

i just want to cry and cry and cry. i need to lose 5kgs not .5.

But i dont know what else i can do, short of stopping my meds which makes me go loppy in the head.

;) i REALLY want to cut myself. :) im such a loser.

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Your not a loser, you are normal.

Your body is kind of programmed NOT to lose weight. It will take longer than a week to see any kind of noticable result.

Frustrating as all fuck...I know. But you are fighting against millions of years of evolution and meds aren't making it easier. You CAN do it, but please don't beat yourself up and try to be patient.

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you arent a loser. it takes longer than a week to lose weight healthily. You are doing well... you are eating well and exercising, which is really great. You are not going to see instant results, though; it will take time, IV. After a while, you will start losing weight (or inches, keep that in mind... you are exercising and gaining muscle, ya know?).

it takes time, IV, don't forget that. try not to expect instant results.

you are doing very well and have no reason to feel bad, so please try not to make yourself feel like you should feel bad.

hang in there and take care of yourself....

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thanks girls i am feeling a little bit better today. but i just think i might be coming down with the flu or running low on iron which i think is why i am finding myself feeling more down lately.

im hoping tomorrow i will wake up feeling a lot better. and no cuts so far :-)

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If you look at my springer thread, you'll see I've been working my buns off for about a week as well and my new digital scale tells me I have gained a pound. ;)

So, yeah I think Wifezilla is right. It takes longer than a week. It's horribly discouraging though. :)

Are you really doing 1-2 hours a day of exercise? What kind of exercise? I'm just wondering how you manage that much. 45 mins seems like alot to me.

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Oh, Dee, we are kindred spirits. 15 minutes on the treadmill feels like an hour.

Throw out your scale. I really really believe that.

I could not do it, but through some act of God, my scale broke in the move up to Portland, and I won't be able to buy another one for at least a month or more. I haven't weighed myself in almost 2 months. I used to step on the scale literally almost every time I went into the bathroom. Definitely multiple times a day. At LEAST every morning and every night... and that was if I was out of the house all day.

I have seriously contemplated trips to Fred Meyer for the sole purpose of finding a deserted aisle and stepping on one of their scales. But I know 1) it wouldn't be right, because I'd be in clothes and shoes and 2) it wouldn't be relative to the scale I already had and therefore would be "right," either.

If you were losing 5kg every week, that would be scary and super-unhealthy. I know you know that intellectually, and it still doesn't really matter. But .5kg is a totally normal amount of weekly weightloss. If you can just keep this for another couple months, you will have lost 5kg. I know that seems like an eternity- but diets should be more like lifestyle changes, they say. So if you can't see yourself keeping up the routine of what you're doing for a couple of months, it might be too intense.

Again, throw away your scale. Or at least put it seriously away- at the bottom of a box in the back of the closet. You can dig it out in a couple of months to check your progress, but you absolutely CANNOT weigh yourself all the time.

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Like everyone said, give it time. I just started at a health club two weeks ago. First week, I gained 2lbs. Second week I lost 2lbs. I attribute it to muscle gain the first week. Because my clothes are already fitting better! And my ass is firmer thanks to that sonofabitch eliptical machine. It will work, it just takes some patience.

I urge you though, not to work out too hard or too long starting off. You'll burn out and get frustrated. Weight loss and good health is a marathon not a sprint. Half hour of cardio, half hour of light weights to start off with is a good plan.


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I know how you feel. Every time I try to start eating like a 'normal' person i.e. threeish meals a day, no starving, no vomiting, I fail. I can only keep it up for a few days, then I feel so fat and bloated and disgusting and most importantly - scared - that I panic and go back to my old ways.

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Don't give up! One week is a very short time.

All sorts of things have an effect on your weight, even when you are dieting, such as time of the month, incease in muscle mass when exercising more than usual, dehydration after restricting food and/or fluid intake (or drinking alcohol), volume of stomach and intestinal contents, and so on. These kind of things can make your weight go up and down in the short term. Remember it is FAT you want to lose, not just the number on the scale going down.

It's discouraging when you don't see the results on the scales, but try to go by other things as well such as the fit of your clothes, and most of all give it time. I always say to myself that if I hadn't dieted that week I will have gained weight, so it's better to have dieted than not to have done so. Don't weigh yourself too often either as small gains can discourage you. Look at the overall result you want to achieve.

Also, the closer you are to your goal weight the harder it is to lose I've found. I'm trying to lose about 5 kilo's myself at the moment. I'm being quite restrictive, sometimes having just one meal in a day. Three meals and 1-2 snacks seems quite excessive to me. Try cutting out the snacks and see if that helps.

But most of all, dont give up!

Oh and by the way, I've noticed during my current diet a link between dieting and my depression. I feel a lot crappier when I'm on a diet and not eating enough. But I don't care, I'd rather be thin and depressed, than chubby and depressed. My secret vow is to go back to Italy and France next year with an empty suitcase and me being 5-10 kilo's lighter (so that I'll be thin and sexy) and stock up on clothes in their July sales.

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I found this just now on a website, thought it might help or provide inspiration...

Never tell anyone that you are on a following some weight loss tips or any diet.

Consider yourself as starting a new, healthy, eating plan that you will incorporate into your life - permanently.

Question yourself truthfully to see if you are mentally prepared to change your life and follow these weight loss tips.

When you feel hungry, stop and have a cup of water. Wait 5 minutes and assess whether you are really hungry or perhaps there is something else on you mind.

When you catch yourself looking for some-thing to munch on, stop yourself and do something to occupy your time. Many people tend too much when they are bored.

Remember to take it one day at a time.

If you want to snack, make sure it is a healthy, low-fat, low-calorie snack.

Remember, fat-free does not mean you can eat the whole box!

When eating fat-free products, remember to look at the serving size and calories.

Even if you're eating low fat, you must still be aware of your calorie intake. Calories can add up and you can gain weight eating low-fat and fat-free products.

When setting your ideal weight, be realistic and choose a weight that you can comfortably maintain, without much struggle, for the rest of your life. Many people choose a weight that is just not realistic for their body type and end up being discouraged and give up!

Use non-stick pots and pans. This will ensure that you can cook healthier, lower fat meals.

Do not weigh yourself more than once a week.

Eat more whole foods, natural products that have not been processed.

Do some activity daily. Walking is an excellent choice and is easy on the joints. Try to work up to 30-45 minutes a day, 4-5 days a week for maximum results.

Take up a new hobby or sport. This can occupy your time and help you avoid the fridge. Many people find that when they are busy they don't have time to think about food.

Clean out your cupboards and refrigerator, throwing away all high fat foods. This is a very important step. Remember, out of sight out of mind. if it's not easily accessible you probably won't eat it.

Stock your cupboards and refrigerator with fresh fruit, vegetables, whole grain products and low-fat alternatives. This will make it much easier to stick to your new, healthy plan.

Try to replace high fat ingredients in your recipes with lower-fat alternatives

Saute your food in water, both, wine or juice instead of oil.

Use applesauce or fat-free plain yogurt in baked goods instead of oil.

Another weight loss tip is that use low-fat cooking spray instead of oil.

Drink at least 8 cups of water a day.

Limit caffeine intake to 1-2 cups a day.

Set small goals instead of large ones. If you need to lose 60 lbs., break it down into 10 lb. goals. When you reach that goal, and then set a new one of 10 or 12 more pounds.

When you reach your first goal, treat yourself to something special.

Always remember to lose weight for yourself, not to please anyone else.

Once a week, pamper yourself. Remember to show yourself love take time just for you.

Prepare a menu plan for the week ahead and stick to it.

Use a list when you go grocery shopping, and stick to it.

Never go shopping on an empty stomach.

Remember to pat yourself on the back for all your accomplishments, no matter how small they may be.

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I take issue with some of those suggestions from the website.

1. Low-fat, not fat free. Most processed foods that are "fat-free" ramp up the sugars and calories to make it taste better.

2. I wouldn't suggest non-stick cookware either. That stuff eventually flakes off. Some people say it has cancer-causing agents in it. Use extra virgin olive oil and broths, wines to cook with.

3. I wouldn't throw away all high fat foods. You need some fat to absorb nutrients. Olive oil, nuts, avacados. All good high fat foods (monounsaturated) Use in moderation!

The rest of the suggestions were great.

Good luck,


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Yes - it takes much longer than a week.

It took you how long to get where you are? Then plan on about that long to get where you want to be.

And it's not a "diet". Those are no fun. It's a "change in life style"

And Wifezilla is right, I could never do that with coffee, although they say it stimulates the appetite.

Here's the key:

Eat small amounts of healthy foods.

Exercise 3-5 times a week. Start slow or you'll get all sore and stop.

And that's about it. Move and eat less.


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I've found out the hard way that exercise is extremely important in any weight loss programme. I've eaten stuff-all for the past couple of weeks but been virtually bed-ridden (due to depression) and I've hardly lost any weight at all.

Must get more active! Muscles seem to be wasting away at this rate!

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i don't know if this is an option for you, but i totally loved weight watchers. when i quit zyprexa, i'm positive a lot of this weight loss came from quitting zyprexa, but i lost 30lbs in 3 months, without much effort. however, i changed meds, joined weight watchers, and joined a gym to lose my weight. i'm positive most of it was med-related. :)

again, it mostly came from stopping zyprxa i think.

are you on meds that contribute to weight gain? if so, then you're doing great, swimming upsteam!

1.1lbs is great in a week. you should lose between 1-2lbs a week to be normal and healthy. any more isn't healthy.

yes, it is a lifestyle change, not a diet. you're looking at changing how you look at food, feel about food, and eat food. that's a lot to expect of yourself, and you're doing so well. have realistic expectations. you're not going to be super skinny after a week. how long did it take you to get to where you are? it will take a little while to lose the weight too.

at weight watchers, we learned to cook wtih good oils, and also to use non-stick sprays, like pam. pam helped me a lot too. try both. i still use pam.

you will also gain muscle while exercising, and that will help you to lose more calories than if you had no muscle. i admit i'm getting a bit wimpy over here without exercising (and i'm showing it because i'm getting lighter, and muscle weighs more than fat). i have a hard time opening jars now. so exercise, eat right, and watch it come off. slow but sure, you will lose weight.

also, if you do weigh yourself, only weigh yourself every week, and chart your progress on a graph if you want. they do that at curves (weight loss fitness club for women). the only depressing thing is that my weight actually went up while i was there (again, muscle), so i got all depressed ;)

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i don't know if this is an option for you, but i totally loved weight watchers. when i quit zyprexa, i'm positive a lot of this weight loss came from quitting zyprexa, but i lost 30lbs in 3 months,

Does that mean you now weight 107lbs? (I read somewhere you were 137 once)

;) I wish I only weighed 107lbs :) Gah! Stupid ana-talk! *Hits self over the head with the not-so-Little Book of Common Sense*

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