unreasonable bitchy absentee roommate

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fucking stupid fucking bitch of a fucking roommate.

i'm just a little bit pissed. my roommate hasn't done a single dish in two weeks. she leaves stuff around the kitchen (not much, but not nothing) and doesn't clean it up. she doesn't take out the garbage. i cook more than she does, so this is only seventy-five per cent unreasonable. whatever.

then i come home tonight to find a note on the fridge announcing that the kitchen is "disgusting" and i am to clean it. what the fucking hell?

kitchen filth: four days' worth of unwashed dishes on one counter. the butter dish is in front of the microwave instead of on top of the fridge. the top of the fridge is cluttered with unspoiled fruit (mostly apples) that wouldn't fit into the pomelo-dominated fruit bowl.

that's it.

i even washed all the surfaces and floors last week, and reorganized my parts of the cupboards.

clearly she is deserving of being told to shut the fuck up until she cleans her own damn grody tupperwares.

except she's sick. she's spent two days at her mom's and apparently now she's back home (i haven't seen her), and she's in enough pain to have been excused from her exam this morning and have trouble moving around. it's nothing dangerous, but it is really, really painful. so i can't just throw a dishrag in her face and tell her to start scrubbing.

how am i supposed to handle this? i'm a full-time student, like her. i work, unlike her. for some completely crazy reason, i consider meeting deadlines for school and clients to be more important than scrubbing down everybody's flatware. it's called prioritizing. i'm sure she does it to. unless she's willing to let me wash dishes at two in the morning, which is when i have time and am at home, most of them just aren't going to happen. (and of course, she sleeps lighter than the princess with the goddamn pea.)

thoughts? please? help? thanks.

[abifae]

it's nothing dangerous, but it is really, really painful. so i can't just throw a dishrag in her face and tell her to start scrubbing.

why not? why not say "i don't feel so hot either. i have a lot of school work to do. if you want it clean, you clean it."

abi the tactful

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I really, really hate it when I have to persistently clean up other peoples' dishes. Especially when everyone thinks it's 'voluntary' on my part - no, I clean up the dishes because otherwise the kitchen would be unusable.

Sometimes people suck at remembering that the dishes in the kitchen are theirs - they just dump them and leave the kitchen and it goes out of their mind. One possibility might be for each of you to put your dirty dishes in separate places, to make it obvious whose is whose. Although that can be difficult to negotiate.

[Loon-A-TiK]

go an extra step further, to add to the "HINT" factor- put all her dishes in one part of the sink, untouched and dirty, and then have some plastic tableware and paper plates by them with a note that if she doesn't feel well, she always has disposable stuff.

loon the tactful

[abifae]

go an extra step further, to add to the "HINT" factor- put all her dishes in one part of the sink, untouched and dirty, and then have some plastic tableware and paper plates by them with a note that if she doesn't feel well, she always has disposable stuff.

loon the tactful

*giggles*

i love it.

my rule is the dishes have to be IN the sink and i'll do them. roommie can't load a dishwasher and i get frazzled unloading it after he's touched it. i'm picky and autistic lol.

BUT the boys have to take out the trash cuz i won't do it. at all. no way no how.

abi