Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 I have a really irritating friend. All she ever talks about is herself, she has zero interest in me and she is so self obsessed. She is an ex of one of my friends, and while we were talking today I volunteered that I spent the day with this friend and his new girlfriend. She asked me if they were having sex, I mean wtf, what an inappropriate question to ask?! She is always asking nosy questions about them and putting me in an awkward position. I want to dump her but don't know how. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loon-A-TiK Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 is she at all a civilized, reasonable person? maybe you could discuss (diplomatically) your feelings about how she doesn't give you time to talk about yourself, and how you're uncomforatable with her asking inappropriate questions about her ex. maybe you can get her to change without dumping her. then if she doesn't change or screws up, you have every validation necessary to tell her you don't want to talk to her anymore. all the friends of mine who have ever dumped me just stopped talking to me. that sucked and i thought they sucked for doing it. at least discussing the situation with her (if possible, if she's not THAT self-centered) and giving her the chance before informing her that you'd rather not hang out with her anymore, you're letting her determine her own fate. but then, that's assuming you think she's worth redeeming. if she isn't worth it, i'd just tell her that she makes you uncomfortable in several ways and you'd rather part ways. i hate it when people just stop talking to me. it is a totally crappy situation to be in, but i think it is the right thing to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abifae Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 do you give a rip if you are ever friends again? or is she totally useless? it's easy to break off with people you want nothing to do with. tell them you don't like them and never answer their calls. if you don't want to hurt them, i hope someone with tact comes to help lol. cuz i don't have any!! but i do understand as i have an exfriend who is so annoying she didn't even get phased by rude. i passed all the way through rude, not answering calls and to ignoring her entirely whenever i accidently bump into her. sighs. abi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abifae Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 i think i might just be a mean person. i'm not big on second chances unless i think i'm really going to get something out of the deal i'm glad you won't have to be putting up with her anymore. you don't need an energy drain like that! abi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loon-A-TiK Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 oh, i thought she was someone you had to deal with on a daily basis. if you've already tried the nice way and she didn't get the hint and/or claimed she'd reform and hasn't, then you're totally justified in blocking her. good for you! as abi said, you don't need that kind of drain on your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
themind Posted January 14, 2007 Share Posted January 14, 2007 sounds like traits characteristic of a narcissistic personality disorder... Karuna...you are an amazing woman. You deserve to have supportive, empathetic friends who are interested in your life and not just gathering gossip about past relationships. BUT...I have a tendency to attract these types of people into my life. Unconsciously, I think. And what I have discovered is that these type of people allow my issues to be overlooked and take a back seat, because I'm always dealing with their issues. In a way, I think it is a subtle attempt on my part to not have to open up and be intimately vulnerable, even in a friendship because I'm always so busy supporting the other person. That being said....what are you learning from this experience besides irritation and frustration? I think everyone we interact with is put in our path for some reason....usually to teach us a spiritual lesson. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chUCKIT Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 update on X-friend status? just ran across this thread and wondering how you ended up dealing with this poison ..person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I just blocked her from my messenger and have ignored her since. It seems to have worked well and I have avoided being sucked back in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chUCKIT Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 way to go! life is difficult enough without allowing energy sapping life suckers to yano suck the life from us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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