Loon-A-TiK Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 i went on 1 date with this guy months ago, and he won't stop txt messaging me. we never even held hands, but he keeps calling me "sexy" and "misses" me. i saw him once and he won't get it through his head that i want nothing to do with him! i went to the verizon store to see if they could block his number, and they said that they can't filter a specific number for me. how generic. i'm thinking about switching my number entirely because he won't leave me alone. with all the people who have my # i don't want to do that (and have to call them all to let them know), but this is getting CRAZY. any advice? he SUCKS!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve@3AM Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 Have you contacted the police? They probably can't do anything at this point, but you need to start to establish a pattern. And then let the guy know that you have felt that you needed to do so. Maybe at that point he will take what he is doing seriously. Some people just can't seem to understand subtlty and need to be whumped up side their heads! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olga Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 Steve is right--this is a matter for the police. Start making a log (nothing fancy---just a piece of paper) with the date, time and content of the messages. If he is text-messaging you several times a day and you have made it clear to him that there's no hope of a relationship, it is harassment. Or stalking. And talk to the police just to establish that this is happening. They will log your call and there will be a record of it when you call again. olga Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
resonance Posted November 12, 2007 Share Posted November 12, 2007 If you have not done so already, tell him very clearly no and that you will not respond to him again. Then, don't respond again. If you do even once, it sends the message that all he needs to do is harass you long enough and you'll respond. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catnapper Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 Sorry to hear you've run across such a jerk. If you do decide to change your number, would it be possible to send one broadcast e-mail to everyone you want to give your new number to? I realize not everyone has e-mail access, but since so many people do, it might make changing numbers a little less onerous (and less costly!) I don't know enough about text messaging to know if you can send one text to everyone on your contact list with your new number, although I would guess you probably could. Find a ten year old kid and I'm sure they could show you how to do it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loon-A-TiK Posted November 13, 2007 Author Share Posted November 13, 2007 everyone- i've started a log to keep track of his harrassment. i'm going to txt him directly the next time he txts me and tell him in no uncertain terms that his mail is unwelcome and i'm going to go to the police with a log if he does it again. i haven't been erasing his messages, so i can go back in my phone and find the messages, their time, and content. he isn't threatening me or getting perverted, except if you consider the "hey sexy" to be out of line. all he did on our date was talk about sex, which is why i didn't want to go out with him again. at first after i told him i didn't want to see him anymore he begged me to see him, and then started calling me names and told me that if i didn't go out with him, he hoped i'd get used by other guys! nice, huh? so anyway, i'm doing what you guys have suggested to get the situation under control. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiaB Posted November 13, 2007 Share Posted November 13, 2007 I went through something very similar several years ago, although the guy in question was also stalking me in person and it all got very nasty. HIS phonecalls were along the lines of calling me at 3am to tell me he'd been looking at train timetables so he could find one to throw himself under My cellphone company was just as unhelpful as yours, even when I really caused a stink and tried to take the issue as far as possible with them. Their basic response was "go to the cops". Getting them involved was just one big ugly mess. So, while I'm not entirely disagreeing with the posters who said you should follow that route, my advice would be to bite the bullet and change the number. Contacting people to let them know that it's changed is a small price to pay for some peace and quiet - and safety for that matter. In my experience these things tend to escalate rather than peter out, and completely cutting off his only means of contacting you is a very positive step to take. I must say all this with one caveat, however: are you absolutely 100% sure that your cell phone # is the only contact information of yours he has? If he knows your last name and can track details such as where you live, then you must toss out what I said above and go straight to the police. good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loon-A-TiK Posted November 17, 2007 Author Share Posted November 17, 2007 thanks miab! i'm sorry that you were stalked, especially in person. that's even more disturbing than 3am phone calls by a guy who claims he's going to kill himself. what a weirdo! he does know my last name. however, i looked everywhere all over the net and couldn't find anything with my last name, except for some papers i wrote in college. i'm not secretive about Hedge Fund Management or Macroeconomics of the European Union, so i think i'm safe there. i'll change my #. i'll just do it. i think i can send a broadcast text to everyone on my list indicating that i'm changing my number, and giving them the new one. this guy is a real winner! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Just a thought, but you might post a false address for yourself somewhere on the net, just for him. Perhaps nasty of me, but one guy was bothering me once, and I gave him the addy of a sorority house at the college I'd gone to, told him to ask for Buffy. I wish I could have hidden in the bushes and seen their reaction. Sophia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olmedina Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 Hi, Loon- have you gotten rid of him yet? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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