resonance Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 This is in "People Suck" but actually we don't suck and that's why I'm posting it. As I said with respect to [link=http://www.crazyboards.org/forums/index.php?showtopic=20491&st=0" target="_blank]Loon's most recent thread[/link] in which she married some Lebanese dude against almost everyone's advice: We had a lot of collective wisdom get put into this thread. I saw a lot of people give good advice and work hard to offer support, even though it was not taken. This is a thread for "what kinds of other things can we harness our powers of collective wisdom for, if we want to do more than we're doing already" and "if this thing happens again, is there anything we could change that might help, now that we know stuff we didn't before." (I may be being overly cheerful because my semester's over, but I really do think we did what we could and it was impressive.) (I hope she's okay.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mitten Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 Great idea!!! I think, can only speak for myself, I need to learn when to say when. When it seems that I worry more about someone's issue than they do, then it's time for me to move on. Like I said on the other thread, I know that I can no longer read topics started by her, I need to take care of me. On the whole, cb has been a really positive supportive place for me, especially recently (My 16 year old son is committed thread). Collectivly, you ask for something when you post a topic and people respond. What I have seen is that they respond more once they really know who you are. If you are a frequent topic starter, it seems like you get more replies. This group should never doubt their power of awesomness. It is the most supportive, non-judemental honest group of people I have ever had contact with!! Thanks for being you, I know that you all have me out...alot!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangergirl Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 This is a thread for "what kinds of other things can we harness our powers of collective wisdom for, if we want to do more than we're doing already" and "if this thing happens again, is there anything we could change that might help, now that we know stuff we didn't before." (I may be being overly cheerful because my semester's over, but I really do think we did what we could and it was impressive.) (I hope she's okay.) Resonance, let me first say thank you for being so proactive and doing something about this situation. You're right - what it boils down to is that we poured a lot of ourselves into Loon and were ultimately rejected. I don't think that there's much else we could've done for her other than hunt her down in real life and stage an intervention, but what can we do in the future? What can we do when we feel one person on the boards is dragging the rest of us down? I think Mittens hit the nail on the head - call a spade a spade and ignore 'em. Of course, I think that it might take a while to figure out that that's what's happening...at least that's what seemed to happen here. Congrats on your semester being over - I hope you did well on all of your finals. I think that we were all quite impressive and I too hope that she's ok. i think we're here watching not only out of care for Loon, but for the same reason i do things like watch America's Top Model... i can't believe there are people THAT clueless and THAT self-centered - wow. i used to watch the Anna Nicole Smith show for the same reason (look! someone crazier than me!). but as her life unfolded in a different direction, i just feel sadness about her and her family. I did care, I tried to help and I still care in that I don't wish harm upon her. I've also realized that there's nothing else I can do for her but sit back and wait for the fall out. You're right - those shows point out human failings to the Nth degree, but those actors aren't on a support forum nor seeking medical attention for their mental health problems. Either this chic is playing games with us or her mental health team is failing her completely. For all of the medication and therapy she goes through, I can't believe that she's THAT clueless or THAT self-centered. I think what she's doing is mean - she's stealing attention from people who really need it and want it....and it's not entertaining. No one's selling me a granola bar or dish soap to read her crap. I know that sometimes for me it is easier to get lost in someone else shit than my own, ...it sets off all these triggers...I read, empathize, relate, sort through the pain, and pour my heart and soul into unheeded advice, ...each and every post topic of hers has had tons of supportive honest replies. ...Advice is free, but emotions are not...they have a price. Mittens, I just kind of hightlighted some stuff from your post on the other forum....the bottom line is that just like you, I think about what I'm going to write to everyone here and invest a piece of myself into that. I don't take what I write here lightly...I mean, sometimes I make jokes and use humor but that doesn't mean that I don't take this seriously. I'm pretty content to give of myself freely but I certainly don't like to be made a fool of and really, that's kind of how this feels to me. Ok, so let me play dr tdoc here (he's sitting on my shoulder bringing me back) - what can we do in the future when we see this happening? What do we want to do? Do we want to watch it like a bad reality show? Does it really make us feel better or are there more constructive ways to give ourselves those much needed ego boosts? I like it when people say thank you for the support and help - that's a much needed ego boost. I didn't realize it, but it's true. So for me, moving forward, I'm going to do my part and say thank you to all of you more often. So everyone: THANK YOU!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused Posted December 13, 2007 Share Posted December 13, 2007 This is a thread for "what kinds of other things can we harness our powers of collective wisdom for, if we want to do more than we're doing already" and "if this thing happens again, is there anything we could change that might help, now that we know stuff we didn't before." I think we just keep doing what we're doing. This place is very supportive. I want to add my thanks, too Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve@3AM Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 On the solstice we can all set our minds to shifting the moon's orbit! Other than that I think "confused" is not confused - is correct. I don't think there's some magic wisdom in when to give up. I think Loon's situation is somewhat unique. I've seen similar behavior from a couple of others in the past but not as extensive and in-your-face obvious. It really means that we were never able to find the right hook to connect with her. (And, no, I don't mean that in boxing terms - though I think we felt like it! ) We got frustrated and it shows. I don't think our "awesomeness" (IF we really have any) is in our knowledge etc. it's in the fact we tried and we care - because those we care for here are, I think, in some way a reflection of wanting others to care for us. I think our failure to get through to her was a bit scary. Will no one get through to ME when I really need it? OK, I'm being overly analytical. I'll shut up now. But I, too, thank everyone who cared and tried and in spite of all that has been said will do it again. We all put ourselves in each others' hands here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r.mcmurphy Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 loon's tripping-there will be mo betta intrique a couple of weeks after the first of january, there is a new moon then. we hard core moonbats will hit the keys hard right around that time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mel1 Posted December 14, 2007 Share Posted December 14, 2007 I'm not sure what this thread is really about. My little fried brain hasn't had enough caffeine. But, if i am wrong, I know you will forgive me. As for the thread we do not speak of (i really didn't want to touch that with a ten foot pole), i have no comment. I do enough stupid things without feeding into stupider things. But, again, i really want to say to people here, if i am ever doing something outrageously stupid, feel free to tell me and i promise to listen. Of course, I might not want to admit it. But, again, i am rambling. What i mean to say is that I feel like I have a safe place to come to to get and give support. I post more when i'm stable-er and don't respond much when i'm not doing too good. Or too busy. But, i told my tdoc about this site, not the actual name, just that i go on a online support group, and he thought it was a good idea. Hopefully, he wont' figure out which one, because i would be really embarrassed about mentioning him as the object of my crush. i don't think i'm making sense. But thank you for being here and thank you VE for having this site. I'm going to try to muddle through the very long post with my ADHD brain to seee how to donate money. Not too much, but hey, you deserve it. Sorry for sounding like i don't know what i'm talking about , because i really don't. mel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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