Ella Posted July 17, 2005 Share Posted July 17, 2005 The topic description being the MI ignoramuses' attitude toward MI. I'm going to rant a little now about my mom...though she's so MI most people can't tolerate being around her for longer than a few minutes. But she's existing among the woefully ignorant who deny they have a problem (more like problems out the wazoo!) and think people like me, who readily admit to having a few screws loose, are just "weak-minded". It's a denial thing, I'm sure. That doesn't make it any easier to bear. Ok, it does have a mitigating effect on my anger. Instead of wanting to wring her neck I just want to scream at her a little. I have Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder, which makes me a little weird about how I go about doing certain things. One of my "things" is that I can't go out of the house looking like a slob. I don't have to look like a beauty pageant entrant, but I do have to cover any blemishes and under-eye circles, and the hair cannot be flapping about all over the place. The hair must be brushed and styled, even if I'm just running to the grocery store for cat food. Well, my mom thinks this is just hilarious. She came over today while I was getting ready to run out on one of these little errands. Then she proceeded to tease me about it, and while I wasn't happy I did try to maintain a sense of humor. Then she pushes the envelope just that bit farther--*dink*, right over the edge--and says in her most biting, sarcastic tone of voice that I'd be in big trouble if someone got me out of bed and forced me out the door without the benefit of make-up or styling products and that is precisely what I need to do to get over this habit of mine. Her advice is meant to "cure" me, know what I mean? Like the time I told her I'm socially phobic and she advised me on the art of small talk. You know what her job is? Heaven forbid. She works with MI young adults in a halfway house. I can't begin to tell you how sorry I feel for them. One of her favorite pastimes is to hold forth, with me as her captive audience, on all their foibles and transgressions. She loves to mention how "slow" they are. I don't know how it always manages to crop up in discussion, but if you listen to her long enough you'd start to think MI and stupidity are the same affliction. I always try to inject something like "Well, maybe soandso is just depressed/anxious/learning disabled/heavily medicated/etc." But that just gets me The Look. The how-dare-you-imply-I-don't-know-what-the-hell-I'm-talking-about look, of course. This is the mom, by the way, who, when my grades started falling off in middle school because I was depressed and ADD (undiagnosed at that time) and my anxiety disorders began to really make themselves known, this is the mom who thought that the louder she spoke, and more short-tempered she became, while helping me with homework, the more likely it was to sink in. Gee, I guess I was just slow, too. Come to think of it, I thought she was a really great mom for a number of years (compared to my dad she was Parent of the Year material), so maybe there's a grain of truth in there. I snapped at her for pushing that envelope earlier today, incidentally. It's always my fault, I'm always the bad one, whenever she pulls her shit and I get angry. I'm just being temperamental, you know? Anyway, if you want to use this thread to rant about stupid people who say utterly stupid things about MI, or MI people, go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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