What do you do in this situation?

[iMPERFECT]

Before you read - I'm thirteen, yea, I'm young and I've heard thirteen year old girls are immature and such, so keep that in mind...

I had this friend, okay? We were best friends for over two years, hanging out, making up thousands of inside jokes, listening to music...the whole package. And then, suddenly, it was over. Just like that.

I didn't wait to walk to class with her. Yes, you heard me right. I didn't want to because she had been poking fun at me all day long and I was tired of it, quite honestly. I'd been sort of angry with her for a time because she had these things she'd say that just make me so...mad. Like, "Hey, do you want to borrow this stuff I have? it might help your acne..." or "Do you think I'm short? Oh wait, I shouldn't ask you...you're too tall." or my personal favorite, "Here, eat some more food. You're such a twig, hahaha."

So she arrives and calls me a bitch. I ignored her and on her xanga (ah, the prime source of my misery) calls me a bitchy whore, a bitch, and some other names that weren't too sincere.

So a few nights later at our school musical practice, she tries to act like best friends one of my really good friends (whom I should mention she's also feuding with. everyone got pissed off after what she said to me. and she also called them some of the same things...) my friend then proceeded to get slapped HARD across the face by the one we're all mad at. A little blood appeared from her nose, along with a red cheek and a huge white handprint. This is the point where my ex best friend exclaims she never touched my friend.

She will not speak to me now and she blocked me on IM because I apparently lied by telling a teacher, so she would be aware of the situation. Since this girl lives down the street and all my neighbors are good friends with both of us (my boyfriend included) they all keep trying to fix our friendship. It won't fix. It's over. I don't want it to get fixed. I am just so pissed off at her, I can't even imagine what I did wrong. And she says I have no reason to be mad. My "group" who is friends with her as well (neighbors, bf) always invites her along, too. She kicks me out of her way, so I don't even get included when she's around. I honestly have never disliked someone so much. Eh, what shall I do?

[Kablume]

Imperfect,

Unfortunately girls at 13 and up can be horrible bitches. So in my honest opinion, don't do anything. You cannot change another person so continue with your life with your head held up high. As far as anger, it is a wasted emotion. Believe me when I tell you that one day, after high school, none of this will matter. I hope that you have someone you trust that you can talk to. You could always go to a school counselor just to let it out. Don't let the situation get out of hand. Just don't stoop to her level and aggravate your self.

You hang in there, Ok?

Sondra

[Dweii]

Hmm,

I've got friends like that too. That are part of my group of friends, but that I've been fighting with and can no longer stand. My advice is to just ignore her, that would be the most mature option. If you want you can try talking to her later, when you're over it, but not now.

Hey I was thirteen just a few years ago and it sucked ass. I know how you feel.

[soulshards]

I had a similar thing happen in Jr. High. This is how I ended up meeting my best friend, who still is my best friend. 17 years later.

the best way to get over losing a bitch..I mean a friend..is finding another better and true friend to replace 'em.  And, the less you say about it the better. otherwise, unless you like drama alot, it will continue among the circle of people for a long, long time.

Ignore her or if necessary tell her straight up to get out of your life.

[sun_zoom_spark]

Take it from an old fart. When you're an old lady you'll be able to count the number of GOOD friends on one hand.

People change as they go through life and one thing that changes is the people we call friends.

Jr. High one set of friends, H.S. a different set, college a different set, marraige a different set and so on.

Your interests in life will constantly change and this usually involves people.

Don't think twice about moving on because that's what life is all above.

[sarahnoid]

iMPERFECT, you prefaced with your age of 13 and said that girls your age are immature....  I think that's kinda ironic because you sound pretty mature to me.  Bitchface, however, is another story.  Unfortunately, this stuff is gonna happen to you no matter how old you are.  You're handling it much better at 13 than I think most adults would. 

So look.  Bitchface sucks.  She's not a good friend and she's not a good person and it's pretty obvious to me that all her biting comments are stemming from her own insecurity within herself.  And since you are no longer allowing yourself to be her whipping post, she now has to face the facts that she just fucking sucks.  And people who suck really don't like to be confronted with their suckitude.

So continue to ignore Bitchface.  Because really, that's what's gonna bug her the most.  She wants to get under your skin.  And for a while, it's gonna work, but don't show signs of it.  Because in the grand scheme of things, Bitchface isn't worth the energy of getting angry with her.  Eventually, she'll stop trying to get at you because she'll see it's worthless.  And eventually, your dislike for her will turn to pity and then indifference.