isis Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 Hi I don't have a diagnosed sleep disorder and no history of sleepwalking (only a few times when i was very young). It is possible that i just dont know though. Recently I have found with my new boyfriend that i wake up to find myself in the middle of some sexual activity... ranging from kissing to sex.. and i have no memory of how i got there or anything. Pretty much, I just wake up and find myself in the middle of it all. This morning I woke up at 4am and after a few minutes, it wasnt a bad feeling but i said 'how did this happen?' - he didnt know either. He thinks I am initiating it and waking him up. It seems to me that logically i must be doing this stuff while asleep, and he just doesnt realise i'm asleep. I'm concerned about this for a few reasons. As far as contraception goes, its ok because i have the implanon. But I feel uncomfortable that I am doing things in my sleep and have no idea about it. I guess I would prefer to consciously choose to have sex, and not feel like its just happening without me really paying attention. I also worry that during times when i am away from my boyfriend (we dont live together) I could do something dangerous without knowing it. Has anyone experienced anything like this? berry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ophelia Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 There is such a thing called "sexsomnia." As with most other things, though. Your best bet - talk to your doctor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moriah Conquering Wind Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 Berry honestly, its first suspicion would be that he has a fetish for this type of sex (which would be more commonplace than most think, and much more likely an explanation than both of you "sleepsexing" unconsciously at the same time) and has been initiating it but not wanting you to know because he fears how you would react to him having such a fetish. The fetish bes similar to necrophilia but involves desires for sex with an unconscious, comatose or sleeping LIVING body rather than a corpse, and it has its own name but Moriah forgets what it bes called at the moment, sorry. Will look this up and get back to you here..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rowen Posted March 24, 2009 Share Posted March 24, 2009 TMI, but my husband is in to being woken up in the middle of the night for sex (well, pre-trazodone anyway). He'd wake me up, but he knows that I'll kill him if he does. It's a pretty common fantasy. It wouldn't be surprising if your boyfriend was initiating it, but you are engaging in sexual activity in your sleep either way. A lot of people actually do have a parasomnia history (from when they were small children), and it can crop up later in life if you're stressed out. How are your meds? Have you changed meds recently? How are you symptomatically? How is your work/school/volunteer/whatever life? It is worth bringing up to your doc, just in case the behavior gets out of control. If this is affecting your sleep, they can give you benzos (assuming you're able to take those - don't recall whether or not you have a substance abuse history). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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