Is he really pissed about facebook?

[Izzythekitty]

So i almost feel stupid talking about this. But since when I mentioned it too my hb it pissed at how stupid it was.

Here is goes

My sister in law and I were taking about facebook. SHe mentioned that her hb hated the sites and she would joke with him about how she was going to sign up/. i told her I have one and my husband and i look up people we know it is not a big deal. you can block who can go to your site adn what not. so end of conversation.

one night my hb and are on facebook and we find out one of our religous scholars have a facebook. I emailed her and said "ha ha" tell your husband if this muslim priest has a facebook site. Well I got an email back from not her but her husband saying, " I don't know who this guy is and I have no use or intrest in these sites.: (he knows who the "guy" is as he is one of the top muslim priest in our area"

My husband could not believe his brother was so rude to me either. And why was he answering her email? Did she show him? We seem to always being on are tiptoes with them. Maybe I am reading into too much to it. I did not think it was a big deal I was showing her that even so called conservatives used the site. What do you make of that.

[AirMarshall]

Don't let him upset you. He told you before that he wasn't interested in Facebook, and feels that you rubbed his nose in it. Drop the subject and don't bring it up around him again.

If your sister wants to use it, she can figure out a way to do it without creating a fuss, whether it is using a library computer, at a friends, whatever.

Maybe he feels that Facebook is too frivolous. I'm another person that doesn't use social sites like Facebook because they don't fit my style, but then I don't get upset if others use them.

It's nice that it connects you with friends and others in your community.

best, a.m.

[Izzythekitty]

Don't let him upset you. He told you before that he wasn't interested in Facebook, and feels that you rubbed his nose in it. Drop the subject and don't bring it up around him again.

If your sister wants to use it, she can figure out a way to do it without creating a fuss, whether it is using a library computer, at a friends, whatever.

Maybe he feels that Facebook is too frivolous. I'm another person that doesn't use social sites like Facebook because they don't fit my style, but then I don't get upset if others use them.

It's nice that it connects you with friends and others in your community.

best, a.m.

the thing is I emailed my sister in law not my brother in law. She must have showed him the email maybe to say see, but I dont understand why she would let him respond or why he would feel the need to. It is my husband's brother and he is pissed but doesn;t want to make it a big deal like he's brother apparently did. Here is another kicker which was weird and I am almost thinking is stupid to mention.

Yesterday my son and I went to the store and we saw her adn her friend pulling in. I rolled the window down and she said yeah we need to get milk. I parked and went in and my son noticed.... well they didn't without milk. I dont strange? or am I parinoid. This is not the first time we have had some type of issues with them. I can't talk to my husband because he gets so irritated, he thinks half the shit they get mad about is so stupid it isnot worth talking about. Me I feel like shit this is your brother and the only family you have in this country. I don't kknow I am sure part of me is being too sensitive. God it is so much easier have friends online.

[withing]

First you say this:

one night my hb and are on facebook and we find out one of our religous scholars have a facebook. I emailed her and said "ha ha" tell your husband if this muslim priest has a facebook site.

Then you say this...

the thing is I emailed my sister in law not my brother in law. She must have showed him the email maybe to say see, but I dont understand why she would let him respond or why he would feel the need to.

You essentially sent him a message - through your sister-in-law - then you don't understand why he answered? What?

As for the who facebook thing, I think you're overreacting.

Here is another kicker which was weird and I am almost thinking is stupid to mention.

Yesterday my son and I went to the store and we saw her adn her friend pulling in. I rolled the window down and she said yeah we need to get milk. I parked and went in and my son noticed.... well they didn't without milk. I dont strange?

All kinds of possibilities - the store didn't have the kind of milk she wanted, the milk was too old and she decided to buy it fresher somewhere else, she didn't have enough money, the milk wasn't in the right quantity (she wanted a gallon and the store only had half gallons or visa versa)... the possibilities are endless. Don't read too much into it; that way lies dragons.

Really, don't bug your husband about it if he doesn't think it's important. Just because the guy is his brother doesn't mean he has to be best buddies with him. Honestly it's better to let these things go.

[olga]

I agree with Patheral. Let the brothers have their relationship and stay out of it. The more you try to engage the brother, the more irritated he will become. All you'll accomplish is to piss him off, aggravate your husband, and make unhappy feelings all around.

If you and your husband stay married, this guy will be your BIL for 40 years. Why bother irritating him? Enjoy your Facebook page and leave him out of the equation.

olga

[Izzythekitty]

I agree with Patheral. Let the brothers have their relationship and stay out of it. The more you try to engage the brother, the more irritated he will become. All you'll accomplish is to piss him off, aggravate your husband, and make unhappy feelings all around.

If you and your husband stay married, this guy will be your BIL for 40 years. Why bother irritating him? Enjoy your Facebook page and leave him out of the equation.

olga

well I am hoping we stay married as we have been married for 13 years.

[Izzythekitty]

I agree, I have to learn to stop worrying and obsessing. And I am so analitical aboout everything. There is a history of them getting mad for things that others would think are stupid. Not visiting when they came from a trip, calling enough. Stupid shit. I think that is also part of why I worry. But my husband doesn't care. I am trying to teach myself not to. I am pretty sure what happened is I emailed her and she of course showed him the email and htey had a fight and that resulting in me being to blame. (not the first time this has happened with my brother in law) So is there a class on how to not give a shit??? Or is this a character trait?

I mean I literally am worrying about this and know how stupid it is? Don't answer that last one.

Thanks for the insite.