noob-leech Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Maybe I shouldn't read the comments from this article. However, I was quite shocked with the comments there, such as "Just man up already you crybaby," "It seems like the classic 'over-parenting' thing." I really can't imagine saying these kinds of things to someone who's depressed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkthorn Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 Sad that some people don't have a clue what it's like, and don't bother to even begin to understand. Once you have your MI under control (or you are at least trying to control it), I'm of the opinion that you are way stronger than anyone out there who didn't go through all the s**t you did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Artemisia Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 It'd be better if the poster of that entry never read those comments, but comments in semi-anonymous Internet settings do tend to be vile. I have no idea why people even bother making some of those comments. They just make you look stupid... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tryp Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 I didn't even read the link because I knew it would upset me. I HATE it when people are dumb about mental illness. Like, when they say things like "Just stay positive!" Or say "Everyone feels sad sometimes!" when you've been suicidal for months with no sign of relief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
larina Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 That's almost like being told "It'll get better". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rude Girl Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 I didn't even read the link because I knew it would upset me. I HATE it when people are dumb about mental illness. Like, when they say things like "Just stay positive!" Or say "Everyone feels sad sometimes!" when you've been suicidal for months with no sign of relief. I'm with you, Tryp. I'm triggered as hell and already feel crazy enough. I do not like stupid internet people saying stupid internet things about that which they don't understand. Tangentally related, I really hate the "armchair psychologist" version of this too--"your problem isn't as bad as your doctors and scars say it is, but I took a psych class in college so I know all about what you're going through, and you're exaggerating it." SHUT. UP. hateHATE people who don't at least TRY to understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noob-leech Posted May 9, 2009 Author Share Posted May 9, 2009 Tangentally related, I really hate the "armchair psychologist" version of this too--"your problem isn't as bad as your doctors and scars say it is, but I took a psych class in college so I know all about what you're going through, and you're exaggerating it." SHUT. UP. Oooh, I love "armchair psychologists." I still remember my past counsellor said that my emotional maturity had ceased growing since I was 6. Because I'm no different from a child, I remain self-centered and lack the sophistication to have empathy and compassion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vitriol Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 Maybe I shouldn't read the comments from this article. However, I was quite shocked with the comments there, such as "Just man up already you crybaby," "It seems like the classic 'over-parenting' thing." I really can't imagine saying these kinds of things to someone who's depressed. Take a look at the forums who talks about movies like Control (Joy Division , Ian curtis story). You will see many threads where people cant understand that he was very sick and dont care that the meds back in the 80s for epilepsy have many terrible side effects. Thats why I stfu about my MI and my meds. Most people cant understand. Why bother telling them. Tom Cruise judged Brook Shield because she took Paxil for a while , ON TV ! Dont you have to be sure of what you are saying when you say things like that ? He is an actor, not a PDOC ! Of course you can tell me that I should talk about it so people can understand us. Some will probably say that its like a coming out, you feel better after. Sorry, I saw people being judged and loose all their credibility because they told everyone that they were using lithium , Effexor, or other meds. This is aint about boys and girls, this is about brain. People are afraid about brain problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malangelene Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 i did not read the comments, (internot idiocy makes me hyperventilate,) but Cary Tennis' response, though still not ideal, was pretty good: "Among [your] resources is courage. If you have come this far, you obviously have courage. Call upon it now." for advice gleaned on the internet, not so bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vitriol Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 i did not read the comments, (internot idiocy makes me hyperventilate,) This is Crazyboards, most of the comments on every threads are way above of what you will see on the net . You should read a few threads, really. In fact, Im suprised of your statement since you posted many times here. You should aready know what I mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malangelene Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 This is Crazyboards, most of the comments on every threads are way above of what you will see on the net . You should read a few threads, really. In fact, Im suprised of your statement since you posted many times here. You should aready know what I mean. Oh, my pardon. I meant i did not read the comments that were posted to the article in the link. The "man up already" and all of that. I just read the original post and the advice. Crazyboards is one of the only places i read almost entire threads. This place is an oasis of clever topics, well thought out replies and genuinely funny rants. I definitely know what you mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vitriol Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 This is Crazyboards, most of the comments on every threads are way above of what you will see on the net . You should read a few threads, really. In fact, Im suprised of your statement since you posted many times here. You should aready know what I mean. Oh, my pardon. I meant i did not read the comments that were posted to the article in the link. The "man up already" and all of that. I just read the original post and the advice. Crazyboards is one of the only places i read almost entire threads. This place is an oasis of clever topics, well thought out replies and genuinely funny rants. I definitely know what you mean. I guess I should have understand what you meant. English is not my main language and I often do mistakes. Sorry... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malangelene Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 I guess I should have understand what you meant. English is not my main language and I often do mistakes. Sorry... No problem. English is my first language and i still confuse a lot of people most of the time. () Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noob-leech Posted May 9, 2009 Author Share Posted May 9, 2009 Tom Cruise judged Brook Shield because she took Paxil for a while , ON TV ! Dont you have to be sure of what you are saying when you say things like that ? He is an actor, not a PDOC ! Maybe I shouldn't discriminate others... but Tom Cruise is a Scientologist too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seraphina Posted June 3, 2009 Share Posted June 3, 2009 One of my so-called friends came to visit me in the hospital and said "it's okay everyone has ups and downs". I really wanted to fucking tear her head off. People are just ignorant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
null0trooper Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 That's almost like being told "It'll get better". For most mental illnesses, it WILL get better... with the correct treatment, if the diagnosis is correct, and other crap doesn't rain down on your life. Even 10% improvement beats 0% improvement or worsening! Of course, the folks who mean "It will all blow over and you'll be as good as new in no time!" still need a good whacking with a clue-by-four, but it's possible there's no cure for them, even then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
etkearne Posted August 13, 2010 Share Posted August 13, 2010 I didn't even read the link because I knew it would upset me. I HATE it when people are dumb about mental illness. Like, when they say things like "Just stay positive!" Or say "Everyone feels sad sometimes!" when you've been suicidal for months with no sign of relief. I thoroughly agree with you. After naiively browsing the internet for information on MI at the beginning of my diagnosis period years ago, I quickly learned to stay away from any media article that allows responses, or to discuss MI on any forum that isn't primarily for that purpose, even if they have a MI subforum. Funny enough, I had one guy at this one forum trying to convince me that to solve all my mental health problems, I should just take some LSD. That was one of the humorous responses. The others include what you said, and of course the " "meds are for "wuss"ies" response. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Antecedent Posted August 18, 2010 Share Posted August 18, 2010 I get angry at him while reading it as well, because I can relate to it and I'm angry at myself. Another thing that got me angry is that he's like me.. but has money. I'd say that's why everyone replied the way they did; sitting at home behind their computers telling themselves their lives would be better "if only" and then they meet the guy who has all the "if onlys" and is still just as miserable. They get angry at him because they want to know that in his situation they'd be making a fortune. Oh god protect anyone who should tell me my problems are not a result of my circumstance but of my own inadequacies! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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