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I have been sober since the 19th of April. it is very hard. . . . i struggle because all my friends hang out in bars, and in order for me to be social its were i have to go. I have problem enough being a hermit, that i don't want to lose the only human contact i have.

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i stopped going to bars or anywhere else for that matter that served alcohol for a good 3-4 months and even now at just over 6 months, i'm pretty picky about where I go. For one thing, restaurant food doesn't seem anywhere near as good w/o booze lol

this is another reason i am thankful to have joined AA - that in itself is a gigantic social network - think about it, everyone there was once a major partier - so i fit right in ;)

hang in there, you will find out who your real friends are on your new journey

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i stopped going to bars or anywhere else for that matter that served alcohol for a good 3-4 months and even now at just over 6 months, i'm pretty picky about where I go. For one thing, restaurant food doesn't seem anywhere near as good w/o booze lol

this is another reason i am thankful to have joined AA - that in itself is a gigantic social network - think about it, everyone there was once a major partier - so i fit right in ;)

hang in there, you will find out who your real friends are on your new journey

Thanks . . . . :) I am unsure if i should join AA . . . cause im not having problems not drinking just problems not hangout out at bars.

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I'd like to join the NO DRINKS CLUB. I have 5 days clean and am working a 12 step program for cannabis dependence and a dual recovery program for MI and addiction. I am also an alcoholic but don't go to AA. My drug of choice is marijuana so I'm incorporating the 12 steps and MA meetings into my life so I can begin recovering. I am done drinking and getting high. Just for today. I understand what that means now.

Many thanks to Inspaces for starting this thread.

MH

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Welcome...it's a pretty awesome club, if I say so myself. ;)

Seriously, I felt like drinking today. Like, out of NOWHERE. I wanted to drink a bunch of white Russians and just...forget. I took a nap instead. And when I woke up it was just gone. weird. But that's how it is.

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Hey, 5 days clean is a good thing! I pop into this thread once in a while because there's a lot of alcoholism in my family, so I know the toll it takes. Since it's the weekend, I was afraid no one would stop in and join you.

So here I am---congratulations! You're taking some really important steps.

olga

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Thank you Celestia and Olga!

Actually, it's funny. I've been in and out of 12 step programs since I was 15 or so. They never seemed to work. I always felt like I had to white knuckle my addiction for any amount of sobriety. Today was tough.

I checked out Rational Recovery at rational.org. The link was posted under Alcohol Management resources in this forum.

I read through the material and it totally made sense. If anyone struggles with 12 step programs check out that Alcohol Management post. There's some really cool stuff there.

I'm not bashing 12 step programs but they never worked for me and I finally know why. Hey...whatever it takes to stay clean I guess.

Have a safe night everyone!!

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I'm not bashing 12 step programs but they never worked for me and I finally know why. Hey...whatever it takes to stay clean I guess.

Yeah, I never "got" 12 step programs either. For just the fellowship alone, I hung in for a couple of years, but it became more and more difficult to reconcile all the things I just could not believe. Powerlessness and higher power being the major ones. I get being powerless when in the throws of an active addiction. But once you become detoxed, you're anything but powerless imo. Not a popular view "in the rooms." eh.

However...I don't knock it for other people. It's certainly not the first or last time that something that makes sense to a lot of people makes no sense to me.

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It's so cool to see new people join in ;)

I joined AA back in January after 2 months of no drinks doing it on my own. In the beginning, whatever it takes to not pick up a drink is a good thing.

Hold on to hope that the obsession to drink goes away with time - I'm at almost 8 months now and I no longer crave alcohol - I will always remember that i loved it, but i do not want it anymore on a daily basis.

So here's a secret I want to share about what I do every single day

when I wake up in the morning, before I do anything else, I fall out of bed to my knees and ask God to help me stay sober and to help me do the best I can thru the day, and then at night I get back on my knees just before getting in bed and I say, "thank you God"

It works, it really really works

in the beginning, I was saying, "thank you "whoever" you are" cuz i had ZERO faith - you don't need to have faith in anything other than some power greater than yourself and the reason for that is that it takes something other than yourself to stop drinking :)

this weekend, I went on my first weekend trip since i quit drinking, i was around alcohol at dinner and at the casino - it went great, i wasn't bugged out at all other than a few passing thoughts that bounced off me like a rubber ball on concrete.

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Also 8 months sober. It does get easier. At first it was a constant struggle each day and some very difficult nights where it felt like I was going to lose my mind. Now it's become a secure feeling that I'm sober, I'm going to stay sober, but I have to keep my guard up. For me I think it was a matter of learning to say "no" to myself. The more times I did it the better I got at it. Every once in awhile a craving does hit me, sometimes hard, but they're few and far between now and I know what to do when they come.

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Hiya no drinks club. I'm Millie and I'm just comin' back. Holy Bajoly. I was sober a million years ago, in what seems like another lifetime, for 5 years. Then I picked up. It's all a little hazy. I know I've been drinking and drugging, on and off, for the last 12 years. I stopped for a while when I was pregnant (friends called the baby "Baby Rehab) and nursing, but started up again soon after my daughter turned 2. She's 9 now, so that's about 7 years, right? I stopped a coupla times in there, but never really got clean again. Mostly I use drugs and booze to self medicate my depression/anxiety/whatever the heck is wrong with me but also, you know, I love to be really fucking high. Sorry. Can we swear here? Hmnn. Anyway, the blackouts got a little out of control, and my daughter started to notice that Mama always has a drink in her hand, and I realized how many percs and vicodin and oxys I've gone through in the last year or so and I figured maybe I ought to stop. Again. At last. So it's been ten days. Ten frickin' days. I'm reeling. I'm ridiculously stubborn and in an insane amount of denial so the thought of detox or rehab never even occurred to me but man oh man. This is hard. I went to an AA meeting the other day with a friend. It helped. When I was sober before I was "in the program" but I dunno. I don't really want to go back. I suppose if I have to choose between drinking and going back though, the choice will be to go back. Ugh Anyway, I'm just checking in because the way I figure it, the more people I tell about all this, the more accountable I'll be and the more likely I am to stay sober. Right? So there ya go. Thanks for being here. Millie

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Welcome, Millie. I hope you find lots of support here on the forums. Congrats on the ten days, and keep going!

Can we swear here?

Ah, that cracked me up. Swear all you fucking want to, my dear. No eggshells around here.

That's great that you're looking for accountability. We need to keep this thread more active.

Personally, I'm doing okay. Thoughts of taking a drinks, well no, make that cravings here and again, but so far I've been able to stave them off. Tdoc thinks I should be going to AA, and I guess I should, but haven't gone back yet.

How's everyone else doing?

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AA saves me one day at a time - if you want it, it's there for you ;)

I'm over 9 months now, the obsession to drink has evaporated as have all the other obsessions I was carrying around with me in my Mary poppins bag of coping skills. I'm off all meds, my depression has gone away, I sleep at night, anxiety and manic problems have also left me. Did i say i sleep at night??? little miss insomniac sleeps at night!! yay :) and lastly, I am happy and have found peace.

AA is a very easy program if you are willing to thoroughly follow its path with out question. It works miracles every day but it does require honesty and daily participation.

and this is all coming from the person who started the the no drinks club lol

I hope all is well with others

hang in there

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Millie!

It's me, S9. Hey, if I can do this, you can do it, and I don't do AA. It is possible to get and stay clean outside of a 12 step program. However, I agree with you that if it's a choice between AA and using, go to meetings. I've been clean again for a few years, but I don't forget how much it sucks to get that way.

xxoo

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Hey! S9! Nice to see you! I wondered if that might be you - the picture gives it away.

Yeah. 10 days. Stark raving sober. I'm determined this time though. Man. The booze was bad enough back in the day, but add in the pills and man-oh-man. What a ride. Glad to be back. I'll be bugging you all.

Inspaces, you rock. Good job starting this thread and holding down the fort.

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inspaces lets me come here and say hello, too. Kind of an honorary member and crazy old aunt. I'm glad you popped in, Millie. We have blogs now and they can be private if you want to do some ranting and raving in a safe place.

olga

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Hi everyone,

Just for today, I am joining the No Drinks Club. I'm not going to elaborate on my situation right now because I'm hypomanic and will not shut up if I start writing! But I locked all my alcohol in the trunk of my car so it's whispering to me instead of yelling at me, and I'm going to try to do my homework without it, even if that means pacing around my room holding a book. Good luck to everyone else who is struggling today!

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Thought I'd check in...

I'm a fucking mess and my life is in near ruin, but I'm still sober. Honestly, I have no idea why.

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Glittter,

the alcohol will stop whispering to you if you dump it all down the drain. Back in January, i dumped out about 40 bottles of stuff which included about 10 brand new bottles of stuff. I had a friend on the line with me at the time for support and it was hard dumping out the stuff that I loved, but I felt tons better after it was all gone.

I bet the garbage man thought I had a massive party lol

take care

PS at first i had this idea that I'd give away the sealed bottles to a friend, but my AA friend told me no way - doing that was like making the booze a close personal thing that I cared for and I needed to NOT care about its demise - he was right, so he wouldn't leave me alone until it was all gone down the drain.

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