HyperInHell Posted September 3, 2005 Share Posted September 3, 2005 I have the worst tastes in friends. I had a "best friend" who stole everything I ever owned from me. I also had a "best friend" who sent me a fucking club flyer after I sent him a long and heartfelt email. It seems like everyone who I'm friends with either fucks me over or ends up ignoring me without explanation. I'm still trying to figure out what it is that I'm doing. Sometimes I feel like the only solution is for me to never talk to anybody again. I don't know anyone who has ben rejected and fucked over as much as I have. Any advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
synthetic Posted September 3, 2005 Share Posted September 3, 2005 I have the worst tastes in friends. I had a "best friend" who stole everything I ever owned from me. I also had a "best friend" who sent me a fucking club flyer after I sent him a long and heartfelt email. It seems like everyone who I'm friends with either fucks me over or ends up ignoring me without explanation. I'm still trying to figure out what it is that I'm doing. Sometimes I feel like the only solution is for me to never talk to anybody again. I don't know anyone who has ben rejected and fucked over as much as I have. Any advice? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I doubt that you are doing anything wrong. Unfortunately, there are a lot of selfish, stupid people out there. I know. I have met a lot of them and even trusted some. It took me till I was in my mid 20s before I made any real friends that I can rely on. A lot of it has to do with the types of people you are socializing with. For me, finding people that had a similar outlook on life took awhile. It is just one of those things you have to learn the hard way. My advice would be to not give up. There are good, caring people out there that you can rely on when you need them. It just takes some work to find them and it is worth the effort. HTH. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HyperInHell Posted September 6, 2005 Author Share Posted September 6, 2005 I don't think I've ever had any real friends. I have people I hang out with, but I'm unable to get close to anybody without them running away. I feel like I call people too much. Like I'm too needy or some shit. People are a huge distraction anyway. Fuck all that. They worship me from a distance. That's better than having them flock away when I get close, right? I'm sick of the emotional pain. Feeling very borderline at the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 "To love is to hurt others and through others to hurt oneself" --Camus (I think) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonykure Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 Don't feel alone on this one. It seems I have been one of the poorest judge of character, especially when it's important. Remember to keep your selfrespect, and protect yourself best you can. Everyone needs friends, and you will find one if you keep at it. Friend don't keep taking and will listen if nothing else. Try to find out what drew you to these "users", I typically find that they are just too nice in the beginning. This can then soften you up for the big screw. Get to know new people slowly, and talk about what you value to see if there's any real connections. I have found I was too nice to certain people, this was because I didn't love myself enough. Sometimes when it rains it pours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ophelia Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 dont feel alone at all. I cant even begin to describe how many times and how severely I have been fucked over by my "best friends." I have been used and abused to no end... i will not get into detail bc I can write a fucking book.... ugh. Just dont feel that you are alone ine this sort of situation. sometimes people work off of others' weaknesses and they know if a person is vulnerable and/or an easy target to manipulate. hang in there...im sure you will find the people you deserve and, in the meantime, you always have us... ~Ophelia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
synthetic Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 I don't think I've ever had any real friends. I have people I hang out with, but I'm unable to get close to anybody without them running away. I feel like I call people too much. Like I'm too needy or some shit. People are a huge distraction anyway. Fuck all that. They worship me from a distance. That's better than having them flock away when I get close, right? I'm sick of the emotional pain. Feeling very borderline at the moment. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Caring about people is not a bad thing. I have a hard time being open with people too. As many times as I have been screwed by people I have trusted, you would think I wouldn't trust anyone. But I have found that being closed-off to people is worse than the pain of getting hurt by someone you care about. There are a lot of selfish assholes out there. There are a lot of emotionally crippled assholes out there. There are a lot of just plain asshole assholes out there. But there are also a fair number of beautiful caring generous people out there. It is worth wading through the assholes to get to the worthwhile ones. And you were correct. The Venetian Snares album rocks my ass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HyperInHell Posted September 7, 2005 Author Share Posted September 7, 2005 I think that a lot of it has to do with me being socially paranoid. Maybe I think everyone is gonna fuck me over due to how people have fucked me over in the past. Nobody likes someone who is needy though. I need to find a middle ground between needy and oblivious. I love Camus. Read The Stranger a few years ago and it hit me really hard. You guys rule. Thanks for all your support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hawkeye Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 I have the worst tastes in friends. I had a "best friend" who stole everything I ever owned from me. I also had a "best friend" who sent me a fucking club flyer after I sent him a long and heartfelt email. It seems like everyone who I'm friends with either fucks me over or ends up ignoring me without explanation. I'm still trying to figure out what it is that I'm doing. Sometimes I feel like the only solution is for me to never talk to anybody again. I don't know anyone who has ben rejected and fucked over as much as I have. Any advice? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Boy can I identify with this one. Try dating again at 56 first time since 19! I Have learned how crappy so many people are. My problem is that I am a giver and so many are takers in life. You sound like you are a giver as well. Heck my significant other is into me for something like $8,000 in the last year alone. Best friends stand beside you though thick and thin, through lifes tortures and rewards, through love and hate, throught successes and failures, through intimate confessions of deepest feelings. My ex did not stand by me when I needed her the most- when I first started showing BP symptoms. Divorced 2 years ago. I have recently accepted the BP dx after 2 years of denial and subsequently asked her to reconcile- I pledged my love for her only to be rebuffed. 33.5 years of marriage down the drain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caligatia Posted September 7, 2005 Share Posted September 7, 2005 I love Camus. Read The Stranger a few years ago and it hit me really hard. I read The Stranger for the first time in 8th grade. Blew me away. Great book. (I later went on to read Camus and Sartre in the original French, because I was a pretentious little gothling who had a knack for languages... Heh.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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