netsavy006 Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 I ask this strange question because dispite my best efforts, I still have problems with agitation and irritability towards others. Like someone will just say something and I yell or scream or raise my voice at them. It could go on into a heated arguement and then when things setting I cry about what happened, that I can't live like this and that I want to go to the hospital to get this fixed. But what can I do? I'm in therapy (CDT program). I'm on the hunt for a psychiatrist. Is there even an anti-agitation or anti-irritability pill at all? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rowen Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 It's usually an AP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azk Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 I've found that some form of methylphenidate does the trick for me, but YMMV. If you get some, be careful with the titration of it. Go slow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SashaSue Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 Maybe part of the problem is that you need to learn to better manage your emotions. No matter how hard you try, you're never going to be able to medicate away all unpleasant emotions. You do actually have control over your own behavior. However irritable and agitated you might be, yelling and screaming at people is a choice you're making. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo 'n dye Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 Is there even an anti-agitation or anti-irritability pill at all? It can be a steep learning curve to understand how to control our urges to yell at others or respond to others in socially inappropriate ways. But just because it is difficult does not make it impossible nor inconceivable. Indeed, the difficulty of managing emotions/emotional outbursts is indicative of just how important it is. Have you tried, as suggested by SashaSue, choosing NOT to yell and scream? Choosing not to be agitated? Choosing not to be irritable with others? Choosing to remain calm and in control? Give it a try, you will be surprised at how well choosing not to be agitated and irritable can be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ophelia Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 Maybe part of the problem is that you need to learn to better manage your emotions. No matter how hard you try, you're never going to be able to medicate away all unpleasant emotions. You do actually have control over your own behavior. However irritable and agitated you might be, yelling and screaming at people is a choice you're making. Word. Sasha is wise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gizmo Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 I learned a long time ago that when having a conversation with someone, you have two choices: you can either open your mouth and let the negativity spew out, or I can keep my mouth shut long enough to reformulate the words I want to say in a positive way so that there are no negative connotations in the statement. Sure, this may mean I have to bite my tongue or make it sound partially to blame, but I've had less than 10 arguments with my husband in the last 20 years. I think the calm approach works, don't you? And I don't mean I forget or bury what I'm upset about. I still talk about what I need to get out, I just think a lot more carefully about how to say it, and it works out much better in the long rung for me. In emotionally charged conversations, respite and composure are your allies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
netsavy006 Posted August 1, 2010 Author Share Posted August 1, 2010 You guys think that the affermations group I have at program could help me learn stratagies to help me with this problem? I'll keep what you said in mind everyone. Thanks for the feedback. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
etkearne Posted August 4, 2010 Share Posted August 4, 2010 Seriously, the only thing that has ever calmed my rage is an antipsychotic. Doesn't matter which one. In a pinch, I will take any that I have available. And, yes, I have done therapy (for 7 years). I also take a benzo, a stimulant, and Lithium (all also implicated in calming intense anger). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SashaSue Posted August 4, 2010 Share Posted August 4, 2010 You guys think that the affermations group I have at program could help me learn stratagies to help me with this problem? I'll keep what you said in mind everyone. Thanks for the feedback. I'm not entirely clear on what an affirmations group entails, but I'm not so much seeing how it would relate to this issue. Don't you have a tdoc anymore? That's where I'd think you should start with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
netsavy006 Posted August 4, 2010 Author Share Posted August 4, 2010 Well I'm in group therapy as part of my treatment at my program. But in one of my groups I was told I have to learn how to take proactive measures and preventative measures to getting angry in the first place so the counser's and group leader's believe that if I can prevent / delay anger, it might be a bit more benifical for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wondernut Posted August 4, 2010 Share Posted August 4, 2010 Well I'm in group therapy as part of my treatment at my program. But in one of my groups I was told I have to learn how to take proactive measures and preventative measures to getting angry in the first place so the counser's and group leader's believe that if I can prevent / delay anger, it might be a bit more benifical for me. not only for you Andy but for all the folks around you ..it is extremely hard to deal with someone who is flipping out all the time and very good that you are trying to find resolve ..as mentioned above this is YOUR behavior you are trying to control so YOU have to make a choice that you are going to change that behavior . ..you need a 1on 1 therapist to help you restructure your behavior and stop the flip outs before they actually happen ....I think that insight would be a good target for you with the anger ..gaining insight is a very hard thing to do but ..you are on the right path and with your focus on details of things maybe you could turn the tables and find a way to manage ..flipping out hurts other people as well as you remember that ..imagine how it feels to say something to someone and have them come uncorked ..it is frustrating and painful especially since the other people in the group are also struggling with their own issues good luck I believe you have the ability to gain some insight and some control maybe not complete but enough to get you to the next step Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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