living with someone else's sleep disorders?

[January]

I generally sleep like a baby. Like a lazy, sedated, and possibly comatose baby. Like for 13 or 14 hours at a stretch when I have nothing better to do. (Which is probably an entirely separate sleep issue, or psychological issue manifesting itself in sleep.) (Except lately, because I can't cool my room down and my meds are causing restless legs and I've been dreaming non-stop about rape and the end of the world and omg I digress, ADD much?) ... anyway ... but. No. I need to ask about dealing with the boyfriend's sleeping issues. I need to know how to be sympathetic and what accommodations need to be made. I spent last night at his place and it was his second straight night without sleep. Because I kick and spasm uncontrollably and sometimes talk in my sleep, and because his bed is rather small, I offered to sleep on the floor but he refused and explained that he would have not slept whether or not I had been there. He's out of Xanax until his next doctor's appointment and I know he naps as soon as he gets off work but only for a couple of hours. This morning he was completely wrecked--bags under his eyes, slow speech, moving clumsily. And I know he knows all about trying to sleep; he's been dealing with intermittent insomnia for several years. So I'm not necessarily looking for advice I can give him, but is there anything I can do to facilitate his having more frequent & restful sleep? Should I decline from coming to spend the night at all until he's sleeping again? If there, should I insist on sleeping on the floor? We usually fall asleep spooning or holding hands and he claims he enjoys that and finds it relaxing but is it possible it's still disturbing his sleep cycle? Or is this one of those things I need to accept is beyond my control, and side from offering sympathy is there nothing else I can do?

[Maizy]

my cpn mentioned to me that maybe my partner and i come together when we ya know

i howeva disagree with her, i like sleeping with my partner, and things have improved. she can be restless and lash out in her sleep, but recebtly since she is more settled that is no longer an issue. xx hope you find some solace soon xx

[celestia]

I'm sure you all are strapped for cash like all of us, but is there any chance of a bigger bed? Like maybe King? I HAVE to have enough room in a bed to be sideways at some point during the night. DH and I had a California King and it was awesome. There was enough room for him, me, 2 kids and 2 cats.

IDK, I'd feel really bad too; however, when a bed partner keeps me awake for whatever reason, and it happens a lot, I don't hesitate to bail and go to the couch or spare bed or where ever I can SLEEP. Sleeping to me is more important than physical proximity whilst sleeping.