Miss Blue Posted October 8, 2010 Share Posted October 8, 2010 Edit: Here's a slightly more coherent version of my post. I think adding a specific subforum under 'Your Crappy Life" for just generic bitching and or moaning about whatever the hell is currently going on in our lives could help a lot. I know we have the "'I've still got issues!" subforum... but not everything there contains to people just wanting to .. well, vent about shit going on. I think a subsection for just 'generic moaning' that might not apply to anything else might help. Although even writing it out in the blog can help a lot. Sometimes when I blog it feels like I'm sending it off into the black hole of the internet...even if you can get replies from it. If it's a forum post.. .it feels more, connected to other people... I guess. I'm on some stupid xanax so I might not be really all with it though. A lot of times when I rant it's because I really need to feel like my post is out there and feel like I'm connecting to other people. Sometimes with a blog it's hard to feel that. Just ignore this, if it's a giant hassle to add such a section, or if I was retarded enough to miss it in the first place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted October 8, 2010 Share Posted October 8, 2010 I think you can feel free to use "whatever" or "I've still got issues for that" I have been kicking around the idea of start some kind of a "flameatorium" board to move topics to when they turn into heated debates that have nothing to do with the original topic any more. There might be some way to combine the two concepts. "Here we unleash the flames of hell" or something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Recluse Posted October 8, 2010 Share Posted October 8, 2010 I think you can feel free to use "whatever" or "I've still got issues for that" I have been kicking around the idea of start some kind of a "flameatorium" board to move topics to when they turn into heated debates that have nothing to do with the original topic any more. There might be some way to combine the two concepts. "Here we unleash the flames of hell" or something like that. RELEVANT TO MY INTERESTS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aurochs Posted October 8, 2010 Share Posted October 8, 2010 I have been kicking around the idea of start some kind of a "flameatorium" board to move topics to when they turn into heated debates that have nothing to do with the original topic any more. Some of those would work well if they were moved to Academic Interests, I think. That board has no traffic anyway. I have no opinion on the flamewars that don't fit there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Blue Posted October 9, 2010 Author Share Posted October 9, 2010 Well, I feel stupid now. Sorry about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mudpuppy Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 Gene Wilder is my fucking idol. If you've seen my hair and wondered, "wtf is up with mud's hair?", now you know my inspiration. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mayteana Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 Ditto what Aurochs said. What VE said would work for the flame wars that have ceased being academic. ~ May Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maddy Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 I guess I could see a forum for all the arguments that devolve into this: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Blue Posted October 9, 2010 Author Share Posted October 9, 2010 (edited to remove noxious bullying) Well... that hurt my feelings. But whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneMarie Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 That was unnecessary and a little rough. A lot of people have a hard time negotiating the boards to start. Given time, you probably would have figured out that Whatever and I've Got Issues were rant places. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inspired_Neurosis Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mayteana Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. No comment on the rest of the content here. However, posts aren't supposed to be removed like that (unless it's spam). If a moderator had taken it down, you should have been notified of such. Not sure what happened here. ~ May Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneMarie Posted October 9, 2010 Share Posted October 9, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. Are you saying that more than one mod should not be allowed to respond in one thread? Because that's especially ridiculous. Or, are you saying someone deleted a comment you made in this thread? If yes, then that was wrong and an explanation should be given. You'd be very right in that sentiment. If no post of yours was deleted here, then carry on with your right to be a contentious jerk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inspired_Neurosis Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 Aaannnddd it's back... Herm...not sure what happened there, but sorry for being a douche. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 Thanks for running off the new users IN. It's not anyone is trying to earn a living off this thing or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. I believe you're a noxious boil on the bottom of the boards who has both proclaimed that he is not mentally ill and that he wants to be banned. I would like to see that the latter happens post haste. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Velvet Elvis Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. Are you saying that more than one mod should not be allowed to respond in one thread? Because that's especially ridiculous. Or, are you saying someone deleted a comment you made in this thread? If yes, then that was wrong and an explanation should be given. You'd be very right in that sentiment. If no post of yours was deleted here, then carry on with your right to be a contentious jerk. There is no need to give an explanation when a post clearly violates forum rules. Anyone making such a post should expect it to be deleted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olga Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 (edited to remove noxious bullying) Well... that hurt my feelings. But whatever. Miss Blue, the vast majority of our members are helpful, intelligent people who are fun to get to know. Please don't think that Inspired neurosis is characteristic of our membership. And feel free to rant anywhere you want. If you accidentally put your post in the wrong forum, it can be moved and it's no big deal. Rant away! We're all bozos on this bus. I hope you'll stay with us. olga Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inspired_Neurosis Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 Gee, now my feelings are starting to get hurt. Heh. If anything, you should make me a moderator for all the time and effort I put in "assisting" our new member here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Blue Posted October 10, 2010 Author Share Posted October 10, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. I'll never understand what folks get out of trying to humiliate or hurt others. If you want to ridicule someone because they posted something you thought was stupid, maybe it would be better to do it at a forum that wasn't created for people with MI. A lot of people at this forum have depression and and I'm guessing a lot have low self esteem. I do. IMO, I think people on a MI forum shouldn't have to worry about being ridiculed for what they say. They get enough of that in real life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneMarie Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 While we're making suggestions and all... If a moderator deletes a post, they should make a notation saying that, rather than presenting the impression that the poster regretted said post and deleted it personally out of cowardice. That's especially the implication here, when numerous mods already responded without taking issue with anything written. For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. I'll never understand what folks get out of trying to humiliate or hurt others. If you want to ridicule someone because they posted something you thought was stupid, maybe it would be better to do it at a forum that wasn't created for people with MI. A lot of people at this forum have depression and and I'm guessing a lot have low self esteem. I do. IMO, I think people on a MI forum shouldn't have to worry about being ridiculed for what they say. They get enough of that in real life. Well said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
null0trooper Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 For the record, I believe that, contrary to popular opinion, there are stupid questions, and that they deserve ridicule. Which goes further into "being a jerk" category than most of the moderators and staff, let alone most of the other users who don't have a fancy tag by their avy. If a "stupid question" cracks one of your personal eggshells, that's just too bad. I'll never understand what folks get out of trying to humiliate or hurt others. There are lots of reasons. Whether any of them are particularly good reasons is something we may disagree on, just as Inspired Neurosis and I may disagree on the various reasons for removing certain posts ("cowardice" may not even be in the top five.) If you want to ridicule someone because they posted something you thought was stupid, maybe it would be better to do it at a forum that wasn't created for people with MI. A lot of people at this forum have depression and and I'm guessing a lot have low self esteem. I do. IMO, I think people on a MI forum shouldn't have to worry about being ridiculed for what they say. They get enough of that in real life. We do have a "no walking on eggshells" policy, in addition to the "don't be a jerk" policy. Primarily, that's because it's the only way some very sensitive topics can be discussed in a frank and open manner ... but once in a while sometimes a person really needs to be told that what s/he is doing or advocating is really fucked up, in no uncertain terms. Using your specific example - depression - I think you'll find (if you haven't already) that blunt honesty hurts the self-esteem of someone who's depressed less than faked kindness. That doesn't excuse ridiculing a person who arrives with an honestly ill-informed opinion or question, but being mentally ill or having self-esteem issues isn't a valid excuse for persistent idjitry or trolling either. That may not be as clear as I'd like, but that's roughly how I see it. edit, regarding the original topic to boot: And furthermore, most of the ADHD board is one rant after another anyway. And stupid shit. YMWV, HTH, HAND. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bfff Posted October 10, 2010 Share Posted October 10, 2010 An anger section would be helpful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Blue Posted October 11, 2010 Author Share Posted October 11, 2010 We do have a "no walking on eggshells" policy, in addition to the "don't be a jerk" policy. Primarily, that's because it's the only way some very sensitive topics can be discussed in a frank and open manner ... but once in a while sometimes a person really needs to be told that what s/he is doing or advocating is really fucked up, in no uncertain terms. Using your specific example - depression - I think you'll find (if you haven't already) that blunt honesty hurts the self-esteem of someone who's depressed less than faked kindness. That doesn't excuse ridiculing a person who arrives with an honestly ill-informed opinion or question, but being mentally ill or having self-esteem issues isn't a valid excuse for persistent idjitry or trolling either. That may not be as clear as I'd like, but that's roughly how I see it. edit, regarding the original topic to boot: And furthermore, most of the ADHD board is one rant after another anyway. And stupid shit. YMWV, HTH, HAND. Ah, when I wrote "people on a MI forum", I wasn't thinking of trolls or people that deliberately act stupid just to aggravate others. Maybe I should have wrote that as well. I wasn't aware this place even had trolls. I also don't think there is ever an excuse for trolling or acting stupid on purpose, regardless of whether or not MI or low self esteem is involved. I must have not communicated my thoughts well, because that wasn't what I was trying to imply. I wished to say that, in my opinion, a forum dedicated to MI is probably not the best environment to mock or ridicule others just for the sake of mocking or ridiculing. This, of course, excludes trolls and people that act stupid just to annoy everyone. I also would not include 'tough love', 'not walking on eggshells', and acting 'blunt' as forms of ridicule, because I think that the intention behind those is to help, while the intention behind ridiculing someone is usually to hurt. To me, the word 'ridicule' conjures up thoughts of being mocked or bullied or humiliated, while being frank or blunt with someone is can be used as a means of trying to help that person in the long run. There are plenty of forums out there where people can rough house and start flamewars and insult each other, I just think that this probably isn't the best place for that. I just don't think that a place with a concentrated number of people with depression and self esteem issues and other MI issues is a good environment to have mockery just for the sheer point of mockery, and with no intention of helping someone, and excluding trolls or other people like that. That was what I was trying to communicate. Hopefully I made more sense this time. If I could, I would just delete this entire thread. It obviously has no purpose any longer and has long since derailed from the original subject. And of course I'm just a new person, so it's not really my place to get into any of this, and it was my whining that started this whole mess... so I think i'll go back to lurking for a while. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
null0trooper Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 Ah, when I wrote "people on a MI forum", I wasn't thinking of trolls or people that deliberately act stupid just to aggravate others. Maybe I should have wrote that as well. I wasn't aware this place even had trolls. We get them from time to time. Some do get banned, some actually leave on their own once they realize they are dealing with crazy people. Um, you *do* realize that you are dealing with crazy people too - including me - right? If I could, I would just delete this entire thread. It obviously has no purpose any longer and has long since derailed from the original subject. Then the discussion wouldn't be available for people who have the same question, but don't have the confidence to ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stickler Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 @ Inspired Neurosis: May I suggest you head to http://www.fark.com/ if you really want to flame idiots, and/or troll, and or threadshit. Politics section for extra flung feces content in the threads. I like http://www.thestraightdope.com b/c they don't allow flaming...but Fark mods only randomly and irregularly enforce the rules. Therefore, pretty much most threads there devolve into flamewars at some point. I wouldn't mind a miscellaneous rant section on crazyboards, but we've already got a "people suck" section... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inspired_Neurosis Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 Gene Wilder is my fucking idol. If you've seen my hair and wondered, "wtf is up with mud's hair?", now you know my inspiration. Well, now your post seems hilariously random and lacking in context. Anyways, I wasn't previously aware that converting to religious Judaism bestowed one with that brand of ethnic Jewish crazyhair. The more you know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mudpuppy Posted October 12, 2010 Share Posted October 12, 2010 I'm a fucking rockstar like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Blue Posted October 13, 2010 Author Share Posted October 13, 2010 Well... even though the thread totally derailed, at least I was able to provide some amusement for anyone that happened to pass by. I know I could use some damn amusement in my life right about now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coolbreeze3030 Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 miss blue~ Ur fine an idea is an idea, there are no dumb questions only questions not asked... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Requiem for a Dream Posted October 29, 2011 Share Posted October 29, 2011 Wow this site sure isn't like crazymeds. They get so bent out of shape over there over a suggestion for a board like this one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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