animal Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 It's these two girls. One's my age, the other a year younger. They hate me, and are very open about it. They go in the corner and snicker. They look over and giggle. They don't talk to me. When they do they're rude. And what I hate most of all, is that one will go on Facebook and post a status about me, and the other one comments and they have little conversations about me. They don't post my name, they keep it anonymous. But I know it's about me. Because they do it every time I do something wrong. Today it was, "Can't escape the retard." I just started out as a vet tech in February, so I'm not the best. I work an hour from home so I get up way earlier than I'm used to and I'm tired. I used to be a good learner and on top of everything but my brain just sort of melted and I don't know what happened to me. I have an interview for a new job on Thursday. I really hope I get it. I know I should just ignore them and not let it get to me, but I work 10 hour days with these girls. And it's really hurtful. I already have low self-esteem and a lack of confidence. They make me feel like shit every day. I just get through the work day wondering why I'm so dumb and why I can't do anything right and why I have no common sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
olga Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Why are you tolerating this and not reporting it to your supervisor? This is clearly harassment. Start taking notes with details and dates. No one should be referred to as a "retard." I wouldn't tolerate this crap for one day. olga Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Recluse Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 It's these two girls. One's my age, the other a year younger. They hate me, and are very open about it. They go in the corner and snicker. They look over and giggle. They don't talk to me. When they do they're rude. And what I hate most of all, is that one will go on Facebook and post a status about me, and the other one comments and they have little conversations about me. They don't post my name, they keep it anonymous. But I know it's about me. Because they do it every time I do something wrong. Today it was, "Can't escape the retard." I just started out as a vet tech in February, so I'm not the best. I work an hour from home so I get up way earlier than I'm used to and I'm tired. I used to be a good learner and on top of everything but my brain just sort of melted and I don't know what happened to me. I have an interview for a new job on Thursday. I really hope I get it. I know I should just ignore them and not let it get to me, but I work 10 hour days with these girls. And it's really hurtful. I already have low self-esteem and a lack of confidence. They make me feel like shit every day. I just get through the work day wondering why I'm so dumb and why I can't do anything right and why I have no common sense. You know what? Fuck those bitches. Fuck them. Don't let them have power over you. Don't let them ruin your day, because that's what they want. It makes them happy to make you miserable...and anyone who gets happy making someone else miserable is a piece of shit and you and I both know it. So don't get sad, don't get anxious and self-hating...GET FUCKING ANGRY. Do you know how to take a screenshot? Open up MS Paint or another photo editor...then go to the page where their stupid, passive-aggressive facebook status is and open up all the comments...then look on your keyboard and hit PRINT SCREEN. Click back to your picture editor and click 'Edit' then 'Paste' and it will make a picture of the screen you were looking at. Crop it down to the status updates and save that bad boy as an image file. Keep a record of this shit and take it to your supervisor, because baby, that's called a HOSTILE WORK ENVIRONMENT. Talk to your supervisor about their workplace bullying, and say those words, 'Hostile Work Environment'...because in general, that's the magic phrase that lights a fire under a manager's ass. You don't have to take this brand of shit from anyone. You are fucking magnificent. How dare those petty, small-minded little bitches try to make you miserable? How dare they take pleasure in making you unhappy? Those aren't people, they're animals, and you don't owe them a fucking thing, and they don't deserve to take pleasure in your suffering...so don't let them. My father always told me: If someone hits you, hit them back. Taking this shit to your supervisor is hitting them back. This pep-talk brought to you by the resident rage-face. I hope it helps, this is the only way I cope sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
animal Posted July 17, 2011 Author Share Posted July 17, 2011 Thank you, Olga. You're both right. Recluse, I don't know what made me happier: your fucking awesome post or the fact that it says "honey badger don't care" under your avatar. Cause he's so nasty, he doesn't give a shit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Recluse Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Recluse, I don't know what made me happier: your fucking awesome post or the fact that it says "honey badger don't care" under your avatar. Cause he's so nasty, he doesn't give a shit. Thank you. Seriously though: The Honey-Badger should be the mascot/totem-animal of everyone diagnosed with Anxiety. I'm dead serious, because you're right: Honey badger don't care, he don't give a shit...and neither should we. We shouldn't give a shit about ANY of the things we worry about or feel bad because of. We shouldn't give a shit about any of it. We should just tear-ass around the world and fuck shit up and eat motherfucking cobras. The problem is we give a shit about way too many things. We shouldn't give a shit about ANYTHING. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helenllama Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Seems like they haven't grown out of the child/teenager stage yet. You shouldn't be forced out of what you want to do because they still act like teenage girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AirMarshall Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 At one job, I worked with two immature and obnoxious women. It reached the point where the only way I could handle the situation was to cease talking to them except strictly as required for work. One quit a short time later realizing she would not be able to get me fired. The boss fired the some time later (but not soon enough to help me). Work is for making a living, not socializing. I want to get along with people. If I make friends great, but that is not a goal. Be the adult. Ignore the hell out of those snickering girls. Do your job to the best of your ability and make sure you have your game squared away before you take any complaints to your supervisor. a.m. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
graduation day Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Hey animal, I know how much it sucks to be in that situation because I was in it quite recently. Work put me in a team with a few other people and this girl who was being really nasty to me. The girl had an ally - her boss who was a lot older than us (her boss who - by the way - only had one employee under her; this girl.) I couldn't believe the crap I had to take from them. I soon started ignoring the hell out of them and only talked to them when they talked to me. I was careful not to smile or look interested or anything like that. One day, I ended up taking all the shitty night shifts because they had planned the week without me - even though I had an agreement with the top boss that we were going to split shifts between us evenly. So I talked to my boss about it. He was being very understanding and even though he didn't know the details, he had been around these two women for a while and knew what I was talking about. He talked to them, and after about one and a half day of taking twice as much shit from them and being called a snitch, everything turned around. Things are fine now. It's a really difficult situation, mostly because you'll never get proof to take to your boss. Proof would make you go to your supervisor immediately and tell them what's going on. But really - you don't need proof at all. Supervisors are there to take care of situations like this, and if they have ears and eyes in their head, they probably recognize what's going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marvingirl Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Agree with the others. Report it to the supervisor right away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 Yes, report this these girls need to grow the fuck up. I hope they get censured out of their mind.... Anna Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enlightened_plutonian Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 I've had the whole 'my work colleagues hate me' thing in a previous employment, before I became ill. I told myself (and this had to be true) that they only hated me because they were jealous of me. Grandiose, yeah, but completely true. You are better than them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SashaSue Posted July 17, 2011 Share Posted July 17, 2011 I adore Recluse's suggestion about saving some of their bitchy facebooking, and bringing it to your supervisor. Be that honey badger! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Vapourware Posted July 18, 2011 Share Posted July 18, 2011 You really need to report this crap to your supervisor. I'm surprised you have tolerated this for as long as you have. Record and document everything, take screenshots of their Facebooking, and make sure they get their asses hammered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
animal Posted July 18, 2011 Author Share Posted July 18, 2011 Recluse, I don't know what made me happier: your fucking awesome post or the fact that it says "honey badger don't care" under your avatar. Cause he's so nasty, he doesn't give a shit. Thank you. Seriously though: The Honey-Badger should be the mascot/totem-animal of everyone diagnosed with Anxiety. I'm dead serious, because you're right: Honey badger don't care, he don't give a shit...and neither should we. We shouldn't give a shit about ANY of the things we worry about or feel bad because of. We shouldn't give a shit about any of it. We should just tear-ass around the world and fuck shit up and eat motherfucking cobras. The problem is we give a shit about way too many things. We shouldn't give a shit about ANYTHING. I totally agree with you about Honey Badger. He's definitely my new mascot. Thanks for the kind words everyone. I know work isn't for socializing but I would like to not be downright miserable there. I'm going to wait to see if I get hired at the new jobbefore I say anything to anyone. To be honest, I don't think he would do anything. I spoke to one of the girls privately before and they acted like my best friends the rest of that day. It was short lived. I dread going to work now. I'm in my car in the parking lot waiting to clock in and no matter what I tell myself I know today is going to be a nightmare. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
animal Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 Just an update. I put in my two weeks notice at this job on Friday and things have gotten so uncomfortable for me that I'm going to ask if tomorrow can be my last day. The girls are horrible on Facebook. One deleted me as a friend (I've been waiting for that to happen), probably so she can write whatever she wants. She knows I know it's about me. One of the other employees there says it's nothing but a management issue. Everyone I know is telling me to just leave and not go back. It's really what I want to do. Sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Why were you still friends with either them. Unfriend the other one, who cares what they say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SashaSue Posted July 26, 2011 Share Posted July 26, 2011 Why were you still friends with either them. Unfriend the other one, who cares what they say. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
animal Posted July 26, 2011 Author Share Posted July 26, 2011 It's not just that. It's the treatment at work too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 So you are saying that reading their comments on Facebook about you is reason enough to be leaving a job in this economy? Because that is kinda what it sounds like you are saying. And if that is,in fact,why you are giving notice, I have news for you: Coworkers are often huge assholes. You will be very very very lucky if you ever find a job without a single asshole in its employ. You don't have to be friends to work together. In fact, you don't have to like them at all. I would just do your job, if you can save it. Then look for work elsewhere. It is way easier to get hired if you are already working. That is both unfair to the people who need jobs the most, and completely true. If I were you, I would step back from the drama, and whenever you have to work with them, to be insultingly polite. If you do "polite" right, you convey scorn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
animal Posted July 27, 2011 Author Share Posted July 27, 2011 It's not even the Facebook posting that really gets me. They are both mean at work and there is no escaping them. I know there are assholes at every job. But not at every job have I, nor will I, have to sit and listen to people talk about me from around the corner or across the room. There's no reason I should have to come home from work crying. I put my two weeks in when I had an interview for a new job and got it so it's not like I just quit because of Facebook. My sister was unemployed and on disability (while trying desperately to find a job), and she saw what working with these girls did to me. The only thing she thought was unfair was the lack of management in my situation and urged me to quit. While I'm sure it would bother some, I can't agree that it's unfair to unemployed folk searching for jobs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crtclms Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 [quote name='animal' timestamp='1311798020' post='497153' While I'm sure it would bother some, I can't agree that it's unfair to unemployed folk searching for jobs. In that case, I urge to quit immediately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justme04 Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 wow i find it really sad that they have to validate themselves by putting other people down. it seems like they never matured beyond high school. first of all, report it to your supervisor, it IS harassament, and they shouldn't be able to get away with it. as far as working with them, i'd just try to be civil towards them but only talk to them when necessary. don't let them know that it bothers you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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