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No I don't. But I'd like to mention the fact that I have the same problem. Well, I was already in a relationship when I was diagnosed with bipolar. I just told my boyfriend because I had already expressed concern that I was going crazy anyways. When I meet new people I cringe at the thought of telling them. Or pretty much anyone for that matter. Even other health care specialists.

So you're not alone.

I bet you'd be surprised that she won't run off though.

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It might've been that I'm a lucky person, it might be the people I hang out with, or a combination of both, but whenever I've felt the need to disclose to someone my MI, I would just tell them outright and I've never had any adverse reactions from it. I've had people ask me questions about how my MI impacts me, or what my MI means, because people usually don't encounter "schizoaffective" very often and "Asperger's" is a bit misunderstood. I've never had anyone treat me differently after out that I have a MI.

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I would start slow. Just give a little bit of information. Perhaps telling your friend that you have been treated for depression, and take medication....for example. I would just float a trial balloon and then evaluate the response. Is this long term friend or someone you want to date, or are dating? I would not reveal too much too soon. Just my take on this subject. I know other people might just lay it out there right away.

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I would just lay it right out there. You need to be with someone who can handle stuff like that if it's going to be a long term relationship. I mean, I wouldn't say on a first or second date or anything, just if you think things might get serious.

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For me normally as a rule, I tell people (friends, or future dates) pretty up frontally that I have MI, as close to straight away so that gives the the chance to run if they want, and i don't feel like i have lost anything because i didn't get to know them. I mean if they hang round me to much they would find out on there own anyways. I say its best not to hide but then again i haven't had to many poeple judge me or be mean because of it, though poeple in my experiences often misunderstand, and late into the relationship you have to way educate them. Also my family especially my Mom likes to tell everyone including my Boyfriends best friend which can be awkward when i find out. but means i don't have to do it. - but if you already know then it honestly depends on the person, do you think they will freak out? If they do then i guess they aren't good friends.... or maybe they need a bit of educating and de-stigmatizing. Best of Luck.

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Depends on where you live, in certain countries and cultures (like mine) BIG no-no. Otherwise, in a civilized place, I would go about telling people as soon as an attachment is forming so they know you aren't "like in the movies nuts" from experience but they also have a chance to evaluate you in context and decide whether they want to stick with you.

Best.

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I've done this several times and I think I'm getting better at it. Here's a few tips from what I've learned: Tell them if you feel like they are someone you are going to stay friends with or date, be choosy in who you tell. Explain your illness/es to them even if they say they know what it is. Chances are they have one or two things wrong. Explain what it's like for you individually and what they can expect from you (reassurance is good here- I'm not that crazy). And finally, I always end my speech with- I'm still the same person as before you knew I had this, that's not going to change...well that much (I'm bipolar ;) ) And if they can't handle the MI then it's good you found out now cause you probably don't want them in your life anyway. Good luck! Hope everything goes super well! :)

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I only tell people who I think I will be in a long-term relationship (friendwise, I've been married for forever). I basically start out by saying that I take medication every day for a health condition. If they ask, I will tell them it's a psychiatric condition. If they ask what one, I'll tell them more in detail about what I have.

I second the poster who said everyone has something wrong. I recently told a friend who is hard-core Mormon that I had bipolar, and she surprised me by telling me her middle daughter once checked herself in the phospital for suicidal depression and they supported her 100%, meds and all. I know some mormons who would turn their back on their family if this happened, cause it's so against their religious culture (I am NOT saying I know a lot about mormons, so I could be wrong here!) So you never know.

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[quote name='gizmo' timestamp='1314686839' post='504589'

I second the poster who said everyone has something wrong. I recently told a friend who is hard-core Mormon that I had bipolar, and she surprised me by telling me her middle daughter once checked herself in the phospital for suicidal depression and they supported her 100%, meds and all. I know some mormons who would turn their back on their family if this happened, cause it's so against their religious culture (I am NOT saying I know a lot about mormons, so I could be wrong here!) So you never know.

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