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I feel like there's a NAME for this syndrome...

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I have Bipolar disorder, but my husband suffers from severe depression. It's somehow really easy for me to self-identify symptoms for myself, but I have a much harder time with him.

Recently, his depression has become much worse, and he's moved away from home (although we're married, he's lived elsewhere for a year and a half), where I can't see him. We talk often, and although he realizes that his depression is an issue, he refuses to get help. It's very sad really.

But that's not the point of the story today- He's been saying really weird things lately like "nothing i do matters, because nothing matters at all, because the whole world is going to shit anyway". When i asked him to clarify, he said "like end of the world shit, I'm just waiting for it at this point". Sooooo, yeah. I think he honestly believes that he shouldn't try to get better because the whole world is worthless, or going to end, or something. He is an atheist, so this isn't religiously based or anything.

I feel like there's a name for this syndrome, does anybody know what it is?

Also, I live on the east coast, he on the west. I am his wife, and hold all legal rights and stuff, do you think i can or should do something to force him to get help?

Thanks everyone,

I don't know what I would do without support like you. For realz.

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Pessimism? Its not a perfect fit really, but I can't think of anything that fits overly well.

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that sounds like severe depression really.

Unless he is talking active suicidality to you, it would be hard to get him involuntaried. i think suggesting support, etc., but he sounds very resistant. I am sorry. I get feelings of doom, for the world at large, when I am severely depressed, It's not that uncommon.

Anna

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i vote for severe depression. i've had similar thoughts more times than i'd like to recount. for me it's one step up (in the right direction) from wanting to kill myself (once i'm all the way down, i *know* it's me that needs to die for whatever reason). if i'm not all the way down, but far enough to be nuts, i'll blame everything on the world being so fucked up it needs to just implode already. that i shouldn't bother trying because there's no hope for happiness for *anybody*, not just me. it's not quite suicidal, but rather terminally hopeless.

i hope he chooses to get help soon. that's an awful place to be in.

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Yep, sounds like depression to me. When I'm in the Black Hole, everything seems pointless and it looks like the world is going to hell in a handbasket. I'm sorry your husband is struggling with this deep depression. I'm not sure what you can do if he won't see a therapist or pdoc.

olga

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Thanks everyone.

I spoke with the hubby today, and while he seems a tiny bit better, he is still in the mindset that in 20 years or so society is going to crumble so there's no point in spending much effort on anything, unless it's learning a useful trade. This super sucks because he was a very talented computer programmer in the past, and he's now working for minimum wage in a hardware store. I'm glad he's till alive, and not talking at all of hurting himself, but I remain worried. He doesn't believe in mental illness at all, even though his very own wife is bipolar. He refuses to seek treatment of any kind. I can only hope that he can get help someday, but i'm not sure he ever will. depression, and all mental illnesses, really hurt the people around the sick person, don't they? Sucks.

Thanks all for your words of kindness and advice. Maybe he will come around someday. Maybe not.

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I once had the feeling that "the end" was coming at some point so nothing really mattered, and I've only been diagnosed with depression, but IDK, I'm no specialist.

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There is also existential crisis.

The wisest man to ever live wrote about it in the 3rd century B.C., in a book now called Ecclesiastes. It's oddly comforting to read. Here is his conclusion: "In light of this perceived senselessness, he suggests that one should enjoy the simple pleasures of daily life, such as eating, drinking, and taking enjoyment in one's work, which are gifts from the hand of God." (ref. Wikipedia).

One generation passes away, and another generation comes;

But the earth abides forever.

The sun also rises, and the sun goes down,

And hastens to the place where it arose.

The wind goes toward the south,

And turns around to the north;

The wind whirls about continually,

And comes again on its circuit.

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There is also existential crisis.

The wisest man to ever live wrote about it in the 3rd century B.C., in a book now called Ecclesiastes. It's oddly comforting to read. Here is his conclusion: "In light of this perceived senselessness, he suggests that one should enjoy the simple pleasures of daily life, such as eating, drinking, and taking enjoyment in one's work, which are gifts from the hand of God." (ref. Wikipedia).

One generation passes away, and another generation comes;

But the earth abides forever.

The sun also rises, and the sun goes down,

And hastens to the place where it arose.

The wind goes toward the south,

And turns around to the north;

The wind whirls about continually,

And comes again on its circuit.

I was thinking the same thing... mixed with depression. nihalism springs to mind? The philosophy geeks around here might be able to chime in on that stuff...

When every show on the history channel is about the end being nigh etc etc - that's not helpful... feeds it ya know? I have a feeling this sort of thinking is quite rampant thanks to the 2012 hoopla - but I'm not certain there is a clinical term for it. Maybe from a socialogical perspective there is - but as far as it being it's own thing in psychological terms - I don't think so.

Obviously, I don't know you or him - but devaluing what he is choosing to do for work because there isn't as much money in it - that's sad to me... At least he is working - and if he's more interested in learning a trade, for whatever reason, a hardware store seems like a good place to start. There certainly is value in the trades - especially if that is what one would rather be doing IMO. Money isn't everything. Job titles aren't everything.

Your situation seems complex. I absolutely appreciate that. Just throwing out my 2 cents from what little I see here.

Good luck to you both.

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The DSM IV talks about it as a "feeling of impending doom."

Is that what that means? I thought it was something else. Like when I have anxiety attacks and think/feel that something terrible is going to happen soon.

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